He said I was attractive, but then we hooked up and things changed.?
So I hooked up with a guy. A friend, not very close. and we didnt go all the way. Okay?
Lets say because he had difficulties. Now he does not try to hook up anymore, and it's all akward. What is the situation. Him or me I am still attracted to him, but dont want to ask to hook up, if he's not into it. I am going to a concert with him and our friends next week, and I dont know how to act! I feel self conscious. He is also recently divorce and 14 years older than me. I like him a lot I hope us hooking up the 1st time didn'tmake him think different of me. I told him afterwaards Im not usually like that. Which is true.
I dont know why he wouldn't want me anymore . He seems to be hooking up w/ other girls my age and posts pictures of himself on myspace with girls that look plain trashy!
2007-12-19 11:26:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
omg! don't go out with him ever again and try to move on, okay?
-JakeR'sGirl4Ever *(Diane N)*
2007-12-19 11:36:19 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
His ego is in the trash as he should be. Move on my dear.
Listen, life is whey to short to be stumbling over some guy who obviously has a problem in an intimate situation. Cut him loose. Do not go to the concert or any other place until you find out where his head is pertaining to any future relationship with you. Turn the tables on him and step back and see what develops in this screwed up " hook up " or lack
of " hook up " whatever the case.
He is embarrassed about his lack of " getting it up " and is distancing himself in hopes that you will loose interest. So my dear lady, get a clue that you have been and are being played.
Plain and simple. Trust this advice. I spent many years in the motion picture biz and raised 3 daughters. You are worth more that wasting time with this non caring user.
There is a great guy out there and in time you will find him and the happiness you deserve.
Cheers,
The Woodster
2007-12-19 19:43:41 · answer #2 · answered by woodster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you hook up with every guy that says you are attractive?If so then you are the one with the issues;If not then you should feel ashamed for jumping so fast;there's really nothing you Can do at this particular moment but forgive your self and move on;treat this as a lesson well learned;and the next time a guy says that you are attractive just say thank you ,remain attractive and most of all keep your panties on .
2007-12-19 20:21:05 · answer #3 · answered by Juanita T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he felt like you hooking up would damage the relationship. He may have thought that he wanted you in that way but when it came down to it he seen it wouldnt be for the best. Or, he could have been the one with the issues... If i were you I would act like nothing happened... I wouldnt pay him too much attention either. you dont want to come off as desperate.
2007-12-19 19:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by Enchanted One 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lets just say you made a BIG MA STAKE when you hook up with a guy in the first place they get one impression of you a slut. He doesn't want a relationship he just wanted to hook up. It was a one time thing and now its over just move on that's all i can tell you. good luck
2007-12-19 19:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by larissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might be embarrassed too. Don't pressure him and see what happens at the concert. If he is posting pictures with him and others that are trashy maybe you should reconsider weather you really want to hook up with him at all.
2007-12-19 19:32:13 · answer #6 · answered by love my life 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem is simply really he is also feeling ashamed of himself and quit embarrassed to boot. Him having difficulties as you put it made him feel like less of a man and you acting awkward only makes it worse. You got to show him that he is still very attracted to him. Let him see he is still very strong and manly to you.
2007-12-19 19:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by Sekkennight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! He's recently divorced and is out playing the field getting everything he can. He doesn't necessary want to go with you again becuase he's already been there and won't unless you make a thing of it. Furthermore, you sound REALLY young, so stop pushing yourself to be "adult" especially with actual adults!! Stop being dumb.
2007-12-19 19:31:19 · answer #8 · answered by S_Gnat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be glad he had 'difficulties'!
This guy is not emotionally ready to have a proper relationship
If you want to be used as his sex thing - then go ahead - but don't be under any illusion that he cares for you
2007-12-19 19:39:08 · answer #9 · answered by chandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just love how something as personal as lovemaking has now been reduced to "hooking up."
Sad..........
2007-12-19 19:30:42 · answer #10 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a new man if he likes trashey girls. tell him u can hook up with trash but u cant treat me like trash!! :) SHOW HIM WOMEN POWER!!!!!
2007-12-19 19:30:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋