For months, I've been a Wiccan. Wiccans do not believe in God. But, I didn't even believe in God before I was a Wiccan. The only problem is that my grandmother and my mother both believe in God, and my Grandmother went to church ever since my mom was born. They both truly believe in God, but I don't. How do I tell them without upsetting them or having them yell at me? Please help me! I don't know who to turn to.
2007-12-19 09:51:34 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Tell them the same way you told "us." If you believe your new found religion is the "right" one, what do you care what they think?
2007-12-19 09:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by phree 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Most Wiccans belive in God and Goddess. Yes, they view God as different than YHVH (The Christian God... pronounced Yahweh) prefering him as a God of the Wilderness, but he can be viewed anyway a Wiccan wants to view him. Wiccans are not atheists usually. We believe the Earth has a Mother (GODDESS) and a Father. (GOD) Like a Yin Yang.
2007-12-20 09:24:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wiccans don't believe in God?
That's news to me. Wiccans believe in both a God and a Goddess, at least as I was taught.
Now, as to your question... there might be no way to do it pleasantly, but you can at least get your facts straight and perhaps have some printouts ready from this site:
http://wicca.timerift.net
There's also a book called "The Truth About Wicca" by Scott Cunningham which is an excellent book to give to relatives and friends who have a lot of questions.
Best of luck to you.
EDITED TO ADD: In response to ultimatewarrior... you expect us to believe that you were once a Wiccan when you don't even know that the name of the religion is "Wicca"? *rolls eyes*
2007-12-19 09:54:05 · answer #3 · answered by prairiecrow 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I think religion or lack of religion is a personal choice. Nothing would be worse than a parent forcing a child to believe something that they don't believe in. If they ask, simply just tell them that you're not into religion at the moment and that you hope that they will respect your thoughts and beliefs. I'm atheist and I've never been afraid to let people know that.
2007-12-19 09:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by graduate student 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to your situation very well.
I have been an atheist for many many years. But my family truly believe in god. I love them to death no matter what. I have told my siblings and our love never changed. But my Mom is the most religious in the family. If I tell her she surely will be sick and depressed that she will not see me in heaven, that I will burn in hell, etc. Serious stuff.
I chose not to tell her especially with her current health condition. There is no benefit and the risk is too high. I know she will love me anyway but I also know she will be sad and maybe even sick for the rest of her life. I will not take that risk.
Whatever you believe is for your very personal inner peace. Noone should bother you with that. Letting people know is a courtesy but not a requirement. If being quiet is more beneficial for peace, I think you should just keep it for yourself.
Good luck to you!
2007-12-19 10:30:42 · answer #5 · answered by Russ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should continue to show both love and respect to your mother and grandmother. Even more, show a tolerance to their personal faith.
As for yourself, you are still learning. If anyone asks what you believe tell them that you believe your are to seek truth, practice love and relish everything that is beautiful in the world.
2007-12-19 10:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did believe in wiccan, but then on day i heard about the teaching of Christ, and I must admit, Jesus changed my life in such a beautiful way, I'll never be able to explain, I just want you to stay open, and maybe give Jesus another chance... what he offers is Love
2007-12-19 09:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by ultimatewarrior 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There is no way you can tell them that won't upset them. You'll be challenging their delusions, which is painful for many people. They will have the added 'pain' that their delusional belief will mean that you won't join them in their mythical afterlife. There is nothing you can do to soften the blow. They are suffering from a mental disorder called faith and it will cuase them much pain to know that you don't.
2007-12-19 09:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by ibushido 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them. "I don't believe in God."
If they love you, they'll understand. Yeah, sure, they'll get upset, but that won't last forever. But the longer you wait, the harder it will be to tell them.
Prarie: Some only believe in the Goddess, and not god.
2007-12-19 09:57:48 · answer #9 · answered by Lina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In response to your Mother, "Mom, I may not believe in God per se, but I do believe in Love, which isn't that the same thing...???"
This of course, isn't guranteed to work, but may be your best-bet for a constructive outcome.
2007-12-19 10:02:26 · answer #10 · answered by SophiaSeeker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your family love you - any adverse reaction will originate out of love. Try to remain calm even if they don't ... be open to hearing what they have to say and they will be open to you. Be ready to explain yourself and your new faith ... allow them more opportunities to find out about it. If you don't tell them about it or you try to hide stuff, it will just give them more reason to be suspicious. If the worst happens ... give them time to calm down and then make sure that they know you still love them, whatever your differences.
2007-12-19 10:02:28 · answer #11 · answered by Girl Kojak 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋