I'm a Catholic and my hubbie is non religious. We married 26yrs ago in a registar office. I've suffered physical and mental abuse within the marriage and be in Women's Aid 4 times. Do you think i'm selfish looking for love or do i put up with abuse. Would God, give me happiness or judge me. I want 2008 to be a happy life for me and their is someone waiting for me to give me, what i want but i'm in a mess, as i'm married. What do i do?
2007-12-19 11:57:05 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Well first of all YES...look for another love. If God wanted you to be with your current husband( he wouldn't abuse you) Maybe it's just not meant to be. I know its probably hard, but it is what you should do. I don't think that is right that Catholics don't believe in divorce (sorry if that is wrong or untrue) but from what I've heard thats how most Catholics are nonsupporting of the idea of divorce . God does not want you to be with someone who treats you badly...believe me on this one. You are absolutely not selfish looking for love, and no do not put up with this abuse...You are worth more than that. I understand that it is hard, and I also understand that you want 2008 to be a happy year( I don't blame you)
My mother had to put up with abuse from my father for about 15 years. Finally she got up the nerve to get a divorce. It was hard on all of us...especially her. But we are making it, and were alive. So take my word.....GET A DIVORCE!!! God would want you to be happy and believe me there is someone out there who is made for you and who will treat you right.
2007-12-19 12:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by Jessy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey if you are not happy then it's time to go....... you shouldn't stay in a marriage for any other reason than love. Do you really think that God would expect you to stay where you are abused and unhappy? I think if you've tried everything that you can to make the marriage work and the abuse continues and you're not happy then leave. Good Luck with that and God Bless and Merry Christmas!
2007-12-19 20:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by Annalise 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm proud of you for sticking to your conviction and to hold to your vows. However, your husband is not. "God hates divorce" as he says in Malachi 2:16 and God also says that you should not be "unequally yoked." Divorce could be your only way out. You do not deserve what you are getting.
It might prove advantageous to move in that direction to FORCE your husband to seek rejeneration. Separations are good for many reasons and the quiet time apart can bring a new spirit to a relationship.
There is a good man inside there or you wouldn't have married him in the first place. He needs to find massive healing and you need to find the courage to forgive him when he comes around to the place of even asking for it. This is not the little "I'm sorry" kind of thing. This is the "one more time and you're going to jail" kind of thing.
FYI - a few years ago in a tiff my wife pulled my hair. (real hard!). She let go and I walked over and called 911. She didn't go to jail, but her attitude changed 100% RIGHT NOW! I am a big guy. I can certainly take of myself. I also understand that I cannot enforce "boundries" on another - even my wife. I know someone that can - and did.
Your marriage boundries are really screwed up and you need someone to come in and reset them. This is not easy and I will pray for you to find the courage to take the necessary steps to rebuild your life. With or without him - you need to work on you!
2007-12-19 20:19:39 · answer #3 · answered by craig b 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leave him or you will end up dead or at least spiritually dead. Your religion shouldn't demand that of you. Most churches will agree that physical abuse is a reason to leave your husband.
Even if marriage wasn't originally about love, it should have been about mutual respect and cooperation.
Something I tell students: Take care of yourself first before helping others. If you don't have the energy to be healthy, you won't have it to give others. Even less if you're dead.
Take care of yourself before looking outside for love. That's first. Get healthy mentally, spiritually and physically, then love will come into your life.
2007-12-19 20:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by Aravah 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And that should be your New Years resolution. To get out of an unhealthy relationship. Anything unhealthy is not good for YOU. God will judge everybody because it is His given right, so you are not the only one He will judge but all of humanity come judgement day. And God wants everyone happy, thats why He is always there to help us acheive happiness, but many times we don't follow the path He wants us to follow and we end up in a rut. Find your path and what God would want of you.
2007-12-19 20:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by SMX™ -- Lover Of Hero @};- 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I personally would have left him years ago... I think you should Leave him...
God doesn't always outright give us what we want...
We have to make the choices that will lead us to where he wants us to be. Ultimately happiness will come to you a thousand fold!
God Bless and have a good year!
2007-12-19 20:04:21 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda C 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
God kicked Sataniel out of heaven. Sataniel tricked angels into coming with him and then set up his own kingdom on earth where he created people (not souls). He could not get those souls to sustain life because they had no soul so he took the light of God and put it in Woman so that she can bear children that will sustain life. Eve... (the giver of life) and Adam (male and female created he them and called their name Adam in the day when they were created -Genesis...)...
Sataniel (Satan) set himself up to look like God and even said (though shall have no other gods before me) which recognized that there were other gods... The tree of life (being knowledge) would have showed us that he was lying and that there was a Father Of All Light (the true God) where our souls really came from... so he forbed of Adam and Eve to eat of it or they will know good from evil (God from Sataniel).
The so called 'serpent' was one of the tricked angels that was with Satan that was trying to tell Adam and eve the truth...
Jesus was sent (God's ONLY begotten son) to tell us the truth about what happened but is why he spoke only in parables on the subject.... to speak freely would have only made people confused and un-trusting of him. Now the truth is out and only those who really seek the answers will know the truth.
Satan is indeed the Great Deceiver and oh how many have been deceived. The Spiritual and the Atheist alike are deceived. And only through Christ's truth and his words will you find you so called "LIFE". read the bible again with this in mind and things start to come more into focus. Listen to what Jesus was really saying .....
everyone has life ...what you seek is 'truth'... Only with that truth do you flail away from reincarnation and damnation on earth as a servant of Satan and return home to the true father of all light (who does not ask you to "SERVE HIM" but to just be with him)
'All these things I have done, you will do also, and greater things' -Jesus Christ
2007-12-19 21:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
since you wernt married in the chruch your not married with in the eyes of the catholic chruch. in fact your liveing in sin. so if you leave him you will no longer be liveing in sin. you will also be doing as god wishes, it is in the bible that a wife should not stay with a husband who abuses her. in fact its one of only four resons given for ending a marrage, the others being cousionagy, adultry, and non consumation
2007-12-19 20:02:30 · answer #8 · answered by stacy o 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
For yourself: NEVER put up with anyone who abuses you..
As for God: He NEVER wants us to live with abusive people..
The choices we make are our own - but at the end of the day NEVER put up with abuse, full stop..
Ask God to guide you.
Best wishes x
2007-12-19 20:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by ;) 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Divorce
2007-12-19 20:01:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋