Should I lie?

Question

Ok hi, my daughters father is American should I lie on my daughters birth cert and say I do not know who the father is? I'm not sure if this is true but I heard the father can object me taking my daugter back to my home country. I would never part with my daughter! Is this true? Should I lie?

David I cannot vote :\

My child was born in America and has an American father but I want to move home.

Answer 1

my kids father is american also and my kid was born in the states and he is on her birth certificate which was a huge mistake on my part and i recently moved out of the states and took her with me and the consulate said it would be alright to just go with her and not get permission and when i got here it was a huge problem. i had to retain a lawyer and fight him for full custody and alot of bullshit. so my advice to you is do not put him on the certificate. it does not mean that your child is fatherless, it just means that you dont need his permission to do what you want with YOUR child. the mother is the keeper, the father is secondary and i beleive that the child should always stay with the mom unless she is unfit. believe me i speak from so much personal experience and if at a later date, things work out between you guys, you can put him on whenever you like because he is the father!

Answer 2

You take the chance that your daughter will grow up hating you for depriving her of a father.

Is the guy a real animal? Does he abuse you and your daughter? Is he a fanatic of some sort? If so, then you might want to consider these possibilities, but if he is a responsible person, you most likely will be the one who regrets your current actions.

If your daughters father is a decent person, she will be much better off, and have a much better chance at having a good life, if her father can remain active in her life. Without a good father figure, there is a great deal of risk that your daughter will grow up emotionally scarred, and live a destructive life style.

Answer 3

No, you shouldn't lie as it isn't fair to either your daughter or her father. Yes, he can object -- however, he probably will not as the fathers usually lose in that kind of case. However, a lie COULD be held against you in court...especially a lie on an official document.

The fact that you plan on returning to your own country won't be held against you. It will be assumed that you have a right to return to your own country with your daughter. Get her passport at your consulate here as soon as possible so there will be no questions asked about your intent. Also, plan on pursuing child support. It's your daughter's right.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Please don't lie -- try to do what you need to do in a legal way. It's the right thing to do for your daughter. I'm sorry if you feel that your relationship with the father of your child has broken down to the point where you would consider this ultimate lie, but the truth is, if he is not abusive to you or your daughter, he is entitled to have his daughter in his life if he is willing to support her and abide by the terms of a visitation plan. On the other hand, if this man is abusive to you or to your daughter -- you should be able to prove that so that you can find a legal way to go back to your country where (presumably) you will have the support of your extended family. Please, do this the legal way -- for your daughter's sake.

Answer 5

Don't lie . What are you going to tell your daughter later when she ask's about her father ?I think you need to discuss that with the Baby's Daddy and maybe find a way to share custody .
I wish you the best.

Answer 6

Who ever is telling you not to put his real father's name on the birth certificate, is working in league with the father. By naming who the biological father is, you're entitled to child support payments. You can later file papers to force him to pay you child support to cover the cost of raising that child. STRONGLY ADVICE YOU HAVE THE BIOLOGICAL FATHER NAMED ON THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE. You're going to regret this years from now, if the birth certificate says "father unknown." It implies you were promiscous, and had slept with a lot of different men; and can therefore not name the biological father without administering a paternity test.

Answer 7

If he already knows then he can still have it changed even if you do not put him on the birth certificate by going to the child support division and filing a voluntary statement of paternity then you will really be in trouble. He could keep you from leaving the U.S. or worse he could have you deported and since he is American and so is his child as well as your child he could gain full custody. If he thinks you might leave the country to return home then he would surely stop it. I don't blame him you will need to get him to give up rights. But being vendictive and sneaky by trying to keep him out of the childs life in the future your child will grow up hating you.

Answer 8

Don't bother lying. The father can demand a paternity test and prove he is the father if he wants to, so lying won't help. You might as well let your daughter's paperwork be straight from the beginning. Otherwise, she will have to fix your mess when she grows up.

Answer 9

If he took issue w. it it will matter in regard to the birth certificate. 30 minutes at the courthouse is all it takes to file something so that you can't leave. If your visa is not in order or you are illegal your ommision might actually help his case.

Yes you could just leave.

But it will come back to you later. She will someday want to come to the US. She may find her father. She may later become a citizen and want you to live in the US when you are old. Just do the right thing.

Answer 10

I do know of someone that just got divorced and she has to have permission to take her daughters to mexico.
However, if the father isn't active in your life, you may be able to move them no problem. I would check. Where did you have your child? Lying sometimes can get you in huge trouble.