Triple question for women only please ! WHY ? WHY ? WHY ?

Question

{ 1 } Why the " can conferences " what is talked about and why in public restrooms ?
{ 2 } Why is it you say you love a guy but always want to change him doesn't love mean you want him for what he is ?
{ 3 }Why do the good women always seem to pick the ones who treat them like s*** and hold on for dear life end up supporting the bastards and lying for them defending them even to the point where your own family will have nothing to do with you ? Eventually even getting to the point that when you do move on you seem top need being s*** on so much you go out of your way to aggravate the next ones so much they drop you as damaged goods ? And complain about it !

Please I know for a fact that I and many other men would love the feminine view on these questions as well as many others ! this is not meant to offend just educate us thanks to all that answer !!

I know this isn't the correct section but the one yahoo suggested was " transgendered , lesbian ' bisexuals " i didn't think it fit there either and intend to post this question again in other sections { just not that one ! } .

perky tried to say it quietly but you don't allow email I didn't want to embarrass you but maybe they know who you dated before and with you mistrust of all the good ones are being pushed away ! Maybe a little more openess would help ?

I asked about women being treated like s*** because I see it all the time a gal at the corner store as nice as can be works hard and has a real turd who spends all she earns and treats her like dirt another rides the bus to work every morning pretty and sweet just turned 18 and has a bf who stays on the couch and watchs the same movie every day she thinks it is cute !! blech !! makes me want to barf !!!!! See this often and these girls don't seem that shy and don't seem stupid in other ways it confuses me and makes me more than a little crazy as my ex-wife was one who was a well I won't go there as I am often not believed { I don't have to lie the truth is sick enough } mainley I want to understand and this forum is one where we can be honest because we don't have to see the other person everyday and wonder what do they think about what I told them ???

Wyvern many other people think these are nice people also and have told them to get out while they can { including women I know } !

Answer 1

One at a time, I'll be right back.

1. We just go together in case we have to wait in line we have a friend. Or it is a 'well I don't have to go now but I might as well so we don't have to stop again.'

We talk about everything. guys, work, kids, sex, periods, hair, clothes, and everything.


2. What do you mean by change? Do you mean subtle changes, like 'chew with your mouth closed', or big changes like, 'you need to make more money'.

At our age, yours and mine, people are pretty much who they are. Speaking only for me, if I found someone who loved me, and I loved him, my whole life would change for the better.

People who have not known me for very long do not know a really happy Sharon because I am just not.


3. NONE of the women I know would ever support any loser. No way!!! We are all independent women who don't NEED anyone to take care of us. Most of us would love to find an equal.

You are talking about weak women who think they need a man to complete themselves. They will settle for losers rather than be alone. Weak women disgust me.

I would rather be alone, and I am, than allow some ******** man to treat me like $hit.

Answer 2

1. Because we need to talk about what's going on in the situation we're in, whatever that may be - a date, at a bar, at a club, a movie, whatever. Usually it's nothing major unless the men or other women we're with are being real jerks. Then we discuss what we think about it, and then we decide what we're going to do about it, if anything.

Or, sometimes none of the above, we just go in to do our makeup and talk about what a good time we're having. Nothing major. However IF there is any judging of our dates that is to go on, this will be the time it happens. As well as an "after-conference' on the phone or whatever, for a final wrap-up.

2. No. Love doesn't mean you want him for what he is - at least not JUST for that. It means you want him for what he is now AND for the potential he carries TO BE. A woman who truly loves a man will help him develop that potential that he might not be using, and help him develop into the best man he can be.

On the other hand, some women take that potential and grind it into the ground, use it to wrap a man around their finger and demean him and nag him to death.

So make sure you choose the type of woman who will be supportive and loving, yet firm about helping you develop your potential to help you be the best man you can possibly be. There ARE women out there like that. I hope you have found one, or will find one if you haven't.

3. Because these women have actual mental issues, such as Co-Dependency and others. These women are damaged, do not judge all of womankind by them. If these women were to realise that they are damaged, and seek help to fix themselves, you would see a lot more of the type of woman I described in question 2 (the positive one), than you would see of the type you're describing here.

Hope this helps!

Answer 3

1. Support. Women usually go to the bathroom together if there are 2 or more woman because they fix their makeup, hair, clothing,etc., and need some reassurance that they look okay before gracing the company of men. Sometimes we go to the restroom to run past a friend a seemingly left-handed compliment given by a clueless guy.
2. My husband always complains about this, especially when it comes to clothes. I keep telling him, " I just saw so much potential!"
3. I hear you, brother! I am ashamed to say I married 2 such blankety-blanks before meeting my husband of 18 years. I think it has to do with maternal feelings. No one would want that particular person, and if I could just show him how it feels to be loved, he could be such a better person, blah, blah, blah. Martyrdom is what I call it now.
A wise friend once told me, "There is a lid for every pot." I am glad I kept searching for the lid that the Lord intended me to have. Oh, yeah, by the way, the Lord is ALWAYS the main ingredient for a good marriage!

Answer 4

Ok - sorry. I'm a guy and I need to answer this.

1. Women get their identity, their essence, their emotion from COMMUNICATION! Most women cannot get their daily need of 10,000 words from a guy, so they go to the other talking machines. If you want to learn about women, sit in a corner and listen in on a group of 4 women at a table in a restaurant. As a guy, you will not be able to comprehend the 4 different conversations going on at the same time. They do!
(Men are waffles - women are spaghetti. I'll say no more)

2. Women are love machines - men are not. Women know EXACTLY how they want to be loved and they are not afraid to push that envelope to "change" a guy to her way of loving. (See The 5 Love Languages - Gary Chapman!)

3. Why do women hold on to men that treat them like sh_ _ ?
Because women want and crave EMOTION from their man. Most guys just come home and flop around and don't talk. You are asking for destruction. See #2 above. Also, seek out the knowledge in the book - "Love and Respect" (Emerson Eggerichs) You give her Love -she'll give you RESPECT. You are from different planets (John Grey - " Women are from Venus -Men are from Mars)
Men - find the courage to venture out there where she is and allow her essence to fill your relationship. It's a win-win situation.

Answer 5

These are three immortal questions that will transcend time.

1) Bathrooms echo and make us sound vindicated.

2) The true can be said for men, however I've never tried to change a guy unless his actions were directly harming me.

3) People want what they can't have. Then if a girl is dumb enough to apply this to changing an a**hole to a good guy, she is an idiot, and deserves every last bit of crap that guy does to her.

People are attracted most to the likeness of their selves. So if she's with a jerk, she probably is one as well or she in someway feels she deserves it.

Answer 6

Well, it would certainly help me a lot spiritually to have those questions answered, although it would help if you seemed a bit less desperate when asking.
My present situation in that aspect of my life is SELF HATE.
I used to be a nice guy, no woman was even remotely interested in me, no good women, no bad women. I became desperate until I became the boyfriend of an innocent girl whom I didn't love (thus becoming your proverbial jerk). She broke up with me 3 months after, but not because she didn't want me but because she had some issues to deal with, and didn't want the relationship in the way. This relieved me for I was becoming increasingly anxious about being with a woman I did not care for. But eventually other women came into my life, and I used them as well. Suddenly there seemed to be lots of them, all so interested in me, so needy, so in love!!! It has reached a point where I couldn't take it anymore:
I hate myself for using them, but I also resent them for tempting me into using them, for not being careful, for letting me hurt them.
I am now alone (still hiding from a couple of them), and being lonely sucks, but being a jerk sucks even more. I do not know what to do next...

Do not let it happen to you.

Answer 7

1) I've always believed it's actually a primitive instinct that women go to the bathroom in pairs. If you're off in the woods by yourself with your goods exposed while you're doing your business, you're in a really good position to get attacked and raped by one of the males of the tribe (or any other tribe) if you're alone.

2) Immaturity. Any woman who has taken the time to know herself will know what she will and will not tolerate in a man, and will be well aware that you can't change anyone. The best you can do is hope to inspire them to change themself. It takes a long time to learn this.

3) I'm guessing the good women aren't all that good and you're being blinded to their true natures. This is true of a lot of men. I have many close male friends, and I've always told them to introduce me to their paramours early on, because I'll tell them if the relationship is worth it. Men don't see women as they truly are. Other women do.

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Answer 8

1. The only people I take with me to the bathroom are my 3 small children and believe me, I would rather not take them. Girls go to the bathroom together so they won't be alone, not so they can talk about you.

2. I don't want to change the things about my husband that are uniquely him, but I wouldn't mind it if he would change how frequently he helps out with the dishes.

3. My husband treats me like a princess. My parents love him more than they love me. LOL.


Generalizing and turning yourself into a victim is probably why you are having a difficult time with the ladies.

Answer 9

1) I actually like going alone but my best friend always drags me with her...im not sure why.

2) I dont want to change men...most need changeing but i dont try to change them.
3) I dated a totally a** and it was because i was shy and no one else really paid attention to me. Know I am out of that hell hole relationship and dont realy trust men. I am not ugly I am actually pretty but the good men must be shy or scared because only the a**holes come talk to me.

Answer 10

1) We talk about you.
2) Everyone wants to change the people they're with, the mature ones can try to overcome that reflex. It seems by your questions that you would like to change the women you know. :-)
3) You're a bit jaded on that point. Some women do that because they don't have enough self esteem.