Drinks with your boss?

Question

i just went to my company x-mas party. It was nice, but my boss kept commenting on the fact that i wasn't drinking a lot... she didn't do that with anyone else there? She made a few sly remarks almost to pressure me to drink more. Personally, i know how drinking at work parties can go sour... so i was just keeping it cool. What's the deal with the random pressure though? this ever happen to you?

p.s. i had 2 glasses of wine and some ppl had 1 or none

Answer 1

good for you to avoid booze at the company party! it can indeed result in saying or doing things you later regret. as for the boss, if she's half mature she'll accept that you prefer to stay in control of yourself. she herself may be a bit of boozer, so you should probably avoid making remarks that would sound like you're judgmental of alcoholics. she is the boss after all.

don't drink because someone else is pressuring you to do so, no matter who they are. people can have plenty of fun without it and in the long term you'll come out smelling like a rose while those who get drunk will not.

Answer 2

Maybe she has a particular reason to want you to get a little tipsy... some questions about other people in the office maybe, or something you were working on recently? Whatever her reason, you were totally right to watch your alcohol intake, especially with anyone you know professionally. Pressuring anyone to drink more than they are comfortable with is WAY out of line.

Answer 3

They just don't want you to be a prude. Or they are planning on going over the top and want to make sure you come with them.

Answer 4

He/she probably finds you attractive or they are scheming to undo you by encouraging you to drink irresponsibly in order to subvert your career. I would avoid this person outside of work.

Answer 5

"I don't drink" is an easy way out. I use this because it's true. You could also say.... "Oh... I had quite enough" as your boss wouldn't be counting.