I was raised in a JW family but was never baptized. For some reasons too long and unclear to explain here, I decided to quit a few years ago. However I am currently on my way back and really enjoy my decision.
In the meantime I got married with a girl I am deeply in love with. However she doesn't share my beliefs. She is not doing any opposition and has not really any problem with it, though it sure isn't exactly what she wishes. It might not be the best thing for a couple not to share religious beliefs, however it is not that bad for now. It might become more of a problem when we will have kids but I am not too worried about this for now.
So, I would really enjoy reading good experiences some of you have had living with a non-JW wife or husband, whether they have eventually got interested or not. I am sure I am not alone in this situation and many of you have encouraging experiences to share!
Thank you! :)
2007-12-19 11:35:00 · 9 answers · asked by Olivier 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
me!!!: Thanks for the advice. This question is really about getting some encouraging experiences from real JWs. I have noticed there are many apostates on here so yes I am careful.
2007-12-20 01:18:45 · update #1
i agree with 'ME!!!' whom ever that is, you really do need to be careful and as 'ME!!!' said, and the brothers' encourage us, we can take ANY problem to Jehovah. he will provide a way out of any tribulation or worry.
but to enlighten you, i know a lovely sister in congregation we moved from and she was married to an unbelieving man. her desire was to become a regular pioneer but auxiliary pioneering was even hard for her because her husband would not let her change to a part time job so she was practically working 24/7. it took a while before her prayers were answered but when they were it was such a joyous moment for her! her perseverance prayers were answered in the sense that her husband allowed her to stop working and provides her with the needed money in order to pursue her long time goal. for a husband who was really opposed, he now welcomes the witnesses to his home and has taken a small interest in the bible.
she tells us that if she had not kept up her fine christian conduct within the family home, she would not have been able to reap the blessings of it.
how faith strengthening! all the best for you!
2007-12-20 08:09:16 · answer #1 · answered by dazy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, for me both myself and my husband are serving Jehovah, however, my mum when she first started a study (while pregnant with me) went through alot of upset caused by my dad's disapproval. He would deliberately come home late and expect his dinner to be ready before she could leave to go to the hall, so many times she was late. He would go out and sleep with other women to "get at her" to try and break her spirit, buuuuutttt!!! He eventually saw that through her studies it was making her a more calm and joyful woman and that nothing he did in a negative way was deterring her, so behind her back he would read the magazines, and do some personal study and eventually a few years later he too came into the truth. So yes it can work. I have a few friends in our congregation who have unbelieving husbands, but they are still happily married, the husbands respect the wives for their faith, i believe even one was said that one benefit is that he knows she would never be unfaithful to him because she is so dedicated to Jehovah!! One sister has two young boys, and although she brought them to the meetings, when they got to a certain age (mid-teens) they both decided they did not want to continue with the meetings, however, the eldest son having been and done his "thing" is starting to study and returning to the meetings. So you really never know just how much the truth affects the children also. All the best with your studies - jehovah will truly bless you in your efforts.
2007-12-20 03:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by ThinkingBee 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I am not even married, but i just wanted to say, Don't allow any of these answers to discourage you from continuing to study the bible (there are many apostates on Y!A) because that in itself is a positive step. AND ALWAYS REMEMBER: You can take any question and ask it of Jehovah through prayer. You know that he will guide you in the right direction as to what to do. Hopefully your example will bring a new sister into the organization. ;)
2007-12-20 00:10:50 · answer #3 · answered by me!!! 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Not a good story here...I married a Baptist ( who studied and went to the hall for almost 2 years) and now he wants all the holidays and other women and he isn't going to be my husband for very much longer.
Jehovah has called me to peace.
It rarely works especially if there are children. The witness wants the children to get eternal life while the non witness wants them to have the temporary fun of all the holidays and parties.
The mother usually brings up the children the way she believes.
2007-12-20 00:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
My parents. She was second generation. He was fresh out of WWII. They never said too much about it but I believe it was just mom being mom in daily life that dad saw and liked the difference between her and what he was used to.
Even though he had disabilities from the war, he eventually served in the congregation in several capacities.
She told me once of dad being influenced by buddies essentially alcoholics. He owned a car so they wanted him to take them drinking. She finally wrapped me in a blanket and climbed into the car with them, dragging the night down for them. Eventually they came to some sense and stopped going out drinking.
She did things mostly without preaching just living.
2007-12-19 19:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by grnlow 7 · 10⤊ 0⤋
My Catholic wife respects the fact that I am Atheist, and vice versa, Sure we argue mockingly at times about whether of not god exists, or is to blame or could have prevented something etc. but by and large we have so much more in common that it doesn't have that much bearing on our relationship with one another, I think that need to have a likeminded spouse is overrated
2007-12-20 19:03:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Mines not good either, no kids but a daily struggle for me, she's holiness.
God is not one to be mocked what a man is sowing he will also reap. We get along at times buuuuutttttttt. Its not the same UNITY that i desperately pray for. She wants kid's i do not for obvious reasons already stated.
Tribulation in the flesh? as the scriptures put it in corint. chapt.7 let me tell you. would i ever do it again? never.ever.ever.
2007-12-20 02:44:32 · answer #7 · answered by ray_clrk 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
My husband became a JW from living with me.
Debbie
2007-12-19 20:59:39 · answer #8 · answered by debbiepittman 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋
It is going to be hard. If you love her and she loves you, then it can work.
I wish you became real Christian instead
2007-12-19 19:40:05 · answer #9 · answered by BaC Helen 7 · 1⤊ 12⤋