So, for all of you who don't believe in pursuing the glory of the Creator, what good UNSELFISH reasons do you have for dating and getting married.
Just curious.
2007-12-19 14:58:41 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Er, if you're dating and getting married in order to "pursue the glory of the Creator", you're a pervert. I hope to hell you're admitting to that before you lead some poor person on too far.
I date because I enjoy the company and the opportunity to learn new things and to share what I know, and of course for the wild untamed explosive sex. If I get married, it'll be for love - a privilege not shared by much of the world, and therefore not something to take lightly.
2007-12-19 15:05:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 14⤊ 2⤋
Funny how you high & mighty religious types look down on everyone who doesn't agree with you with "curiosity", as if we were an odd science experiment. The Nazis in Auschwitz did the same thing with Jews; are you the same as they are?
Why is my marriage better without God? Because my wife, my relationship with her, our feelings towards each other, the love that we share, the activities we enjoy together, the warmth we give each other each night, the laughter, the arguments, and the eleven years of happiness we have shared are REAL. We support each other and allow the other one to be the person they want to be by unselfishly supporting each other's goals in life.
If you want a more general reason, then it's because tens of thousands of years ago, BEFORE Christianity existed, morality and relationships were based on the same thing every species on the planet procreates-- for the survival of the species. Anonymous A can't seem to understand that people existed LONG before someone made up God.
Basing a marriage on something imaginary makes the realtionship imaginary as well. How sad are those people trapped in unhappy marriages just because "God" said so? People like Ted Haggard, who, despite being "cured," will ALWAYS be a gay man in a Christianity enforced marriage, and will eventually commit suicide.
Since divorce rates among Christians are the same if not HIGHER than the rest of the population, apparently God doesn't count for YOU people either.
2007-12-20 01:00:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who ever told you that only Christians pursue the glory of the Creator?
2007-12-19 15:49:59 · answer #3 · answered by yutsnark 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd love the person who I'm dating/married to and care for there happiness and well-being. You capitalized UNSELFISH because you think us "non-believers" are going to list the selfish reasons.......us atheists, and any other kinds of "non-believers", can love even though we don't have any of the same deity(ies) (or we just don't have any), you know.....
2007-12-21 10:10:52 · answer #4 · answered by ♠I Did My Time♠ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am agnostic and have never married nor do I have children and rarely date, so what do those circumstances prove? However, what is the connection between atheism or nontheism or other theisms than Christianity and dating and marriage? Is marriage only for Christians?? Why should the creator feel that just those who are Christians are unselfish enough to date and marry? I do not understand your question, apparently.
2007-12-19 15:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by Lynci 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
That depends on your definition of "unselfish." I can make everything look like selfish interest if I want to. Why do you "pursue the glory of the Creator?" Is it so that you'll find God's favor, thus going to Heaven and avoiding eternal damnation? How selfish of you.
What about mutual attraction and love? Selfish or not, is there any other reason to date/ get married?
2007-12-19 15:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by Pull My Finger 7 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Your "unselfish" qualification reeks of self-righteousness. Considering that even St. Paul encouraged people to get married rather than "burn," it seems that Christianity has an extremely well documented place for self-serving reasons to get married.
That said, these are the reasons I (as a gay man) have for dating and getting married:
1. Connection and companionship
2. Mutual support and caring across the life span
3. Financial stability
4. Joining of families
5. Promoting shared adventures
6. Shared sexual exclusivity
In addition for many couples the following are important:
7. Co-parenting.
8. Mutual challenges and competition
9. Protection
And just to let you know, I have already cared for one spouse until his death from cancer 7 years ago. There is no more intimate or awesome responsibility than to help someone you love until their body just gives out. And imposing a deity takes away from the intrinsic dignity of the process.
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2007-12-19 15:23:26 · answer #7 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Just because someone is not a Christian does not mean that they do not believe in a God or Goddess that teaches that marriage is a good thing.
One of my Matron Goddesses, Hera is a guardian of marriage and other committed relationships. The other, Hestia, is a guardian of Hearth and Home.....
Is honoring my Goddesses unselfish enough for you?
2007-12-19 15:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anne Hatzakis 6 · 8⤊ 2⤋
To create a family. For the emotional security. To give my child emotional security (I got married first though)
The Creator wasn't married, so how would this be pursuing his glory?
2007-12-19 15:09:42 · answer #9 · answered by s7e28w81 5 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Dating: for my pleasure, companionship, human interaction, mental health.
Marriage: well, you have me there. I never planned nor had any children, and have now, two marriages later, learned that I am not suited to a permanent live-in relationship.
Unselfish? Well, I'll quote my own Deity's teaching:
"All acts of love and pleasure are My rituals."
2007-12-19 15:07:49 · answer #10 · answered by Deporodh 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋