If you and your spouse were having problems and they decide to move out for however long they feel like it until they get themselves "together". Meaning that they are very depressed, and want to regroup and work on themselves - like personality problems.
Do you think it's acceptable to leave their spouse like this and not give them an answer of when they'll be back, move in with a friend and only talk to them maybe once a day - if that?
2007-12-19 07:43:50 · 16 answers · asked by Sue 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
you can separate according to the bible with the understanding of coming back together.
There are more scriptural reasons to separate than divorce...beatings, non support, denying Christian beliefs, threats to the children, perversions
But the only reason for divorce is adultery.
If they leave you and divorce you for any other reason God will hold them to account for it.
2007-12-19 09:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think moving out is a set up to not ever move back in. If they "have to" work things out solo, it means that they don't know how to work things out together and that means the couple needs marital counseling.
The only time I think it's okay to separate from a spouse is when there is a danger to one of the spouses or the children. (Of course, sometimes they separate for work or military duty, but I mean voluntary separation).
Any married couple can benefit from the Retrouvaille program, which is not counseling but a self-directed system of rediscovery that can help the couple regain what they've lost and get them back on track.
www.retrouvaille.org
2007-12-19 15:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by sparki777 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, leaving represents a real unwillingness to work out the relationship and is the beginning of the real separation unless the other did something terribly offensive to the other that the only way they can deal with it is to have some time away.
I recently helped a young mother move out on her husband while he was at work. He was regularly smoking pot around the baby and she wanted it to end and for the husband to be more responsible. Out of protection for the baby and her real stand on the welfare of her child I helped her move.
The husband has be going through rehab and they are seeing each other but he hasn't made the change for himself yet so he is struggling. Whether or not I was right to do I will never know this side of heaven but for their sake I don't regret my actions at all.
2007-12-19 15:55:21 · answer #3 · answered by Who's got my back? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it wouldn't be acceptable. You guys are supposed to go through trials and tribulations together and not separate. It sounds like he doesn't know how to work things out with you and doesn't know how to communicate the problems and hopes that they'll just go away by the time he gets back. Maybe you could go to counsiling at your place of worship.
2007-12-19 16:12:04 · answer #4 · answered by Kimmy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not alright especially as Christians. For when we get married we become one and have a responsibility to that. To split up like that is to leave part of yourself behind. Now to be fair, I have been going through depression too and understand it can be tough but the answer isn't in splitting up.......you would be a great support for him and his leaving is just cutting off his nose despite his face.
2007-12-19 15:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by bastian915 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your spouse is the source of problems within your marriage then yes...especially if your spouse is unwilling to change the behavior and make the marriage work...
2007-12-19 15:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Acceptable? Yes- especially if they feel their spouse is part of the problem.
edit:
hey thumbs down monkey- ever been left because you were "smothering someone?"
Something like that would solve this problem.
2007-12-19 15:48:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are deeper issues at hand that must surface before you can make any sense of it. For now, the situation is not good. Without communication, there is nothing there.
2007-12-19 15:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No , it is Not acceptable...It sounds like he is either spoiled or his pride is hurt...He should have slept on the couch and the two of you could talk it out. It is a partnership , not one sided
2007-12-19 15:54:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Is it appropriate for 'all cases', no. Separate the majority and all; they are not the same currently. Is it appproprite in the case you are currently asking about? Unknown.
2007-12-19 16:04:11 · answer #10 · answered by jefferyspringer57@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋