My husbands parents have 3 children.
My husband and I have supported ourselves through study and working to buy a house, which we are very proud of as neither of us had help from our parents.
Now I am a nurse and he is a tradesman.
His younger sister, who we are very close with, her and her partner chose to have a baby when she was 20, he is now 2 and just beautiful.
Here is my problem. And before I start its not so much about the money, its that my husband notices that his parents do these things and he is upset, and he normally is very laid back.
his paernts buy his sister all things, an oven, a freezer, a microwave, they have helped them do their back yard landscaping, they are always giving them money to pay bills/ mortgage as they fall behind.
My husband and I get none of this support. We both work very hard to make sure our mortgage gets paid, but it means we don't have any spare money left, we just scrape by.
I think it is so wrong that his parents do this.
2007-12-19 10:30:27 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Every body is at liberty to spend,donate,gift,or even throw his own money in the way he prefers.No one should have any rightful grudge against it.They are spending on their daughter and such spending may be giving them much pleasure.All of us have a right to go for pleasure.You should not feel any jealousy in this.
You may improve your relationship with your inlaws and they will get pleasure in spending on you too.
2007-12-19 16:31:17 · answer #1 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well although you and your husband might think that it's unfair you really have no right to tell 2 grown people what to do with their money. It makes no difference if your in laws want to give their money to their daughter or to the ASPCA. It's not for you to say what is right or wrong. It really has nothing to do with you or your hubby. I am not trying to be mean but I would be very annoyed to have my children delegate what I can do with my finances. I would think if your mother in law went to your house and started telling you what to do you would be having a fit.
Did you ever look at it from your in laws point. Maybe your in laws are upset about the daughter's situation and the only way they know how to help is by giving them the money they need to live since there is a 2 year old involved.
Rather then your husband act like a child he needs to grow up and not get upset over his parents helping his sister. Isn't that what family is about helping each other?
2007-12-20 01:23:02 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah - and its not encouraging their daughter to be self sufficient
If they want to help one they should help the other
2007-12-19 10:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by chandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋