My husband and I are in the U.S.He's the elder of two sons. We got married few months back, love each other a lot but some of his actions annoy me.He calls his parents twice everyday and update them on what we do and where we go. Its very irritating.On top of it, he expects me to talk with them once in two days.Although we discuss about what we want to do, they seem to have a big influence on him. They really put emotional stress on him. For eg,we want to buy a house in U.S but they always create a scene that we won't come back and we'll settle there. They seem to be considered and consulted with all we do.I also have brother and feel nice when my brother calls home and spends time with us but my parents always gave the lead role to the individual while standing by us. But my in-laws demand to know everything from us and they sometimes draw the bottom line also which my husband has no other go but accept at the end or else they create a big drama. This is making my anger grow inside
2007-12-19 10:34:24 · 5 answers · asked by Another H4 cribber 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If he lets them come between you - they will
Put your foot down and stand firm
Is he a man who has left home and got married - or a little boy still tied to his parents apron strings - he needs to choose!!!
2007-12-19 10:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by chandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is nice that your husband talks to his parents twice a day but come on. When he married you it was to be with you and not tell his parents every thing do. Sounds like your husband has not grown up yet and is still tied to his mothers apron strings. Time for your man to grow up and the two of you live your own life without in-laws demanding to know everything. When you and your husband make love do they need to know when, what time and how many times?
2007-12-19 11:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by johns wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your husband if he married his parents or you. If you are to have a family, then he needs to stop acting like a little boy, and become the man you married. What kind of example is he setting for any kids you might have. Or is he going to ask permission to have kids. Let the In-laws cause Drama, but tell your husband, that you don't want to be involved in any of it, and you are going to refuse to go along with the daily telephone calls. Once a week is fine, then once every two weeks, down to once a month. That is soon enough.
2007-12-19 10:56:14 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a life!! No chance of living your own--if your husband doesn't break the umbilical cord!! And it sounds as if he won't!!! If he will, go ahead and BUY YOUR OWN HOUSE with your own money and tell them that's not up for discussion!!! If he can't do it--it looks like your only options are to just LIVE with it and try to live your own life; or, leave him! OR, try to get him to get involved in marriage counseling!! And individual counseling, if he'll do it!!! He's never individualized from his mother!!! Good Luck!
2007-12-19 11:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by Martell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is dangerous to tell parents/in-laws too much. We don't tell our parents anything about disagreements/fights we have or anything about our financial decisions/situation. It is just better for them to not know -- then they don't have information to give unsolicited advice about.
But with the attitude your husband has -- I don't have a clue what you should do. He doesn't seem to have a problem with telling his parents everything. Good luck . . . it sounds like you might need it.
2007-12-20 13:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋