i told him i liked her, and he just started talking to her and now hes hitting on her. hes the "player" type thats always chasing sex, and olny wants to "get some" of this girl. but i just want her as a girlfriend and a long lasting realtionship and take things slow. but cause hes the player type he knows what to do and what to say.im just shy and hes telling her lies about me so she wont like me, and i think she belives them too!!so now what do i do? and about her? about my stupid friend? (i hate player all they are r c*cblockers
2007-12-19 09:31:27 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talk to her and get a new friend and not him anymore. so go for it and ask her!
-JakeR'sGirl4Ever *(Diane N)*
2007-12-19 09:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she hasn't got her own mind if she is listening and believing your friend lies about you. And if that is true, then just let her go and find someone else. But don't tell anyone. Work on the relationship side and getting to know some one a secret. The last thing you need is outside interference.
But you say your shy. That makes it harder for you. You see, the only way your going to find out anything is to have he gumption to get out there and ask or begin a conversation with your hearts desire.
With regard to your friend: By moving in on someone they know you have been genuinly interested in, then they can't be much of a good friend. I would lose them if I were you. With friends like that, you don't need enemies.
Be cool, you may find that you will be the winner in the end.
2007-12-19 17:39:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to dump this alleged "friend" of yours. You can get treatment like that from total strangers. This guy is a pr$ck with some major issues. Secondly, you need to quit being such a wuss. You're not "in love" and quit having romantic thoughts about a "long term relationship." Good lord. Just be a man and take it one step at at time. Get in control of your emotions. But above all, get rid of the jerk. I'm serious. I've been there. Do it now.
2007-12-19 17:35:52 · answer #3 · answered by DeFreeze 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is not your friend, stop thinking of him that way. If he would lie to a girl about you, he's not your friend or her's.
You can't stop her from falling for him, but you can continue to be yourself around her. If she is going to go for the jerk, she has issues you don't even want to deal with. If she can't see through his "player" ways, then she may need to learn a hard lesson. Even if "he knows what to do and what to say", that doesn't mean it will work on her.
Regardless, you like her, so act like it. Befriend her, flirt, ignore the other guy.
2007-12-19 17:44:04 · answer #4 · answered by soelo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE'S NOT YOUR FRIEND........GET THAT RIGHT INTO YOUR HEAD FAST. And this girl..........you really want to be with someone that's falling for the crap he's shoveling her, NO. Now honestly dump your friend.......because a friend doesn't do this to a friend..........that's an enemy. Go find another girl who's worthy of YOU! Good Luck. And when this guy is done with this girl...........don't pay any attention
to her if she starts coming around.
2007-12-19 17:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by MLJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in this IDENTICAL situation over a year ago. Don't make the mistake I made by accepting your "friend"s abuse. If you do, he wont' be your friend any longer. Here is what you have to do:
Walk up to him and punch him in the face as hard as you can.
It may be the only way to save not only your chances with this girl, her dignity and your self respect, but your friendship with this player guy as well. This is the only thing he will understand. TRUST ME.
2007-12-22 03:43:39 · answer #6 · answered by Drew 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
first off hes obviously not a very good friend if he's telling the girl lies about you. you need to talk to her alone and tell her whats on your mind. your friend knows how the game is played....you just have to play it better.
2007-12-19 17:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by CASSiEE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is a jerk, then why is he your friend. You must ask yourself, who do i like better, and that will decide. Now if you want to know how to beat him to the punch, just be cute and romantic, act like she'sthe only thing you care about, that's what girls love!
2007-12-19 17:35:32 · answer #8 · answered by nicoleonm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's stupid to argue over a girl that you both will most likely forget about in a year or so,but if he is telling her all that **** about you I would call him out on it.
2007-12-19 17:36:11 · answer #9 · answered by Supernaut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww........... you are the guy that almost every girl wants just to be with somebody you really care not the your friend. you. But tell your friend to back off and maybe tell him the truth? or maybe tell her that you dont like her and then when he backs off BAM you sweep the girl right off her feet.
2007-12-19 17:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by Momo! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him to back off!
tell him that you got to her first and that he should go find another girl!
2007-12-19 17:34:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋