How do I tell them to move out?

Question

I have been housing a family of 4 for the last 4 years. I was okay at the beginning but now I want my space. Now, they have invited a lady with a child to move in as well. They have been like a family and I have been extremely patient. They began building a house which they have mentioned it is ready for them to move in. Their problem now is that they opened a business and they are again struggling financially. They were discussing renting their new home to help themselves financially. I am about to explode.

Answer 1

You have obviously been extremely nice to them, and they seem to have no idea that you are getting angry (otherwise they wouldn't feel they could invite more people to move in). So if you explode and get all mad at them they're going to wonder where it came from all of a sudden. Try to remember that for you it's been building but for them it will seem sudden. So do talk to them, but try to keep it light. Just say something like you're thinking you'll be needing to make some changes soon, you've loved having them there but you're hoping they can arrange to be in their new house by February, you feel you're at a place in your life where you need to shake things up a bit, try living alone etc. Good luck!

Answer 2

Woah, how can THEY invite someone else to move into YOUR house?! It is not their house, it is not their place to do this! You have been more than patient. You need to set a deadline for them to go. Tell them, since your house is ready, you will need to go within 30 days. You may also need to speak to a lawyer - because they may have accrued rights as tenants, though if their house is ready, it may be better. If they do not go within the allotted time, CHANGE THE LOCKS on the house. You must be firm about this. They sound very financially un-wise - but it is not up to you to guarantee and to manage all their finances, at your expense and loss. They need to live their own lives; don't feel sorry for them, and do not feel committed to doing any more than you have already done. If you want to, you can tell them THEY can take in room-mates to pay them rent, while they still live there. They are treating you like family, all right - like family that is walking all over you. If you simply ask, or wait, it will never happen. You must be insistent, and call a locksmith if you need to. You need to stand up for your own needs; no one else will.

Answer 3

Begin with a statement about how good it's been having an extended family and go right into but now it's time for you to go. If they don't get the message then pack their stuff and put it on the stoop. They are not real friends if they had the gall to invite someone else into your home. They are users and if you don't put an end to this they will use you for ever.

Answer 4

The only way to tell them is to say,"I am sorry but it is time that you moved out. Four years is long enough and now I want my space."
Then give them a deadline to be moved out. I would give them 2 weeks tops. Tell them that you enjoyed their company, but inviting an aditional family to move in without consulting you was not very polite and you take offense to it.
They can now do what ever they want in their own home.

Answer 5

Tell them now that your house is ready you have to moved, I'll expect you gone by the end of January at the latest.Or just palin get a 30 day eviction. Enough is enough

Answer 6

Just tell them that since their home is built you expect them to move out on "X" date, and be done with it...

I don't know how you could stand it this long... and they are asking someone else to move in? I'd lose it.

Answer 7

just tell them, hey i have been elping you out for 4 years, and its time that you step out and face your own problems. then give them till the end of the week to get out, or hit them with an eviction notice

Answer 8

Time to get a handle on your balls and say GET OUT