Can I find out the name of my parents?

Question

I'm 18 years old and I'm spanish.
I was adopted when as a child and the only thing I know is that my biological parents were scottish, but nothing else.
How could I do to find out about my real family?
My step parents won't tell me nothing.

Answer 1

Fengirl2 has told you the route which you need to go down in order to find out your blood parents. However, from experience this is not a quick process. Both myself and my husband have done this, with different results at the end of it all. You do have to be prepared for disappointment, as not all people who have had their children adopted want any contact. Some however do.
You will need your Birth Certificate. Even though you have been adopted by Spanish adoptive parents there will be records in the UK of your Birth, and the Court Case allowing the adoption., and immigration papers to take you to another Country even though Spain is part of the EU union.
If you contact the General Register office, the info is below, they can be very helpful if you explain circumstances.

General Register Office Address Certificate Services Section
General Register Office
PO Box 2
Southport
PR8 2JD
Phone number Certificate Information line
0845 603 7788
Text phone Typetalk
18001 08456 037 788
Email address [e-mail] Website (opens new window) http://www.gro.gov.uk
Opening Hours Monday to Friday from 8.00 am to 8.00 pm. Saturdays from 9.00 am to 4.00 pm

Good luck in your quest, both my husband and myself have had contact with our blood parents, and we are a lot older than you, your records are sure to be found easily.

Answer 2

Your adoptive parents, you mean. I suppose there is an adoption board in Scotland that you can approach for more information, but it's a long process.

I suppose you could sit down and explain to your adoptive parents that you are going to do this with or without their help, but you would prefer to do it with their help. You could also point out that you are only looking for the people who made you, but that you still consider them (your adoptive parents) to be your Mum and Dad in the true sense of the word - they really, when you think about it, right?

Give them some time to absorb this, you won't get a reaction right away, they will need to be softened up. Also, you yourself may need to seek counselling of some kind, you don't know the circumstances of your birth mother, and what you find might be a shock to you, and her too. I knew a guy who had been adopted, and who learned that his mother was a prostitude in London, and he never learned who his father was.

I wish you all the best with this. It's a long road.

Answer 3

It hasn't been mentioned, but there is a system whereby Birth parents can make a formal Registration saying that they are willing to be found.
Social Services Adoptions Officers will be able to tell you how to find out if your Birth Mum, once you know her name, is on this register.
Following on from the above advice - can I suggest that once you have your original Birth Certificate and manage from that to find your Birth Mother, that you ask someone else to contact her first so that it won't come as too much of a shock to be confronted by you.

Answer 4

They probably have no idea who your parents were. They, the parents, may also not want to be contacted. There is a good chance that your mother did not know for sure who your father was.

That being said, there are numerous organizations whose main purpose is reuniting children like you with your parents, if the parents want that to happen.

You will need more than that your parents were Scottish. You will need to know from where you were adopted and probably your actual date of birth for a start. If you can tell me where you were adopted from, I may be able to find one of these groups in that area.

Answer 5

Do you know the name your mother gave you? Do you have an idea what region you came from? Try and apply for your birth certificate either the adoptive birth cert or your Spanish birth cert, were you adopted in Spain or Scotland? There are organisations who might be able to help you as well.

Answer 6

You have a right under UK law to be told who your birth parents were. You need to contact social services in the county from which you were adopted. See this website as well:
http://www.ukbirth-adoptionregister.com/

Answer 7

youre going to have to find out WHO put you up for adoption and take it from there

Answer 8

try geneology.com or your local mormon temple they keep records that are so extensive!