I've been with my bf for 5 months now,we are meant to be spending xmas together,but i cant get over the fact he dumped me for 5 days then he got back together with me like nothing happened and it didnt matter,he said he was confused and it wont happen again but i cant forget this,if he was so happy why dump me to begin with?i also feel he's playing mind games with me,it's the worst thing you can do to someone,my ex did this,one minute he talks about our future plans and the next about his job abroad(wont see him for months at a time),i feel like he's just hanging on to me so he can have as much sex as he can before he goes away,should i get revenge and dump him on xmas?he is also possessive and controlling,is this any indocation that he 'might' love me?
2007-12-19 09:39:01 · 56 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hell to the yes!!!
if my boyfriend did that to me i would be beyond pissed,and i would!
2007-12-19 09:42:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. A possessive and controlling person is what they are--possessive and controlling. He doesn't really love you, it's about having power.
Do not dump him on Christmas Day. Not because it is cruel to do but, do you really want to screw up your Christmas with him possibly throwing a huge tantrum? There is no telling what he will do that day.
Dump him a couple of days before Xmas or afterwards and let him know it is completely over. I hope this guy will take the hint as he seems like the type that becomes a stalker and make threats so I hope all goes well with you getting rid of him.
Start off your new year fresh without the chump and you might find a good man later in the year and hope that the (ex) boyfriend gets some professional help to work on his insecurities.
Good luck.
2007-12-19 15:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by ranay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the ones that said you two deserve each other. Not only are you playing dangerous mind games with him but you are also playing mind games with people on this site which in my opinion is very immature and disrespectful. If everyone would read all your questions I think they would agree with me and see that you are either someone pretending to be someone else or you are really messed up. Get a life! Maybe he will dump you on Christmas day when he finds out about the other guy you said you wanted to hang on to just to keep from being alone when this one goes to work "abroad". What would that feel like? What a crock!!! You are making a mockery of this site and insulting the intelligence of all the people on this site that are here for the right reasons and are sincere. Merry Christmas Sweetheart!
2007-12-21 02:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lucy*JakeFanClubFounder* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would be what I would do (but I am a lot older than you). You're right if he was so happy why did he dump you in the first place? Are you ready to get revenge? Are you strong enough?He probably is playing mind games He's a man and they think that they are god. Now if all he wants is sex, and he's going abroad? is he really going? and if he's possessive and controlling NO that is not an indication that he loves you. It's a sign that he's sick! don't ever think that being possessive is a sign of love, my x boyfriend was possessive and he ended up beating the hell out of me so get rid of him on xmas day I think that will be perfect and if you really want to do it right since you say that all he wants is sex give him a bottle of hand lotion and wrap it up, when he opens it tell him to go have his own sex cause you are now closed and say goodbye> Can you do it?
2007-12-19 09:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by answer machine 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe a little communication is in order. If you're doing this just for revenge, its pointless and immature and he isn't the only problem.
There could be a very valid reason that whole 5 day senario occurred. Sometimes peopel just need a little space to decide what they really want. Have you asked him about it?
If you're just looking for an excuse to leave, then leave him and don't try to blame him for it. If you want to be with him, you should try to resolve the issues, then if they cannot be resolved, part ways on the best terms possible.
2007-12-19 09:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by Phienyxx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you complaining about what you permit? You BOTH are having sex and you blame him? Huh?
Just dump his sorry butt now and get going with your life.
Move on. There are far too many great guys out there for you to waste your time doing a sad stunt like that on an important day.
2007-12-19 09:47:37 · answer #6 · answered by Michael 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U seem unhappy so yeah dump him,well just do it when u feel like it. he doesnt seem to care about you,and if a guy cares he will for example not get a job abroad...well my bf was like that saying am going to work abroad,i was upset and thought but what about me,u aint going to see me...so i decided ok do wot u want. he hangup and i never called him back but a few mins later he calls and says sorry,cos he was messing me about saying oh we wont work out then. but this is what its like if a guy cares about u,he never does it again if he cares. so wot u should do is tell him,if he does it again then its over and about the job abroad thing? its selfish and he must not care...my bf thought i was more important in the end and never talked about it again or about breaking up,just look at my answer and see is your bf like this? if his never going to change then leave him and dumping u for 5days? that shouldnt happen,make sure u talk to him and if he does it again leave him.
2007-12-19 09:49:53 · answer #7 · answered by london-fem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wee sneak!! If I were you, and you were so unsure aboot him, I would dump him right away. Ye don't need tae make a big deal o' howfing him oot on Christmas day. Ye will regret it later. Many folk will think ye urr being a balloon tae ditch him on the big day, just tae get yer revenge. Be the bigger person and dae it noo. Guid luck.....
2007-12-19 11:22:35 · answer #8 · answered by Angela M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, i'd % to declare that i'm somewhat sorry approximately that. i do no longer think of you will desire to harm any of the products through fact it would be an immature difficulty to do. Be the bigger one in this and deliver her each and every thing (already paid for) and merely be performed. You sending her each and every thing accurately and unhurt in an already paid for container will teach which you will pass on and be the mature one. She'll see those and notice that she became into an fool and he or she would be in a position to maximum possibly remorseful approximately breaking apart with you. merely have faith me. do no longer make her pay for it and don't harm any of the products in any way. you will experience great understanding you have been the bigger guy or woman. I promise.
2016-10-08 22:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by salmaan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possesive and controlling behavious have nothing to do with love! I don't think revenge is your best bet, but if you are having serious doubts breaking up with him before Christmas might be a good idea... but on Christmas day... that's just vindictive and below you. If you don't like mind games, don't play them!
2007-12-19 09:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by velvetca1972 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say Dump him!! Nothing like a good firework show on Christmas Day!! Oh and if you do, don't try to get back with him, that means you weren't happy with him to begin with!
2007-12-19 09:56:00 · answer #11 · answered by david 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋