Shouldn't a Christian man be head (in charge) of his wife like the Bible says? Serious answers only please.

Question

I don't understand how the idea of equal authority in marriage is Biblical, but I want to know what others believe about this.

Answer 1

You better not let your wife read this! =)

Answer 2

the bible is only only only talking about spiritual topics only.
when it comes to 'which church should the family attend'
thats a spiritual decision and in a christian household thats the husbands call. but look at all the decisions that have nothing to do with spirituallity. like, 'should we buy a house or rent and save'. thats NOT any spiritual question and the person to answer it should be the person who is best with money decisions whether its the wife or whether its the husband. if the wife is a realtor, its HER job to answer that second question, not the husband.

should we allow the kids to read a non KJV.......spiritual
should we paint the house this year.......non spiritual

the smartest person on a topic should decide the non spiritual question. there are also christian households where the wife knows more about the bible than the christian husband in which cases the husband is the decider in spiritual matters but he should not ignore his wifes suggestions simply because she is female. the person who decides can decide to follow a more correct suggestion made by another.

Answer 3

The Bible does instruct men to be the head of the household. He is the one held responsible...........
There is only one captain on a ship, only one lead surgeon in the operating room, one president, one chairman of the board etc etc

It is not only about "calling the shots", it is taking the responsibiltiy when those shots misfire! The captain is responsible for the welfare of all on board, the surgeon to his patient, the president to his organization. It is not a "glory" seat with the power to dictate and abuse.

He is also to be the spiritual leader of the home, setting the example. In reality, this is far too often left to the women by default. Many things are.......In all of the earth, I can't think of anything that is more off track than mankind.

While I am sitting here at my leisure, expressing an opinion to you, my husband is working in the elements earning the money which supports our lifestyle...........WHO do you think has the better deal?

(Dare not to think I am being kept locked in the house until his return. I assure you, I have both the means and the funds to do as I choose.)

Answer 4

YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND HOW EQUAL STANDING IS BIBLICAL? HAVE YOU EVER READ THE BIBLE?

On Marriage:

Matthew 19:4,5
Mark 10:6-8
Ephesians 5:21
Genesis 1:26-28
Galatians 3:28

In general:

Particularly as a Christian YOU must acknowledge women as equals since the Father and Jesus' on earth ministry designated special and EQUAL roles for women. In fact showed a preference for women.

God Himself elevated the status of women forever when He chose to send His own Son, Jesus Christ, to be born of a virgin.
His first miracle was performed in response to a plea from His mother (John 2:1-11).

His first revelation of Himself as Messiah was to a woman (John 4:25- 26).

His greatest miracle was performed at the request of two women (John 11:1-44).

His death was memorialized by a woman (John 12:1-8).

Women were included in His expanded group of disciples (Mark 15:41).

Women stayed with Him throughout His crucifixion, even after the men had left (Matthew 27:55-56).

Women observed His burial (Matthew 27:61).

Following His resurrection, He appeared first to a woman (John 20:1- 16).

He commissioned women as the very first evangelists (Matthew 28:1- 10; John 20:17).

Women were included in the group of disciples who met daily for prayer after the ascension of Jesus (Acts 1:14).

Ancient prophecy was fulfilled when the Spirit of God was given equally to men and women at Pentecost (Acts 2:17).

Women were among the very first “believers” or “Christians” who made up the early church (Acts 5:14; Acts 8:12; 17:4, 12).

The first church in Europe was begun with a group of women and actually met in the home of a woman (Acts 16:13-15).

The early church was staffed by many women (Romans 16:12, Philippians 4:3). The Church Still is today over 85% of all pastoral ministry is done by women.

At least one early church was co-led by a woman (1 Corinthians 16:19).

So the question could be given God's preference to women, shouldn't she be the head. She is given a greater role, more responsibilty, and has performed throughout history with greater devotion and perseverance. (see this line of thinking I am sure makes as much sense to you as your statement does to any thinking person)

If you are even going to bring up Eve, remember she was brought onto man not placed under him.

Answer 5

First of all

a women has her place
one a man CANNOT fill

and a man has His place one a women cannot fill

we as a team , partners , and TOGETHER
FILL the spot God intended for both of us to be

It isnt a me better then you or you under my feet
GOD NO WHERE in His word says that

IT said to love thy Wife as God loved the church ( his people) and GAVE his life for it !!!

and she is to reverence her husband in the reverence as if to God , and even sarah was not ashamed to call Abrahem Lord

she wasnt his servant but HIS PARTNER

and when she said put out the bondwoman...
God told Abraham to LISTEN to his wife !!

IT is a TOGETHERNESS
a RELATIONSHIP
TWO BECOMING ONE

just as we are one with Christ

it is a MUST and God designed it to be that way
ALL through the BIBLE

YOu should read it
and Grow up and allow GOD to be GOD
a Women to be a women
and a man to be a man

PARTNERS , TOGETHER TO FULLFILL
EACH OTHER , AND THIER FAMILY
AS ALL ONE !!!!!!!!!!!

untill the children go on to do that same with thier
partner.......
BUT ALL IN CHRIST JESUS
and NOT
UNEQUALLY YOKED with an UNBELIEVER !!

Cause then there is no true togetherness
cause it says
" How can TWO walk together less they agree ? "

Light cant live with darkness

and it is that TRUTH
many fail to accept and believe
and wonder why thier marriages FAIL

and we all seem to stumble with it
and hard to Accept it is the TRUTH
Going our way rather then GODS !!!

Answer 6

Well the Bible tells us that woman was made from the rib of a man. Because of this woman are essentially apart of us (thats basiclly how marraige came to be). Marraige can be considered the re-unification of the man and woman. Today the man is still considered "the head of the household", but not to the extent where we "own" or are "in charge of" women. By neglecting women we neglect ourselves.

Answer 7

I think if you are a devout
christian and your wife is a lady that go's to church three times a week, and lives by every thing the bible says,then you might live that way. I don't know of anyone that lives everything the bible says, it would be impossible......and some men are not able to make decisions at all,,,,,

Answer 8

Oops - you missed all the other references in the Bible that spell this out for you. I am sure others here will give you chapter and verse or you can just to a search on it - it comes up all the time. It's not just a "do as I say" thing, that's pretty clear in there - it is more about being responsible for her well-being.

Answer 9

No, a Christian man should not be "head (in charge) of his wife", that is NOT what the Bible says!

He is to be the spiritual leader to his entire family, he is to LEAD, not "be in charge" ... do you understand the difference? To be in charge means to be "the boss". What the Bible means by leading is to lead like a shepherd leads his flock. He walks and the sheep follow. He doesn't get behind the sheep and push them, like a "boss" would do, he walks ahead and scouts the danger; the sheep follow him.

Men are to lead their families like Christ led the church. They are to give their lives for their families, and serve them with their entire heart.

Does this sound like being "in charge"? No, of course not.

Answer 10

I believe if the man is willing to obey the other part of that same scripture than a woman would honor her husband and submit to him, but since I have never known anyman that would lay down and daily sacrifice his life for his wife, why is the woman supposed hold up her end if men don't and won't?

Answer 11

Yes the man is the head of his house including his wife, but the bible is explicit that he is to honor her and treat her good. He is not to "lord" over her and put he under his feet. Too many men take this verse to mean they have complete control over everything their wife does.