Should I say something to the family? It's my pastors wife, and I knew her pretty well but they have abt 1000 friends so I don't want to be in the way yet I want to show my respect.
What is the ettiquette?
2007-12-19 10:05:46 · 7 answers · asked by asldfkjdfj 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Sometimes a wake is the same as a viewing, in which case you sign the guestbook and offer condolences to the family. If the casket is open, you would probably view the body unless doing so is against your religious customs. At some wakes/viewings there are rows of seats, and people sit there looking at the casket or praying or talking in appropriate tones on appropriate subjects. How long you stay in either of those situations is up to you, but it's a good idea to say good-bye to the family when you leave. Then at some wakes there is an actual program or service. In that case, all I can advise is that you play it by ear. Sometimes people are seated and go up a row at a time to view the body. The least likely direction a wake is likely to take today is the traditional "Tim Finnegan's Wake" in which the guests drink and carouse!
2007-12-19 10:28:06 · answer #1 · answered by aida 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dress with respect (no ripped shorts/jeans!). Sign the guestbook and go to the line and when you approach the spouse/family members standing, say that you are sorry for your loss and move on. Just showing up shows that you respect the person that has passed on and the family members will see that and thank you.
2007-12-19 11:10:06 · answer #2 · answered by quiltopslady 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to say anything except what comes to you spontaneously. If you know them in the way you knew her, try giving the members of the family a hug. You'll find that other people are doing that and it's so much better than words at such a time.
2007-12-19 10:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by Doethineb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Showing for a wake is a way to show support to the grieving family. Instead of offering your sorrow, tell them what a wonderful impact she has made on everyone who came to pay their respects.
2007-12-19 10:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by Advantage-ME 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just being there is enough. Give the woman a supporting hug and simply say "I'm sorry for your loss, he was a good man".
2007-12-19 10:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by germaine_87313 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To simply be there and offer a few words of condolence is all that will be required. He will remember that you were there.
2007-12-19 10:09:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go up to her when the opportunity arises and just express your condolences for his loss.
2007-12-19 10:12:03 · answer #7 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋