My first birth experience was a circus. There were people present that I didn't want. People telling me don't do the epidural, others saying if I was in pain to take the meds, and teen family members brought in by other family members to show me as an example of what it's like to have a baby. I don't want my second birth experience to be like this. Is there a polite way to say, no you can not come until afterward? I know some of them already that are going to be hurt if I don't ask them to be there when the baby is born. So what can I say?
2007-12-19 10:18:56 · 11 answers · asked by rizing 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Keep in mind that this is their issue, not yours. It's assumptive of them to think they should be in there with you. You shouldn't feel bad at all. Just say something like, "It was kind of overwhelming last time to have so many people in the room. This time I'd like to be alone with John (or whatever your husband's name is)." Let them know they are welcome to come to the hospital and you'll let them know as soon as the baby is here.
2007-12-19 15:16:23 · answer #1 · answered by berrel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell everyone that it is going to be private this time. I am not even close to delivery day but hubby and I have from the get go told everyone that it will be him and I only.
We are having our baby at home, my mother is planning on coming to the house, and our midwife will be alerted when I am farther along, so she will probably come towards the end but only my husband and I are to be in our bed/bath unless we ask someone in. He will be delivering and if the midwife wants to check the baby after we are cleaned off and comfortable then she can come in. I wasn't rude, just clear about the rules, my labor and delivery my rules. Our birth is private, no questions asked.
Good luck.
2007-12-19 21:04:14 · answer #2 · answered by JMK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With our first we told everyone that this is our first child, we feel that the mommy and daddy need a "moment" to share and they will be informed in the waiting room when the baby is here. The nursing staff and doctors also enjoy this because it really makes their jobs go alot quicker and more efficient for you to focus on you and your baby and not worry about walking around 10 people in the room. Good Luck!
2007-12-19 18:22:50 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your married say that you only want your husband in the room with you. Just pick out the people you want in the room and let everyone know ahead of time that you are only allowing certain people in the room. If you unsure that will work, let the nurses at the desk know that you don't want all those people in your room and let them know who is allowed in there. Best of luck to you!!!
2007-12-19 19:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by Sabrina K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say, "I've decided that for this birth it will just be my husband and ________ present during the birth. I want you all to be in the waiting room and I look forward to seeing you after the birth." You say it politely and firmly and then you drop it. They'll get over it.
2007-12-19 20:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them No, it's my baby's birth. I'm surprised the hospital allowed them there in the first place!
2007-12-19 18:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by That Gay Guy for Da Ben Dan 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not impolite at all, I would of kicked them all out with the first child. I'm only going to have my husband my mom the doctor and nurses in there with me no one else is allowed, and if they show up I'll have the nurse kick them out.
2007-12-19 18:54:36 · answer #7 · answered by Your Mom Says Hi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell the nurses to keep them out. They can say its hospital policy to have only one or two people in the room, period. They can wait in the lobby.
Or don't tell them until you have the baby. Lie and say it was a fast labor and there was no time to call before you delivered.
2007-12-19 18:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by parental unit 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
polietly say that we really need a moment with just us and the child we will let u all in as soon as possible. most people will be happy that they dont have to come again. Best wishes to your new born!!:)
2007-12-19 19:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be blunt and tell them that as much as you appreciate their interest you don't want anyone but you and the father in the room. They'll be informed when they can see the new arival.
2007-12-19 18:27:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋