Hey. So, obviously its Christmas time. And last year, in my first year of middle school, I made a bunch of unforgettable friends. I wanted to get them all small presents, like earrings, hair bands, candy canes, and lip-gloss. Just to show I care (major sale on the earrings, they weren’t expensive) and my moms being so horrible about it!! I’ve saved up more than a couple thousand dollars in birthday, Christmas, Easter, etc. money. Its ALL MINE but she’s acting like such a, dare I say it, *****. I just wanted to get them small things. They're my friends! I wouldn’t be here without them; I would have run away by now. And my mom shook her head and I was like "What?" and she's like "Well, you're turning out like Sheila (my aunt, her sister) she used to spend a fortune (what I’m spending isn’t a fortune!) on other people." Normally, I would find that a compliment, seeing as it says I’m generous, but my aunt lived with her mom for like 45 years, got fired from a crappy job, and can’t quit smoking. And I was like “Thanks mom, you’re telling me I’m going to grow up like her ( I mentioned all the stuff about the job, smoking, etc.) and my mom was like “Well you are.” She’s so horrible. I just want to be nice to people, make them happy. Its MY money I want to spend, NOT HERS. That money is from all the years of birthdays I gave up my presents by saving money in the bank. I don’t understand. I just want to make this holiday special for the people I care about.
2007-12-19 12:24:46 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thank you so much for all of your answers. I appreciate you all taking the time to try and help me with my issue. Thanks very much.
2007-12-19 13:54:11 · update #1
WOW your mom sounds pretty bah-humbug. When I was your age I would always buy my friends little things. It is your money and you seem pretty responsible, since you saved all that money over the yrs. I think you were in the right and maybe your mom is getting overwhelmed by the holidays.
2007-12-19 12:38:09 · answer #1 · answered by mutant_blonde 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your mother is definitely depressed, possibly from when your birth father left or divorced. or some other reason, bills, love etc And the men she with now aren't doing anything it sounds to make things better. You sound like a really great person, and do not ever forget that. From what I can read you are like the most intelligent one in the house right now. Another question is are you close to any other relatives that live near by or do they all live far away,, like aunts or uncles, or others and surely they could lend a hand ??? or why have they not ?? You should also love yourself for what your doing, it's not easy I know. Your being robbed of your childhood, sounds like your about 15 going on 40 !!! Maybe you could keep a journal, if that's something you may do or would be interested and give yourself a pat on the back for all you do... Also try to take some time for your own private time. Just keep your head up, and remenber there are people who do care about you, and better days are coming. ******** HUGGGSSS ******
2016-04-10 08:36:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just discuss with your mum what you were planning and give her the specifics (eg give her the number of friends and there names and what you plan to get each one of them and how much it will cost etc.....). This will make her feel in control of the situation and will also make her feel a bit more secure about where your money is going. I no it seems pointless as it is your money and your decision but it may just work therefore it will be worth it. If all else fails and your mum wont let you spend your money I made all my friends nicely iced and wraped ginger bread men this year and they loved them. Well anyway hope this helped. Have a grat christmas!
2007-12-19 12:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, but I'm with your mom. You should limit presents to only your closest buddies and that generally is only one or two. While being generous is a wonderful thing, too many women don't learn when they are young that it can backfire big time.
Give them a great card or make something for them, if you are really inspired. I used to make sugar cookies and give them to my closer friends. They will likely not reciprocate (which is yet another story).
2007-12-19 12:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
then go buy them the small gifts.
christmas doesn't have to be difficult... happy holidays!
2007-12-19 12:42:23 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋