I know it hurts when a parent treats you wrong. My advice to you is to get over it. Holding grudges and harboring ill will towards another person will only bring you down. You need to think of yourself and love yourself. No one can do you any harm when you love yourself because you wouldn't allow it. If you're of the age to move on, then do so. Forgive them and learn what they did to you so that you don't do it to the next person. My favorite quote and song for those who offend me is "No Weapon formed against me shall prosper." I like this one because it's where my strength lies. If we let offense take a hold of our lives we cannot succeed. We are stuck in one place dwelling on feeling sorry for ourselves or getting revenge. Please know that you're more than that and no one can take your joy.
2007-12-19 07:37:32
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answered by Coco 3
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Depression is a hard thing for the person to deal with, it's not made any easier when others don't understand it.
I have a really good therapist, and after a very long time, I am now coming out of the 'fog' my therapist has helped me realise that the things that happened to me are not my fault and this has allowed me to move on albeit very slowly. We are not responsible for the actions or words of others, however, we can be responsible for ourselves. When I start to feel anxious or sad because of the thoughts I have in my head, I now tell my self it is 'only a thought and a thought can be changed' It is not easy to change our thoughts and behaviours towards ourselves, but it can be done. Remember you are a good person, remember the things you wanted to do when times were not so bad and start to do those things. When things get me down now, I try hard to turn those thoughts from the things that hurt and make me anxious into being pro-active about the things that I want to do and more importantly I know I am capable of. In the words of a very famous philosopher Rene Descartes "I think therefore I am". You are a wonderful person who has experienced the misfortune of being in an abusive situation you can enjoy your life and more importantly you have the ability to rise above all of this. You don't have to prove anything to anybody. You are an individual with the power to change your way of thinking. when you accept this your life will change your mind will be open and with that so will your eyes. When this happens you will be amazed at what is right before you and it will be good.
You have the right to live a happy and fulfilled life, you and only you have the power to change.
Take care of yourself and look at the beauty that surrounds you, Everyday is met with new challenges face them head on and don't be afraid, take one day at a time and set small goals .
2007-12-21 17:08:04
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answered by blondie 1
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I have been suffering from post partum depression for the past one year when I gave birth to a baby boy. I couldn't stop thinking about how my husband loves him more than me and how things might be better if he wasn't born at all. Thus, I stayed away from him because I knew that I might do something I will regret for the rest of my life.
Almost instantly I went to a therapist and convince them that I need help. Among other things, I've tried herbal supplements and other book to treat depression but nothing works like the Depression Free Method. So now I'm proud to say I'm one of the happiest mother in the world. My husband loves us both very much and I thank the Lord for the blessing he gave us.
Depression Free Method?
2016-05-16 10:51:14
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answered by Anonymous
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Well, most people are treated badly by their parents at different times, because their parents are only human and go through their own issues and bouts of anger or depression.
Talk to your doctor about anti-depressants. Really though, when it comes down to it. If your depression is a chemical imbalance, you need tablets. If your depression is not a chemical imbalance, there's nothing anyone can do about it except you. Councelling may help you to help yourself, but it's really your life to "cure." I don't know how old you are, but unless you were sexually abused or something like that, you are old enough to stop blaming your parents for your life. It's no one else's fault if you let your parents have that kind of power over you. Get up, get a job, move out, find a hobby and some friends, or whatever it is you need to do.
2007-12-19 07:39:11
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answered by Rosie_0801 6
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Life is complicated and unfair.
Your parents are people and they're not perfect, but neither are you. Apparently they're trying to get you help.
It takes time to get depression under control, and it's a long and gradual process. You won't feel any immediate improvement in most cases. Some depression can be "cured", but most depression is lifelong and requires medication to control. With depression controlled, your life will get better, you will feel better. But there is NO Quick Fix, it takes time, taking your meds, and you working with your therapists. If after 6 months, you still don't feel ANY improvement, it may be that you should make a change in treatment by changing medicines or changing therapists. You're NOT wasting your time, and the time you put in to this is worthwhile.
And what is "normal"? We all have issues and burdens and problems. Part of growing up is learning to deal with one's problems and issues and burdens.
No one's life is perfect and always normal. Look at Brittany Spears--she had beauty, fame, riches, loving husband, two delightful children AND serious immaturity problems, drug and alcohol problems, judgment problems.
2007-12-19 07:39:04
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answered by chatsplas 7
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Sure. Depression takes a while to relieve. You may have had unrealistic expectations. I know you want fast relief, but even drugs are not that effective in the long run. Plenty of people are treated badly by their parents and they go on to recover and live happy lives. You need to realize that we are tough little creatures - we humans. We are made to be chased and chewed and beaten by the elements and misfortune and pick ourselves up and keep moving. You need some faith in yourself.
Learning to see the positive in the world around you is difficult right now, but you need to start everymorning by thinking of a happy song and singing it to yourself, then you need to think about 3 things that are going OK in your life and know you need to look for more things that are good, or at least not bad, as the day goes on. The next day, sing your song and think of four things that are going OK in your life - each day I want you to add another thing and you need to think about all of them before you get going in the morning, OK? You can also try peer counseling where you would talk with others whose parents abused them and this will help.
But always remember to start with the good things in your life and try to focus on those things each and every day and make that list longer by how you see your life.
It can take time to be sure you are being a better person than your parents were and to be sure you will not treat others as they have treated you - that is the first thing. Then you need to focus on trying to work on the reactions they have programmed into you - work on reducing and controlling your fears and angers and hurts. You can change how you respond to things that happen around you once you are free of the people who are hurting you.
2007-12-19 07:40:06
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answered by Amy R 7
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If your seeing to dr and you feel your not getting anybetter its time to change drs again. There are many reasons for depression. They can range from body chemical make up to things going on in your life
As for your parents, I am sure they have your best in thoughts. But sometimes when you see your child hurting and dont no how to help. Stress just builds. My suggestion is to talk to your parents and try to let them no How you feel
But be aware there is not an overnight cure for depression. But you can get help and live life. If you like to talk more please contact me Best of Luck
2007-12-19 07:39:07
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answered by Michelle C 3
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Me! I was raised by a battering father. I fought depression for many years until I began having suicidal thoughts. I now take 100 Mg Zoloft per day for the major depression and lead a normal life. (keep in mind that "normal" is a setting on a dryer!)
2007-12-19 07:37:32
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answered by the guru 3
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It relies upon how deep the melancholy is, how long this is been taking place, and how huge an effect this is having on their existence. maximum human beings adventure gentle melancholy each and every so often, i discover the main suitable thank you to get previous gentle melancholy is to locate something to do for somebody else, feeling such as you have been clever or helpful to somebody enables lots. yet while they have a deeper melancholy that they are in a place to't shake off, then they ought to study what that's approximately their existence that's inflicting it and spot in the event that they are in a place to repair it, each and every so often somebody will want exterior help to comprehend what that's they don't look to be coping with and the thank you to handle it greater effectual, because of the fact the greater serious varieties of melancholy distort your view of fact and thanks to that they might want exterior coaching. Then there are very extreme varieties of melancholy that are a effect of psychological ailment, those varieties of melancholy each and every so often require medicine, ( even even though it is going to be a constrained course) to assist somebody get previous the worst of it so as that they are in a place to start engaged on the basis reasons of it. this is because of the fact plagued by deep melancholy for a protracted quantity of time devoid of any help would reason differences in recommendations chemistry which will require medicine to place them back in stability. There are some varieties of extreme melancholy that are completely chemical, and that could merely somewhat be taken care of with medicine, and expert help.
2016-10-02 03:07:01
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answered by ? 4
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The choice of living normal afterward is entirely your choice.
Choose to leave your parents or turn them in at school! Or Both.
Sometimes it is the child who thinks they are being treated bad .....but when they get older they can see it from a parents perspective.
When you get older, married, have children you will probably be sure not to be like your parents.
2007-12-19 07:34:08
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answered by LandOfMisty 5
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