CHRISTMAS should be spent with your loved ones..?

Question

My mum moved in with her boyfriend properly over a year ago.
She's with him everyday, they're always going on holiday's and spending time with HIS family.
Im never invited.
This year my mum, her boyfriend, his parents and his son went to spain.
I wasn't invited.
I got my own little holiday with my mum but she said i couldnt go with them because im too much 'trouble'.

Anywayz she said that she's going to come home for christmas. She's going to come on christmas eve and leave at 2 on christmas day to spend time with her boyfriends family because he's her partner and they do things together.
I said to her that shes going to come here then go there for a proper christmas, and she said that its not a proper christmas coz they're jewish.
And i said, so stay with us (me and my dad) coz we're catholic and do celebrate it..and she just mumbled stuff and walked out of the room.
She's always said if i want her to come home ask but ive asked and she hasnt.
She has a new life now.

...And when i ask her to come home she says that she has a new home and i cant keep expecting her to come round all the time even though she comes round once a week to collect her mail. And when i ask if she wants to go out she says she's going out with her boyfriend or she's really busy. She's changed so much. Now she's really serious, dresses all posh (her boyfriends rich) and we cant have a laugh like we used to. What should i do???
I just cant seem to get it into her head that IM her family and that maybe i need her a bit more than her boyfriend does.
She says she's not picking him over me but it sure seems that way.

Also, my dad is very depressed and i cant seem to get through to him. Reccently my mums mates been stayin here and he's been sooo happy. The three of us did things together and it was fun, but she's gone to brazil for 2 months. some people might think its sad to spend time with my dad but i'll do whatever it takes to make him happy. Anyway.. He's always asking her to come keep him company and she just says she cant. And when i ask her to do the same for him she says she cant keep coming round whenever he needs her.. And she cant see that he REALLY does need her. He's become so lonely he's now an alcoholic. I hate seeing him like this. But i cant do anything..and ive tried! HELP!!!!

err btw i think my dad is over it..they split up wen i was one..and they've been best friends since..and i have accepted him..like i accepted all her past boyfriends and im not 10 i wouldnt try to split them up..and i no my dad isnt her rsponsibilty..but wen shes the only friend he has she has to be there for him sometimes.

Answer 1

Theres nothing u can do but be there for your dad..she is choosing a guy over her family. Just get her alone and tell her but it seems like your NEVER alone...idk what to say...talk to your dad about it n say how u feel

or scare her n see if she really cares...tell her your going to kill yourself lol

Answer 2

You poor girl - in the middle of all these problems!

Your Dad is not your Mothers responsibility anymore - but she is still your Mother and should include you in her life

Are you rude to her new boyfriend or have you accepted him?

Do you cause trouble and try and split them up...or are you just happy spending time with them

Ask her WHY she does not include you....if you keep saying ''poor Dad'' to her and try and make her feel guilty she is not going to be pleased with that!

If you do go places with them and have fully accepted she has moved on then I don't see why you can't have a really good time together!

Your Dad needs to accept that she has moved on too.....and let go....and move on with his own life so he can be happy!!!

Answer 3

If she's unwilling to do anything with you then don't keep your hopes up, that way when she actually has something to do with you it's more of a surprize.

About you dad, just support him as much as you can and help him if he needs anything, even if he doesn't ask.

Hope this helps.

Answer 4

This isn;t the place for this stuff, man. Talk to a professional to help you deal with all of this. Sounds like your mom doesn't care too much about you or your dad.

Good luck.

Answer 5

well i guess it should be but with your family as in the people you love... like i have to go to christmas partys and its with all my relatives like aunts and uncles that i see once and year and i could ******* care less what they have been doing the past 365 days..

Answer 6

she's picking the MONEY over you I'm so sorry. try and be happy with your dad and disown her!