i am an atheist, recently my Christian cousin got really depressed because she doens't have much social skills and lost her job due to her constant nervousness. I tried to comfort her and taking her out for coffee and dinner, when i asked her why she never takes me to her home (shared with other christian people), she told me it was because I am 'dirty' in her eyes, i live with my boyfriend of 3 years without marriage. how do i deal with this kind of comments? i still love her very much but i felt hurt.
2007-12-19 10:17:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
She is judgemental... and that will contribute to her misery in life. I'd probably pity her, if I were you. Do what you can to love her, and let the rest go... but don't let it hurt you, she only hurts herself by not being able to accept your love and friendship completely.
2007-12-19 10:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have one of those cousins, too (we were very close when we were children). When we were in college, she used to shun me around her Christian friends (to the point where she'd walk past me and not even acknowledge my existence or glance in my direction) because I'm a pagan - and that *really* hurt my feelings. But she would hang out with me one on one and was fine when her pals weren't around.
So I can totally relate. What I did was confronted her about it. I told her she really hurt my feelings and I hadn't realized our relationship had strings attached - and hadn't known that she was *that* embarassed by me. Confronting her was the best thing I ever did because she has finally started accepting me for who I am and realized she wasn't being true to herself or her beliefs by doing what she did. Though I don't think we'll ever be as close as we once were.
2007-12-19 10:28:26 · answer #2 · answered by swordarkeereon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know this is one of those cases where you will have to let it roll off your back if you want a relationship with her. Personally, I would tell her she hurt my feelings. Just remember you did ask her why and she was honest enough to answer you. Also if it doesn't bother you that you live with your boyfriend then just let her comments go. Remember you are in control of your life and your happiness, no one else.
2007-12-19 10:36:25 · answer #3 · answered by Janet L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin is trying to stand up for righteous behavior in her life. Jesus said when sin comes knocking - FLEE it! Your cousin does not want to participate in your lascivious lifestyle, however, we are assuming that you are having sexual relations with your boyfriend.
There is a reason that God stipulates His rules and restrictions.
There is very little benefit from your lifestyle and the consequences goes way beyond what you can really comprehend. If you want to find out just a hint of what I propose, please go to any church in your area and check out a women's purity ministry. You don't have to change your lifestyle, but you will find out how beautiful and precious you really are. Just by doing what you are doing, you are lowering your own self standard. Look in the mirror and see who looks better - you or your cousin?
2007-12-19 10:33:53 · answer #4 · answered by craig b 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can ask her if she has never sinned.
Point her to the passage about the woman caught in the act of adultery.
Perhaps she does not understand the reason that Jesus had to die on that cross for each of our sins.
Also - here's my unsolicited advice - why don't you think you're worth marrying? Why are you willing to settle for someone who won't commit to you? What if you get pregnant? Think about it.
2007-12-19 10:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well she has every right to think that... in the bible it does say not to be un-equally yoked. which in bible times would mean dont have one strong ox and one weak ox pulling the hoe to plow your feild because the one would over power the other and cause them not to walk straight. and translated into todays terms it would be the same as saying do not date a non-christian or even better... dont live with them un-married. thats why she would say that, but about what to do about the comment.. i dont know im not dr. phil
2007-12-19 10:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you do have good qualities...you showed an act of kindness....
your friend just feels awkward explaining her beliefs to you..do not take it personally......
the standards God holds us to are his, not ours...and according to His standards, you are considered "living in sin" or committing fornication. ..believers are told not to associate with those who do not believe the same, as it would influence them away from their faith.
2007-12-19 10:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by Angel wings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the eyes of an obese bleach blonde Christian woman you are probably no better than excrement. .. that's in her dirty eyes
anyway.
2007-12-19 10:26:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's obviously an over opinionated person who only cares about what she wants.
2007-12-19 10:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus said :let he who is without sin cast the first stone" perhaps she should stop casting stones.
2007-12-19 10:47:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋