My dad sucks, he wants nothing to do with me. I thought me not talking to him for a year would change him and make him want to see me, but ignoring is only making me upset. So what should i get him for xmas? Something not so nice, but legal, any suggestions? lol
2007-12-19 14:30:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I agree. Any Dad who would ignore his precious daughter SUCKS big time! You are also quite correct that the only person you are upsetting by ignoring him is YOURSELF!
I am afraid that getting something for your dad that is a reflection of your feelings towards him right now probably would have as much impact on him as did your campaign of silence from the past year.
The kind of man who would want to have nothing to do with his daughter, just isn't the kind of guy who would get it.
Sorry :-(
Every daughter deserves to have her dad take her in his arms every chance he gets, & tell her how beautiful, & special she is, & that he'll love her & protect her always.
You deserve that too, it's not fair that you got stuck with a dad who isn't capable of showing his love for his little girl, and I feel sad that you don't get to have that.
You have a right to be angry with your dad, it's HIS responsibility to reach out to his child(ren).
What I wish for you this Christmas, is that you can free yourself of the anger you have for your dad. It doesn't mean that you have to forgive him. It's just that angry emotions sap your energy, and make it harder to live a happier life.
If you can learn to accept that he is what he is (a lousy father) & that you won't change him no matter what you do, then maybe you can find some peace in that.
So try to have a MERRY CHRISTMAS in spite of him.
Meanwhile go to the dollar store, & find the simplest Chritmas card you can, & send him that. It's about all that he deserves from you, & even that's stretching it.
2007-12-19 15:07:20 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know all the details but maybe talk to you mom if she is alive. The best thing we can give each other is time. If right now that seems impossible, try and work a way that some day it will be possible. What I mean is don't give up in your efforts to reconsile with your dad. One day it will be worth it. I will pray for you and just take one day at a time.
2007-12-19 14:42:18 · answer #2 · answered by Mike S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use colored pipe cleaner wire (that furry looking stuff used in crafting). Make 23 chromosomes. Place them in a box & send it to him with a card that reads, "Since the only thing you've ever given me is 23 chromosomes, I'm returning them back to you so that I now don't owe you anything."
2007-12-19 14:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine951951 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
how about a week in jail for not paying child support!
You don't owe him anything! He was the adult in the relationship and HE chose NOT to be a part of your life. Don't feel guilty about this. Get on with your life - go to college, and be happy!
2007-12-19 14:49:39 · answer #4 · answered by Empress Jan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him something nice! A dad is a gift and you never know when you might loose him... and if you get him something nice then maybe he will be surprised or impressed. If you don't want to get him anything get him a gift card to target.
2007-12-19 14:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by Maria 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would give him nothing.. nothing at all. Get yourself some counseling over the abandonment issues and move on. I had a loser dad.. and he died a loser too.
2007-12-19 14:55:08 · answer #6 · answered by BeeBee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write him a letter and tell him why you are upset with him. Tell him for Christmas, you want a DAD, not a pot-head. Or...basically, you know?
2007-12-19 14:41:27 · answer #7 · answered by Pumpkin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.Just send him a Christmas card and tell him politely how you feel and that you wish things were different .
Try to get over it though - don't waste your life on something that may never happen
2007-12-19 15:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by flip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him a Christmas card and even if you have to lie to do it tell him that you love him.It might make him stop and think.
2007-12-19 14:39:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Statement stating how much Child Support he owes you.
2007-12-19 14:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by Sunday's Best 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋