as an atheist I am happy to make friends with different religion and background, in my eyes they are all human and should be loved, even some of their belief is different but they are only trying to make life better for themselves. But some christian friends of mine are quite judgemental about me and my lifestyle, they think i am 'dirty' for living with my boyfriend without marriage, they also have many opinions about me but conveyed in a non verbal way, should i continue be friend with judgemental christians like this, if so, how?
2007-12-19 11:02:03 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Religion teaches their believers than only through their faith can anyone be truly happy and blessed, so they feel it is necessary to convert people by any means.
2007-12-19 11:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I am a christian, and I can say this, we should not set in judgement to those who do not know our Lord. We are supposed to love and witness to those who do not know the Lord. I am sorry you found some judgemental Christians.
While I agree that we shouldnt be living with our sex partners without marriage and partying and carousing, we as Christians should not judge in this area those that do not know the Lord. God will do that.
It is up to you whether or not you choose to stay friends with them. They are messing up an opportunity to show someone the Love of Jesus.
2007-12-19 11:12:06 · answer #2 · answered by Sherry 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes, rules need to be set up in order to salvage a friendship. Often, this means agreeing to not talk about religion, politics, parenting styles, etc.
If both sides cannot commit to agree to disagree and leave the subject alone, it's time to bid adieu and move on without that friend.
2007-12-19 11:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
When some one tells you the truth that's not being judgmental that's what Jesus did he went from place to place telling everyone the truth and allot of people did not like what he was saying but he is GODS living Word ,and speaking the truth only hurt the ones who did not accept the truth.
2007-12-19 11:12:24 · answer #4 · answered by country boy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot follow God's design for your life, you might have to hear things from your friends...things that you do not want to hear.
I have atheist friends. We do not talk about religion. I am sad that they are not saved, but I know I would not be either if I did not accept Jesus Christ ans my Lord and Savior.
It depends how much you want them as your friend. You can ask them not to talk about the faith stuff.
2007-12-19 11:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by Nina, BaC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just have to avoid certain topics or agree to disagree. Part of the fun of relationships is being around people with differences--it certainly makes things interesting.
But if you or they can't put a topic like religion aside, you may have to let them go. Religion isn't everything--there are lots of other things to talk about. If their religion slops over into other topics and they can't see past it to your good points, you won't be able to do anything to get along. They'll just have to be friends with other people who are of the same religion.
You can't change them, they can't change you...and you probably can't change yourself enough to suit them. Even if you did change, they might think you were insincere or desperate or...something you don't want them to think.
It's kinda like with my cat. It severely pisses me off when she scratches my furniture, but I still love her and take care of her and let her sit on my lap. There's enough there to maintain a good relationship.
You have to decide if your relationships are worth it despite the problems.
2007-12-19 11:10:23 · answer #6 · answered by SlowClap 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would end the relationship if they can't accept you for who you are then they aren't worth it. My best friend is a Christian and I am atheist, she doesn't pressure me or tell me how I should live my life. You aren't a bad person and no one should ever make you feel like you don't belong.
2007-12-19 11:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i don't hate all of us nor do I actual have any enemies. There are atheists that i don't constantly trust. I actual have a great style of Christian acquaintances. My spouse is Christian and so is my maximum suitable buddy. the two one in all them settle for me for who i'm and don't problem to lots approximately what i don't think in.
2016-10-02 03:20:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the "Atheist" and "Christian" out of the equation and the answer will be the same. It is difficult to be friends with a judgemental *person* ... particularly when it is YOU they are judging.
2007-12-19 11:06:21 · answer #9 · answered by MyPreshus 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
By not being judgmental yourself towards others. You can not change others. You can teach others through your actions. You do not like certain actions of Christians, Christians do not like certain actions of yours. Tolerance is accepting the disagreement. Yet, still become friends with insights on these disagreements.
2007-12-19 11:06:23 · answer #10 · answered by Lives7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should try your hardest to remain friends with them, and you should voice your opinion that you do not think it is very fair of them to be judgmental of you or to talk behind your back and what not (not very Christian of them, actually....). If you feel that they are disrespectful of you, even after you make it clear that they are being unfair to you, then it is a friendship that is not worth preserving...
2007-12-19 11:06:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋