She would not be happy with atheist children; however I would. What is the way forward?
2007-12-19 10:22:21 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a fundamental difference to overcome. I wish you both luck.
2007-12-19 10:26:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It should not be a surprise to you that she would not be happy with atheist children no more than you saying that you would be .You have to consider her own beliefs and respect them in the same way that you want her to consider yours.The way forward for you guys is a very difficult one because your respective beliefs are diametrically opposed. She believes in God,you don't.Hence , by definition, one of you has to give up their belief if you want to remain together , get married, and have children.There is no room here for a compromise.If you say the kids can be taught about God, you will have to keep quiet about your own belief(or the kids will be confused).The same thing will apply to her as well. I do not see a way out, and that makes me sad for the two of you who obviously care about each other.
2007-12-19 19:03:48 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u live in uk or usa 90% people are athiest if the girl is moderate muslim dont worry
when u have kids who go to school
ur kids will be in touch with other athiest kids [just like u ]
and at home they will get a touch of some muslim culture
than its yourkids choice which one they want
the good thing is u dont need to do anything they themself will get a feel both sides automatically
2007-12-19 18:29:14 · answer #3 · answered by Pace R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way forward is to step back. A muslim and an atheist are just about the worst match I can think of. Sorry.
2007-12-19 18:25:54 · answer #4 · answered by AJ 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Maybe if you stop being an atheist, she'll stop being a Muslim and you could have children who don't have any beliefs and as a result they'll be 100% more intelligent than either one of you and not carry on with your divisive nonsense.
2007-12-19 18:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by Cotton Candy Lady 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People honestly need to stop letting religion run their lives and just live to be happy. Try to reason with her if you really do see yourself having a future with her that you both won't force religions onto your children and will wait until they are old enough to decide what is right for them. I think that's the right thing to do when it comes to children, I don't think you should push your ideas onto them, you should let them grow into their own people.
2007-12-19 18:26:53 · answer #6 · answered by Vanity Affaire 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One of you has to settle for the children following a different religion or end the relationship :)
2007-12-19 18:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by The Beast from the Middle East 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, that sounds to be rather far down the road, but when you do get there, you should have a talk with her about it and from there decide, but remember, the USA WAS built for freedom of religion, maybe it should be the kids choice?(
2007-12-19 18:26:03
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Figure it out. Come on!!! Muslim is better then no religion!
Seriously. I don't understand being atheist!! God is right in front of you! You just won't look.
I know you don't want to be preached to but the children should choose. But your NOT a match made in heaven.... or hell....
2007-12-19 18:25:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
Forget it dude. Unless of course she doesn't mind. Inter-religious relationship never, well not never, barely work out.
2007-12-19 18:28:52 · answer #10 · answered by mephisto 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋