My son plain out wont do his homework!!!!?

Question

I tell him do his homework over and over, I ground him, I talk to his teacher and so much more and he just wont do his homework!! What should I do??

Answer 1

So if he isn't doing homework, what IS he doing? If he's not laying on his bed, looking around at his completely bare room since you've taken EVERYTHING away from him then you are obviously the problem. He should have no extra curricular activities and no toys/possessions other than his clothes - and those are basic not name brand or trendy of course. When he starts doing his homework he can earn back his things but until then I advse you to go strip his room of everything and cancel any activities other than school. He gets up in the morning, goes to school and comes straight home. If his grades improve by the next report card he can earn back priveleges etc. Be the boss - if you don't start now he will continue to make his own rules and walk all over you and eventually get into even more trouble.

Answer 2

Okay have you tried asking him why he wont do it.

I know for my brother he didn't do it because he couldn't read due to dislexia. It's a reading problem.

It could be your son doesn't understand or comprehend what he's reading.

So instead of just telling him, sit down make a positive effort, tell him okay you have a b and c subjects for homework which do you wanna start with. Start there and work your way through with him. This may help him get motivated to do the homework. When he's done compliement him on all the work he did.

Never tell him it was to much work or theres alot of work. Dont mention the amount of work. And when you finish one subject, take a 5 minute brake and then start the next one.

you should see an improvement in your child.

Answer 3

When I was in school many moons ago I was the same way. I really struggled. My mom and would go round and round. Finally she had me tested my sophmore year in HS and they found that I was ADD (long before it was a typical diagnosis) and had a mild form of dyslexia. With some basic skills classes and a tutor I went from a 2.1 grade point average to a 3.5 by the end of the year. I hated doing the home work until I learned some addtional skills which made things much easier.

By the way back when I was diagnosed with ADD, there were not medications ready avaiable so my mother was forced to find other options. If you find that this is the case for you son, look in to non-prescription solutions first.

Answer 4

If I were in your shoes (and I have been) I would give him a choice. Either he does his homework before he goes outside (or whatever he most enjoys that is not necessary for his survival) or he does not go.
I watched this video called how to win at parenting without beating your kids with Barbara Coloroso. It was funny and full of good advice. It was made a long time ago, but seems to be effective.

Answer 5

Well, sometimes it takes them having to repeat a grade for them to get the picture. I used to NEVER do home work. Seriously, in fifth grade... The first three six weeks, I had 32 missing assignments. My dad grounded me from EVERYTHING. Un-hooked my nintendo. Didn't allow me to watch movies or tv, everything. And I had to make up all of those assignments.

Kids just don't understand that they can and will fail. When they realize that they'll be sitting in school forever, or they'll be working at a fast food joint, then they get better. Once I got to the 6th grade, I started getting my act together. Then, I started making pretty good grades.

Good luck. Just take away something he enjoys alot. Also... Get the teacher to write down all his homework assignments and sign it. Then, you make sure he comes up with all of those each night and make sure you see and look at it. That's what happened to me also.

Answer 6

It would help if we knew how old he was but I'm going to guess he is around a sophomore in highschool. I am 16 years old and I took my California proficiency exam to get out of highschool early. I just didn't enjoy my time there and I literally had 0 motivation to do anything. I'm not stupid and I still managed decent grades (mostly b's with one or two c's) but i really felt like i was wasting my time. Right now I am working full time at one job and part time at another, I am going to be going to college nxt semester. so perhaps highschool just isnt for your son? I was constantly punished but i didnt care what my parents did to me. I didn't do it because of lack of motivation, not because i wanted to defy my parents or anything of the sorts. Perhaps his school has a college connect program? Basically college connect allows a student to go to college for his jr or senior year, but he is still enrolled at the highschool, is allowed to attend all the events, but he has college classes that he is allowed to pick. There are 1 or 2 mandatory classes and 1 on campus class for your son but this is a good alternative if he isnt motivated in highschool. I would love to talk to you more about it if you have the time so feel free to drop me an email! good luck!

Answer 7

If punishment wont work try the reword system, like at the end of the week if he dose his homework go out and eat or money, money always works so show him people get reworded for good work.

Real Motivation

Answer 8

Or you could look into homeschooling... most homeschooled kids don't get homework since mom/teacher can see how they're doing. Of course, you'd still have to discipline him to sit down with you every day and learn the lessons. Goodluck!

Answer 9

Have you considered other possibilities?

Your son may have vision problems. If that's the case, he may not realize his vision isn't like everyone else's, and be convinced he's too stupid to do it, when all he needs is a pair of glasses. It might be something more serious, like Dyslexia.

It may be neither attitude nor psychological. There may be a physical cause that can be fixed.

Answer 10

umm maybe u could try bribing him a bit like with little things. or convince him to do his best and try his best [always!]. make sure he knows that u care and think that doing homework is for the best of him. give him some kinda pep talk. hopefully he'll understand, listen to you then do his homework. =]