My daughter is going through a hard time recently - she found out her boyfriend of 2 years and Father to her baby was cheating on her with 3 different women!
At first she decided to get him out of her life and she seemed ok...then he did an emotional blackmail suicide attempt and it looks like she has taken him back
Thing is I recently met a really nice guy after being single for a while ( and picky! lol )
But instead of being happy for me my daughter has been ringing me every day and having a go at me - calling my new boyfriend names and saying that I have ruined Christmas!!!
I am due to go to hers for the Christmas period but she now says she doesn't want me too......and the way she has been having a go at me lately I'm not sure if it will be a good time either!!!
I want to show her that I am there for her but I have my own life too...and that not all men are b*stards!.....but it does not seem to be working
I don't want to be her emotional punchbag either.. it hurts
2007-12-19 10:18:17 · 6 answers · asked by chandra 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are absolutely correct- this is your life and it seems like you have sacrificed enough of your own to please her. Don't let her bother you about this.
She thinks if she isn't happy, no one else should be either.
If your child is old enough to have a child of her own, she should be able to understand the difference for parental happiness. Just let her know that you will always be there for her, but her attitude is ridiculous and until she settles down, she knows where to find you.
2007-12-19 10:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by Just Tryin' to Help 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dear Mom:
I would like you to take a moment and re-read what you have typed. Then think about it. When I re-read what your issue is I find 1 thing and 1 thing only. Your duaghter is jealous. She has been struggeling with her current man who is also her childs father for a long while. You being mom was there for her through the thick and thin and now that you have found someone that could be a compatable mate, she is threatened by the time you and her have invested. Not only that but I am sure she is thinking who the hell did you do it when I have been trying to "train" my guy to be a decent person. My advice to you is this: family is always going to come first, ALWAYS. Go spend the holidays with your daughter and make it a point to have a heart to heart talk. Ask her what her justification is on her behavior to you and let her know that her feelings, no matter how crazy they are, are valid to you. Let her remember that you 2 are both grown women with needs, and the men in your life have no reflection on the relationship and how special it is that you 2 hold. And you, dear mommy, you must be happy in all aspects, romanticaly and with your children and never forget that. :-) Your daughter will eventually come around when you meet together with heart instead of emotions.
2007-12-19 18:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by Katie K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes- you are rite
you do have ur own life too, but if u worry to much than it will get to ur mind and it will cuase problems.. like u can't sleep.....
if shes happy than u should be happy for her too.
but if u think her boyfreind isn't freindly and just wants to take advandtage of her just try to strike a conversation with her telling that ur not comfortable with her boyfreind in a nice way.....
ur obviosly a concerned parent for ur daughter too. you know that family comes FIRST. and ur thinking the rite thing and thinking of ur daughter..... so i hope that u make the right decision......
i hope this has anwsered ur question!
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2007-12-19 18:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by kandieskrazy98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has been through a lot of heart ache. Have a sit donw with her maybe she wants to talk with someone abot her own problems in her realtionship. Maybe if you bring up something that bothers you about your current relationship she will open up to you. I have been in her shoes.
2007-12-19 18:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by Hello Kitty 2442 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have your own way of life. Do not permit your daughter or any one else to control your life.Your daughter is taking out her frustrations on you, which is not proper.
2007-12-20 00:57:32 · answer #5 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Limit your contact for now until she can pull herself together. Shes made her choices and you shouldnt have to pay for them. Maybe you and your boyfriend should celebrate Christmas without her.
2007-12-19 18:26:22 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋