How to stop hating my sisterand what she is doing to her life?

Question

My sister(Alexa) is pregnant at thirteen and my parents didn't get mad, yell, rant, they basically took it like she was twenty or something. Only my older sister (Ember) and I aren't being all nice and treating her like a queen. I just can't get over how much like child she is acting. She is going to be a mom and she sits there soaking up all the attention. Does she care that people are basically now saying our whole family (females) is a bunch of sluts? Does she care that everyday I have to tell people that YES she is pregnant. I'm just tired of her, we have never really liked each other and now I am totally getting too much of her for my tastes. I am tired of always being the one to pick up after her so how do i just stop having to deal with her? ( short of moving out in six days)

Her shoes? She goes out and makes a huge mistake and doesn't even have the decency to know who the father is and then she goes around acting like she didn't just screw up and the universe will just take care of her. I just can't deal with her everyday until june.

I'm seventeen, to be eighteen in six days

So i should just be nice to her even though she has screwed up her life and everyone who lives in this houses lives?

Answer 1

Wow. Pregnant at 13. How tragic.

Answer 2

All the anger you are displaying toward your sister is just the tip of the ice berg Your real rage is against your parents especially your mother and its very normal when a parent prefer a child to another one . The results are always hatred among siblings Its a sad situation because nobody is happy in that house If you are still at school try to talk to your counselor . You have to vent to someone who will understand you And do not take the shame of your sister She did a mistakes but its not your mistake

Answer 3

It feels like you're sister is being a sponge, who's just waitng to absorb all of the attention and love anyone may get...but you're wrong. You're parents might not be handling the task the correct way, by setting the problem aside...but at least their not freaking out about the news. You wouldn't imagine how hard it is for some teens, when thier parents react to this a negative way. In your case, your mom and dad are trying to overpower thier shock, with sympathy.

You'll simply have to deal with it. Whiles you might be treated like a doormouse, in a couple of months when the baby will be born, things will change. You're sister will be a mother, and she'll have to take her responsiblities seriousley.

Answer 4

If it was my sister, I would tell her about herself. Thirteen and pregnant....she is a mess. Her life is practically over now. It is not your job to be her mother (even if her parents are not acting like parents). I have a sister who is headed down the same path. If I was you, I would distance myself from this disaster. I would not let my sister ruin my reputation.

Answer 5

Stop acting like a biotch..
She's pregnant.. She can't help if, she wants the attention.
She has mood swings, get over it. .
If you were pregnent, you be like, I want attention, lke right now.! So, shut your trap, and be nice..

Answer 6

stay away from her..shes only hurting herself...if it gets tht personal talk it out nd see what she has to say..its time to take a stand && speak your mind..stay away from the drama..it will just get worse..stay out of it until your brought into it!you need to be the bigger person in this situation && stay strong..everything happens for a reason!try to be nice to your sister && support her a little..kay?byee

Answer 7

This is really a tough situation to be in for you and your sister. How sad that a 13 is sexually active much less going to be a mom! Hopefully you will remember that you love your sister but totally do not LIKE what she has done and the impact that it is having on the entire family. The deed is done and your parents are probably feeling extremely guilty thinking this is their fault. If they have provided the proper expectations and "upbringing" for all of their children then they should feel sorrow for their soon to be grandchild who is entering this world with a parent totally unprepared and too young to be a mom. As for you having to pick up after her - that's a crock, pregnancy is a condition not an illness and she is quite capable of picking up after herself. She also should be practicing mom activities like cooking, cleaning, taking care of the family. The baby will need all of that and more. Try to put your feelings aside and help your sister and parents decide what is best for this poor child that is coming into the world in less than best of conditions. How old are you?

Answer 8

well, u don't have to move out right away it's kinda hard out there, and living with a sis like that I really feel sorry for u, but instead of fighting try to talk with her without arguments and accusations, try to put urself in her shoes, maybe that will work, try working it out first. GL

Answer 9

She is your sister. You should forgive her. Help her.
She needs your support right now.

Whats done is done. She cannot change the present situation she is in. That baby she is carrying didn't ask to be brought into this world, but it is here. Maybe this baby could be a blessing. Instead of putting her down, bring her up. She needs the help and support right now. She got into this situation because she didn't have anyone to talk to, or give her direction. -All you can do is learn from her situation and pray for her. She needs prayer.
The sooner you let go of the resentment you have against your sister, you will find peace. That's why I say, forgive her. -Not just for her, but for yourself.

-God Bless.