i know this boy and ive been kising him for a while, but he wants to do more?

Question

im not ready to have sex, but should i do other stuff? i dont know if im ready, as im only 15, but i do like him, and all of my friends seem to be more experienced than me.

i know that he wont date me, and i wouldnt date him because he cheats. hes a bit of a womaniser, which i can say easily, as hes slept with over 7 girls by the age of 14/15. he confuses me, but i do like him. =/

Answer 1

no

Answer 2

Definitely don't do anything you are not ready to do.

You are more intelligent and wise than most teenagers because you realize that you are not ready to have sex. That is something to be proud of.

So many teenagers are having sex these days to the point where it might seem like the normal thing to do. It really is not normal for teenagers to be having sex because they are not ready for all of the emotional, physical, and responsibilities that go along with a sexual relationship.

It is normal that you would be curious or thinking about sex because that is a natural part of growing up, but at that young age you are not ready to be sexually active. As I said before, you are wise enough to understand this, and that's great.

One thing you will need to learn now is that respect should be a big part of friendship and relationships. If a boy really respects you, he will not pressure you into doing something that you are not ready for.

I'm sure you have heard all of the warnings about sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancy, etc., and all of that is true.
However, another consideration is your reputation. Often times a boy will have sex with you and then tell everyone about it. Your reputation will be ruined, but his will not. It's not fair, but it happens.

I say don't go any further than kissing because if you do it will probably lead to sex which you really are not ready for.
Don't worry about your friends having more experience than you because when you are in college and living your dreams, you will be glad that you waited to have sex with someone who will respect you and be special to you.

Stay strong and don't give in to peer pressure. Just because others are doing it does not mean it is the right thing to do.
Save your self for when you get married or at least for when you are older and in a serious committed relationship with a man who respects you and loves you. You will be so glad you waited.

Right now just enjoy being a teenager, having fun with your friends and family, planning for your goals and dreams, doing well in school, and staying out of trouble. I bid you peace.

Answer 3

you have your reputation to look out for.

If you aren't ready for sex kissing it all there is. No boob squeezing, butt grabbing, etc.

If you do other stuff like getting felt up or the BJ then it's reputation. It will get around regardless of what the guy says. You stand the chance of ruining your reputation over nothing.

And it's something you can't get back once it's gone. You have your whole life to be a ho if that's what you want when you're older.

Experience at 15 means nothing more than they have no scruples. They are people that are either lying or they are already ho-bags and everyone knows it.

It's comes down to you and how much you respect yourself. Once that is gone no one else will respect you either.

Good luck.

Answer 4

When you put yourself in a position of doing things up to the point of not having sex, it is only a matter of time that you WILL have sex. You are 15 years old, WAY too young to be doing anything other than kissing. You could end up like Jamie Spears, having a baby at the age of 16. Just wait. There is time for everything, just be patient. I know that it's hard, hormones are going haywire inside of you. But just wait. Don't do anything that you wouldn't want your parents or your grandparents to know about. That may sound stupid, but I can guarantee to you, that if you live your life that way, you will stay out of a lot of trouble. Just have fun! You don't need to have sex, or do other sexual type things in order to have fun.

Answer 5

I'm sure you've heard the normal reasons why we shouldn't be participating in sexual activities before marriage (you could get any number of sexually transmitted diseases, you could become pregnant, etc...) You have already decided that you aren't ready to have sex. I know you'll be glad that you made this decision. I'm nearly 20 and I've successfully kept myself clean by avoiding sexual activity- even in college where peer pressure can get pretty rough. :)

So, the answer to your question "Should I do other stuff?" is "Absolutely not". If you want to remain clean for your future husband do not participate in necking/petting/simulated or oral sex. All of these things will lead you down that path that you have already decided not to go down. If your boyfriend really loves you and you really love him, you should respect each other enough to stay away from those things that will lead to sexual intercourse.

I say this in a loving older-sister kind of way. I know peer pressure is hard to fight against but it's SO worth it. I'm on your side and rooting for you!
Stand strong!

With love,
Ellie

Answer 6

Well all that stuff like that your friends are more experienced. Thats like a whatever thing, you dont need to do those types of things if your not ready. If I was you, I would think about it and then take it as it comes. Dont let yourself be rushed into something you dont want to do, when your ready your ready everyones different
+Hope this helps+

Answer 7

Take it slow, do what you're ready for when you're ready for it, otherwise 1) it won't be good for you and 2) you'll regret it.

I hope he isn't pressuring you. When I was 14 (almost 15) my boyfriend and I broke up because I wouldn't go all the way. I'm glad we didn't. I wasn't ready and we were in different stages of ready.

There's always plenty of guys out there at your stage. Do NOT compromise your body. No one who has ever done that is glad they did.

Answer 8

DO NOT HAVE SEX. Whatever you do. When you turn fifteen those kind of feelings are normal, except they aren't real emotions, they are hormones!! Just because your friends are more "experienced" than you are. You may be the only that doesn't get pregnant. Ya never know and believe you don't want to find out.

Here is my two little mottos for sex:
If you aren't ready to be with the person you are with for the rest of your life then you shouldn't have sex with them.

If you are still a kid yourself, then you don't want to have a kid.

Answer 9

It sounds as if you're letting peer pressure to get in your way. You should tell the guy that you're still not ready for anything else other than kissing. It also sounds like you and him aren't going out yet so why give it up to someone who you don't even have a "relationship" with. You're too young if that guy doesn't understand than there will be plenty of other guys worth giving it up to. Good luck!!!

Answer 10

Don't do anything you don't want to do.
You are a living, breathing priceless work of art and you shouldnt degrate your body like that.
You should treat your body like the one of a kind gift it is.
Tell him you simply aren't ready and if he truly cares for you then he wont pressure you, he will wait for you.
You deserve the best for yourself and you don't need to disrepect yourself and destroy your integrity because the people around you have.
I am only 16, I know how you feel.
I am still a virgin and I intend on staying that way until marriage.
I am not trying to pressure you to wait until then if you don't want to.
But you need to realize that just because you friends have done some things, doesnt mean that you should stoop to that level too.

Answer 11

No! You should not do anything that you aren't comfortable with. If kissing is not enough so you move to groping... that will soon not be enough and you'll move to other stuff and soon you will be having sex totally unprepared and he won't respect you for any of it. But he will probably tell his friends that you are easy! If he wants someone who is more experienced... maybe you should introduce him to one of your friends. Find a guy who is happy with anything even if it's just kissing and you will know when you are ready to do more!