Meeting boyfriends parents for THE FIRST TIME the day before X-mas!! How do I make GOOD 1st IMPRESSION?

Question

I dont know what I should bring with me. My boyfriends having his family over for lunch/dinner and Im meeting his parents and a few of his aunts/uncles for the first time so Im extremely nervous, even though I know I shouldnt be. I want to know what I should bring with me that looks nice? A dessert platter? I was gonna bring wine but my boyfriend said none of them drink. :-(

Also,as dumb as this sounds,Im really nervous about conversation...Im scared Im gonna lock up and become overly shy. What can I say during conversation that can keep it moving smoothly and get them (and myself) to engage more openly?

PLEASE HELP!!!! Im stressing b/c this means a lot to me and I want them to like me. Please only offer me nice/helpful advise. Thank you.

Answer 1

Be yourself! Just be polite, and answer questions that they ask you. Tell a story or two. Or, if you're shy, don't. But if you talk too much, you might end up embarassing yourself.
Don't worry about running the conversation. If things slow down, ask a question about someone's job or hobbies or something. Or be like, "Did (boyfriends name) tell you about the time when...?" then tell them a story. You'll probably be nervous, but try and keep your cool. You'll just have to wait and see, huh?
I hope I helped!

Answer 2

Be sure to wear something nice. It should be new or atleast clean, classy (Not revealing, his family might get the wrong idea) and be sure to wear a little jewlery. It should look well put together. Maybe do your hair. Go the extra mile, first impressions are how people will remember you by and you want it to be positive. Maybe bring a cake, or a dessert that a majority of the family likes (Ask your boy friend!) Practice talking in the mirror I know this sounds stupid and corny but it really will help, be prepared for any questions they may ask think of answers for random questions. Even if your not, atleast pretend to be confident. It is pretty easy to fool others this way. This is very important. Also, use your mannors. Say excuse me, thank you, your welcome, and chew with your mouth closed! Don't talk about yourself too much to the point you sound conceited, but dont keep shut, this will make people think your too conservative. I know this sounds hard to believe, but they are looking foward to meet you, no one is perfect and I am sure they arn't easy. His parents may even be nervous to meet you. Ask your boy friend to help you, he knows his family and can help you. I hope that I helped in some way or another, good luck and don't stress too much!

Answer 3

Somehow or another he's got to go to your house; then you can borrow mom and dad's car and go wherever you like. If what you say is true, your parents have no reason to think you'll suddenly morf into a different person, and they won't expect you to wind up pregnant and drunk. Of course, they don't know the guy. He's here on a temporary break, and he may have every intention of getting inside your pants. The other soldiers in his outfit all brag about how much sex they have when they away from things, and he's probably interested in proving (or trying) his own manhood.

Answer 4

As I read your story , I was thinking that your boyfriend was the best source of information about his family.He is the one who can tell you what each member is like,what they like, how to make conversation with them, their likes and dislikes, and how to impress them.He knows his own family better than any one on Yahoo Answers and can also help to get you calm and tell you what to bring if anything.I can understand your current state of agitation but your strongest virtue right now is to just remain the person that you have always been. Do not try to change to suit new circumstances because , once your potential in-laws are gone , you will then have to change all over again. I know you're not a chameleon. Talk to your boyfriend and I suspect everything will work out fine. Good luck to you .

Answer 5

Wow, I think you are stressing way too much! Just focus on being yourself, your boyfriends relatives just need to see what makes him love you. Bring a nice bouquet of seasonal flowers or their favorite cake! As to conversation, if you do flounder and become ultra-shy, just start talking about your boyfriend, maybe ask about an embarassing story from his childhood.

Answer 6

Okay sweetie! The first thing you do is calm down. The second thing you do is be your self don't clam up what ever it takes. If he really likes you or loves you most likely they'll like you. Bring something that you know that your bf knows they like just bring it in a calm down to earth way, just don't bring it up out of nowhere. Other than that you'll be fine. Take your time, don't worry.......

Answer 7

awww iv met my bf's parents, and the first time i was sooooooooooooooooooooooooo nervous more over so shyyyy i dint even look at them prperly coz my eyes were lowered with shyness! lol jus b urself, get ur boyfriend to help u and help u in the conversations, thts wht my boyfriend did n it helped me feel comfortable, if u feel slighlty nervouse wen they ask u abt something u dont know jus smile and say i dnt no or ill see if i can find out.

Answer 8

Some kind of dessert would be nice like cookies, brownies, or a fruit salad. stop stressin & just remember 2 be nice, respectful, & yoself. im sure theyll like u :)

Answer 9

I hate getting the jitters about that kinda stuff... I'm sure you'll be fine.. relax.. UNLESS.. you have something to be nervous about?? something you don't want them to know about you? something you're hiding? don't be sooo eager to please, you know people meeting you always sniff that kinda stuff out.:)
whatever you do... DON'T be like Tila Tequila when she went to visit parents of her future lovers!:) YUCK!
hehe.. anyways, just be honest with them.. and don't try to impress as much as be RELAXED..
it's more about the sincerity of the relationship with you and your boyfriend versus you and his folks.