So, I've been with him for over 2 years now, and he's been wanting to try anal sex. I've been hesitant b/c I've never tried it, heard it's not healthy, don't want any physical harm nor am I too into it. However, my biggest fear would be things coming out from my anal area when he withdraws.... if you know what I mean... (sorry for being gross!!!)
So, is it possible for things to come out? Should I do it anally?
Please help me?
2007-12-19 07:39:16 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get a condom and go for it. Make sure that all the propper foreplay is done. I have never seen any of my lady friends have a "problem" afterwards. I would not worry.
2007-12-19 07:41:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have any qualms about anal sex, listen to your instincts and tell him NO!. There's too many risk factors involved, plus most women get no pleasure from it. Your vagina, hands, and mouth (if you don't like oral, that's ok too) and the fact that he's sexually attracted to you should be enough to keep him satisfied.
Years ago I was "coerced"(not rape, but a lot of pressure as in "If you really care about me..") by a former bf to allow this and really felt "dirty" afterwards even though I made him wear a condom.. Fortunately the man I ended up with thinks anal sex is gross too.
Talk to him about other "creative" things you can do in the bedroom that might spice up your sex life.
2007-12-19 07:51:36 · answer #2 · answered by susandiane311 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. the only time you really have to worry about things "coming out" (although they wouldnt really like.. come out, they would just get all over HIM) would be if you actually physically feel like you have to poop. When you feel like you have to poop that is the time when your body has released the poop into the rectum. I'm sorry I'm being graphic, but I dont know how else to explain it haha
So, basically you dont have anything to worry about with that...
I've tried anal. I didnt like it at all. It felt like i was taking the biggest poop in the world, and it hurt about a million times worse. But hey, some people like it. So, just give it a try. But don't let your boyfriend try to force u into doing something you dont want to do... its your body. If you're uncomfortable with it, then tell him no.
2007-12-19 07:51:44 · answer #3 · answered by good golly its molly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly anal is personal preference. If he's asking I'm sure he knows what can "come out" too. If you try it, have him go slow and don't stop at the first sign of trouble, really give it a chance before you say no more but when you've made up your mind about it don't let him tell you otherwise. Yes things come out but just jump in the shower... it washes right off. Me... I don't mind it but every time I do it I get reminded why I don't do it very often and not just stuff coming out.
2007-12-19 07:42:23 · answer #4 · answered by K.S. THiS 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Make sure you've pooped 2 hours prior to the anal. That's enough time for your anus to clean itself out and you won't have your next bowel movement ready to go yet. Odds are nothing will "come out" then.
Now as to whether or not you should. Only and I repeat ONLY if you are completely comfortable with it and trust him. If he's not listening to you or you're not completely on board, then you will probably get hurt. But if you take it very very slow and careful, then it won't hurt you.
2007-12-19 07:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure you have gone to the restroom that day...and no, things will not come out. Use lubrication...alot of it.. start slow.. then go slower.. relax.. I have had girlfriends that had mind blowing orgasm's from anal sex.. some hated it.. you gotta go slow and relax... and rememer LUBE..LUBE....LUBE....You might like it..
Another suggestion is to rent a porn movie with anal sex and then you can see before hand what your getting in too.
2007-12-19 07:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
NOT! It is very unhealthy. It is dangerous because the lining of the rectum is thin and fragile, not like the more appropriate orifice which is of a more rugged design. Also, the only reason anyone would want to do such a thing is the influence of pornography. Might want to reevaluate the guy's character.
2007-12-19 07:46:28 · answer #7 · answered by who WAS #1? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All of my gf don't like anal sex. They all say that they feel "constipated". I did tried it several times and I am OK with it. Ladies enjoy vaginal penetration more because we have more nerve ending there. Guys enjoy anal penetration because we have good muscle tones there. If you do try it, just have baby wipes around for clean up afterwards. Good luck. Happy Holidays.
2007-12-19 07:44:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's not as bad as it seems.....my bf and I do that most of the time b/c we tend to run out of condoms... but it really isn't that bad... if you've been with him for 2 years, then he should care about you enough to not care if certain "juices" come out afterward. just make sure to have some kind of lubricant.....(lotion works pretty well lol) and dump before the whole thing. And the "juices" only come out after an extended period of time.....
2007-12-19 07:46:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to go to the bathroom 3-4 hours before. That's the best time frame. Take a shower before he comes over.
But seriously don't worry about that part.
You could really like the experiance.
2007-12-19 07:43:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋