I am almost 50. I went to therapy for 3 years to get over growing up with a horrible, cold and manipulative mother. She is still cruel and says horrible things about me to the rest of the family and they believe her. I have a wonderful husband and daughter, and my dad is great (they divorced years ago when she left him for someone else). Even though I know it would be better if I never saw her again, I still hurt. She is still just as mean as ever but she has moments when she is really sweet and nice. But then she back-stabs again. I think I might be holding on the good side but it comes with a price....more pain. I want to let it go and not see her anymore. Anyone been able to do this?
2007-12-19 07:45:35 · 5 answers · asked by Blondana 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your 50 years old and its time to put a stop to this. Let her go. She made her bed. Dont feel guilty. You earned some peace in your life.
2007-12-19 07:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 50, you should absolutely be able to let her go. Although you will have to deal with the pain of not having a great mother, ever, there is no reason to KEEP having a horrible mother. You can't change the past, but you certainly can shape the future. Forget about her, if that would be best, and then seek counseling to come to grips with the past. Good Luck.
2007-12-19 07:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by Shadow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I went through that. She has a problem and you are not going to fix her. Don't share personal information that she can use against you. Limit your contact. Be polite, but give nothing that could be used against you. See a therapist to work on these issues for yourself. Surround yourself by loving people and leave the people who are manipulative and cruel behind. Good luck.
2007-12-23 02:56:26 · answer #3 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the love of your husband and daughter and a great father. That's a lot to be thankful for.
As for myself I've been cutting ties with family members who were once close. I may see them at the occassional funeral now and then. Their absence has made a positive difference in my life.
2007-12-19 08:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by Alan K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't had to, but I can tell you in all honesty...I would.....my mother suffers from dementia, and when she got hostile, I had no problem leaving her!!! And she was never like that before the illness...I don't have the patience and don't feel I deserve to be treated that way..and you have a family...stop feeling hurt and guilty and rid yourself of that horrid woman.
2007-12-19 08:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by madsmaha1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋