I'd always been taught to listen to myself before i listen to anyone else. My partner and I have been together for nearly a year and from the early stages we knew it was love at first site. However, I don't know if it makes a difference but usually when we are at home he is all over me and usually tells me he loves me at least twice a day, I actually can't recall the last time he said it to me without me saying it first (apart from when he says it if we are texting each other). Also, we have had a couple of arguments lately, over crappy things that dont mean anything. ALSO, he arcs up at me a little bit but often, for example last night we were laying on his bed late at night on the laptop trying to put songs on his new mp3 player i bought him and the laptop kept playing up and i was tired and getting so cranky coz the computer kept playing up and i ended up getting frustrating and going ARGHH do it another day i wanna go to bed n hes like ""ohhh f*ckin hell" he does that all the time.
2007-12-19 08:12:12 · 13 answers · asked by **Jemma** 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way - i have asked him a couple of times if anything is wrong or if he thinks there is something different between us or something and his answers are always no, he told me he is sick of talking about it and its pissing him off that i am having these thoughts etc. i dont know whta all this means but something inside of me is telling me that something isnt right between us?
2007-12-19 08:13:50 · update #1
i have told him it bothers me but in an inconspicuous way, i am afraid to talk to him about it coz i dont want to make the situation worse but at the same time i should be able to talk to him about it, i just need to find the courage. he just moved into his own place with his cousin nad her fiance and their baby and he was working away for nearly a month only coming back for a couple of days on the weekend and then we spent like a whole week together i think maybe he is stressed lpus he is looking for a new jobs etc. im not sure but i also think its possible that because we havent spent any real time together alone lately that might be it too... maybe i should take him out somewher eor something... down the beach for fish n chips for dinner or something
2007-12-19 08:20:59 · update #2
Get back in the kitchen.
2007-12-22 19:32:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say you're stupid. But I wouldn't say there's anything wrong either.
It sounds like you're in a normal relationship, and congratulations too. Some people when they get to this stage tend to leave.
This just means that he's comfortable with you, and he knows he can show his ugly side.
My partner and i have been together for 2 and a half years, and what you've described, is my partner coming home after a bad day at work. He doesn't mean to take it out on me, and i don't take it as if he does. He just knows that he can say ""ohhh f*ckin hell" without me getting cranky.
If it really bothers you, don't ask him whats wrong. Tell him how you're feeling. Make him listen. He may not know that you feel that way.
2007-12-19 16:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Miller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're thinking too much, or making a big deal out of the little annoyances that everyone has a problem with (ie the laptop thing). You said yourself he always tells you he loves you. I don't think there is anything wrong. Sometimes watching too much drama/talk shows on TV can make us look for problems when there aren't any. Be grateful for what you have and acceot that sometimes there will be annoyances but its no big deal.
Swearing and computers go hand in hand too. Why do you think there are so many F keys? lol ;) (F1, F2,F3....)
2007-12-19 16:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by kim s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just sounds like he's comfortable in the relationship. What you've posted sounds like the normal ups and downs in an established couple.
You haven't posted anything that sets off any warning bells or red flags about trouble.
If there is something that is bothering YOU, then you need to tell him.
2007-12-19 16:17:44 · answer #4 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey well if you always listen to yourself listen to yourself now! I mean come on. It doesn't seem like he's treating you right. Well just trust your instincts cause they're usually right. Well i got to go! lol. well good luck bye Cherry
2007-12-19 16:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by Cherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just let it go. If a girl keeps asking her guy if something is wrong, it will upset him even more. Just be pleasant and not worry about it.
2007-12-19 16:20:28 · answer #6 · answered by JoliCart 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like hes stressed out but he has no right to take that out on you. Id tell him he has to go.
2007-12-19 16:17:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh i think its all the working. my bf gets sooo kranky n stresses out n that happens..just try to bare with him adn dont make the situation worste! but if it gets out of hand just confront him. u'll be okay..trust me!!=]
2007-12-19 16:25:45 · answer #8 · answered by barbie <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit talking about it and see if he improves. Guys' greatest fear is hearing their girl say, "We need to talk." Observe calmly and if you determine is is deliberately picking fights, then something is wrong.
2007-12-19 16:28:24 · answer #9 · answered by beez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just listen to your instincts..that little voice is talking, don't push it aside. i won't tolerate being cussed at...no woman should. good luck~
2007-12-19 16:16:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋