Should I give my bf oral? We are in our 20s and have been dating for a year. We never had sex b/c I told him I was waiting until marriage; however, he performed oral on me a couple of times. Even though he’s not forcing me to do it to him, deep down I know he wants me too. The reason why I’m hesitating is b/c I told him I would never do that until marriage. I don’t want to go back on my word and he thinks I’m a liar. Also, he has had a couple of sexual partners and I wouldn’t want to do that unless he’s tested. I know this is a lot, but what should I do? Thanks.
2007-12-19 07:41:22 · 26 answers · asked by bluegirl5 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
JUST DO IT, ALREADY!
2007-12-19 07:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Many are saying to do it and its no big deal! It is a big deal because you have already told him that you have strong feelings about waiting until marriage. If you do this now it may make him think that you obviously care less for your morals and beliefs which in turn can make him wonder what else have you said that you could go back on. The main reason though is to keep your morals and beliefs for yourself! You made a vow about this subject and you should keep to it. If you truly feel this is important to you then you shouldn't just do the deed because he wants you to. Stay true to yourself and I think in the long run he will respect you more for that.
2007-12-19 07:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by alison0997 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I for one don't really like giving oral because an ex of mine abused that situation.
If you have to question whether or not you want to perform oral sex then don't do it. Wait until you are ready for it. Otherwise you may end up resenting him for it.
If what is keeping you from doing it is that he has had multiple partners then ask him to get tested.
ALSO... You can NOT get pregnant by having oral sex!!!
ALSO... You may not be able to get aids from oral but there are other STD's that can be transmitted through oral.
2007-12-19 07:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by Jessie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like you don't want to do it, so I think you have your answer, however, you should probably stop allowing him to do it to you. It's the same thing, and really isn't fair. Don't compromise your principles, but don't pretend that giving is any worse than receiving either. There are plenty of ways for the two of you to be intimate, but if you intend to save intercourse for marriage, then you need to slow down before you go too far.
2007-12-19 07:44:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
if your beliefs are worth anything to you then don't do it, stand by what you believe... and don't let him do it to you anymore, that kinda smacks of a double standard, your either all in or not at all, can't have it both ways without being a hypocrite. You sound like you really don't want to but are afraid him might leave you if you don't put out soon. if this is the case I would tell you to not worry about it and let him leave you, if he cannot respect something you feel strongly about now he won't respect anything you believe in later... not the kind of person you want to spend your life with is it? stand strong and don't comprimise your beliefs.
2007-12-19 07:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by JB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just know, if you choose to do that, you will have feelings afterwards. The goal is for you to be happy with who you are! If doing that is going to compromise your ability to be OK with yourself, then don't. Stay true to your morals and who you choose to be. You have put those values in place for a reason. Don't do something because someone else wants you to or thinks you should. If he is not pressuring you then that is great. He must respect you. Just stick to your guns, all of those things will happen when they are supposed to. .
2007-12-19 07:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by ☆ Spharoe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u feel like wanting to do it, just tell him u really thought it's the best to do it after marriage but u rally love him a lot and u want to do it now. but if u want to do it just because maybe he wants...no better dont! and even if he has experience u dont have to worry- ur still a virgin and there's nothing to be shamed of! so if u really want go ahead!
oh....and about the testing- u cannot have aids from oral sex dont worry!
2007-12-19 07:46:42 · answer #7 · answered by Lynn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if his other partners are the only the reason your not,than I'd talk to him ,ask him to get tested and in return you ll go to the next level of the relationship and give him oral. you'd probably want him tested before you have intercourse too.
2007-12-19 07:50:48 · answer #8 · answered by jess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stick by what is comfortable with you. If you want to wait, then wait, but he will be so thrilled that you did it he won't think about you being a liar if you don't wait.
2007-12-19 07:46:32 · answer #9 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hun stick to your word! He'll thank you later, and if not you will know in your heart that you keeped your word!
2007-12-19 08:01:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you dont want to do it you can be a secondary virgin and still wait till marriage but if you want to do it with him go ahead
2007-12-19 07:46:14 · answer #11 · answered by Austin p 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋