i want help please!?

Question

Im 14 and im taking my GCSE's so i am very stressed.
My mum and dad are lovely but very demanding and always ask me to do things and its not always because i cant be bothered its just i dont reerally want to but sometimes i cant be bothered. they always ask me to do boring things like get the washing and hang it out and then get more down, out it in the washer put it on and then go and get all the things off the airer, pair socks ect. up and then put them all away . . ive got a big house too so it tajes me ages!!

im not stubborn or stuck up i just want to want to be able to do things for my parents with out creatinga fuss and crying which make them feel bad which means i feel bad and i hate it!!
My friends dont do any jobs for their mum and dad and i just feel really like i wish i were them.
please help me on calming down and not getting mad with my parents and making everything pear shaped! and also how to enjoy doing jobs!!

THANK-YOU!!

xxx

Im not being horrible but why be horrible to me. it ant nice being called a lazy so and so, you aint sitting your GCSE's next month are ya people (viking). sorry if i sound mean. xx thanks to people who are actually helping me and giving me tips !! thanks again xx

And i actually have a job , i cook for myself, i buy most of my own clothes, please dont judge me.

Answer 1

you have some pretty harsh answers here! you need to sit down and explain that the stress about your gcse's is making you tired and irritable, and say that you don't mean to whine, but you need some space and time out, also that you are happy to help, but can they try and understand how on edge you're feeling.

Answer 2

I have to say one thing.. that doing the laundry is the absolute LEAST you can do!! Im 21 and I still live at home. Just because you are 14, "busy" and living under your parent's roof does not mean that you shouldnt do your part . You live at that house and you are a member of that family. You're friends who don't help out around the house are just spoiled and will literally turn out to be helpless and lazy. Since you don't pay rent and your mom and dad give you money and buy you what you need, Id think that some chores are not much to ask. I do tons of stuff around my house, like cleaning, dishes, laundry, yardwork... etc. Heck, I even helped my dad put a new roof on the house! Everyone I knows helps out around the house, its what family does. Its the least you can do as a thank you to your parents for all the things they do for you. Honestly, when you grow up, you won't be lazy like your friends and you will know how to take care of a home and yourself. You think your parents are able to work all day long, come home cook you dinner and take you to all your little functions and events and keep the entire house in order? Not to mention have a life of THEIR OWN. Yeah right... and you think you are stressed and busy because of some GCSE whatever. Just wait until you are in college and have real stress along with real problems in your life. Even worse.. when you have a career someday, your own place and you have to do all the work yourself... or maybe have kids that complain about helping out. If doing some laundry is the least of your worries.. then I envy you. Don't be so helpless and selfish, organize your life and help out those you love without a fuss.
To make work better.. you can always turn up some music that is upbeat. Or, if no one is around, you can call one of your friends and put him/her on speakerphone that way you are talking while folding laundry. Just two things that I do.

Answer 3

I'm not sure if it will work but start ddoing jobs of your own accord. At the weekend whenever you're free, take out the bin or clean a room. Then after a while talk to them, explain that you want to help them but sometimes you're very stressed. Maybe you could do chores or something so it's not a favour here and there but every saturday you need to do an hour of ironing or wash the plates on weekdays and clear the table at weekends. Ironing is good because although it's time consuming you can watch t.v at the same time and mums do so much my mum loves it when i offer to help out with that!
Anyway if it's the same everyweek and you all come to an agreement you won't get annoyed when they ask you and they'll maybe be a bit more lenient about giving you jobs. I think if you explain how stressed you are you can come to a conclusion but don't expect to be chore free. I'm sure that your friends help there parents too sometimes even if they don't admit it - but it might be small things they don't really think about like looking after siblings or making dinner for the family occasionally. And even if they don't i find it helps to think of all the things my parents do for me (or in reponse to your additional details, have done for me in the past at least) even though they work etc, and it makes me feel less begruding to do chores.

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Answer 4

First I want to say that what your are feeling and going through are actually normal and not out of the ordinary.

When I was 14 I held three jobs and had chores of my own on top of that. I had morning chores that consisted of the normal clean the room, make the bed, feed animals, etc. Then I had evening chores like laundry, setting the table and doing dishes.

I hated my parents for making me do all those things and taking up all my free time. I didn't realize at the time that they both were working and then coming home to do laundry, fix meals, and take time from their busy day to interact with me.

The jobs you are being asked to do are training you to complete tasks as assigned and will eventually help you when you get a real job. I always made a game out of chores so as not to get bored.

One way to ease some of the tension and stress is to get the job/chore done before you are asked to go do it. Especially if you are wanting to go out and have fun with your friends.

Remember that you only have your parents around to help you for a little while and then you are on your own.

Good luck

Answer 5

are your parents doing stuff or are they just sitting about, obviously your old enough to pull your weight around the house, but your parents should do theirs also.

doing chores is never going to be fun, but te quicker you do them the quicker you will finish.

if you don't want to do something because you have just finished doing 3 other chores, then maybe you could say, "i've just taken the laundry in, hung up some more and put another load in, i will sweep the floor in a minute, I'm just going to watch the end of this first"

notice you give your reason for not jumping to attention, tell them what your doing now and give them a time that you will do what your asked.

if you feel they are asking too much tell them so. if your getting angry, go to your room and read, listen to some music or watch tv, anything that doesn't involve thinking about it.

Answer 6

Hopefully, after your GCSE's the stress will lighten up. I went through the same thing at home, that's why I moved out at 15. I'm not advising you to do that, but maybe just sit down & have a talk with them if they are generally fair minded.

Answer 7

i can put myself in your position seriously, alot of times my mother would have me do the most insane shitte and sometimes i wouldnt co operate, the most part is in the US you only have to do chores till your 18 then you can go out and have to do your own chores whether you get married early or go to college. Alot of kids have security issues, as if they felt that they wernt loved enough or thier parents wernt there when you needed them most, that creates the control issue, most kids dont want to be put under a leah cause in their mind the leash giver does not have any jurisdiction over them, whether the cause be not feeling love or just being insecure, trust that your parents love you and that by obeying them makes them happy and results in showing thier love, which is what a kid should do for thier parents, love them


! am only 15, i struggle with fallowing directions, i blame it on my adhd meds lol

Answer 8

do keep up with your GCSE'S,you only get one chance in life,and at 14,this is the best time to do your best.
As for helping your parents around the house,they are right to give you chores,and you should do it without question,this is all part of growing up and being a responsible person.
your friends should be ashamed of themselves not helping around the house or doing errands,dont base yourself on their standards,aim higher,and keep cool
good luck

Answer 9

It's one of those Responsibility things. While your friends may not have to do these things doesn't mean you shouldn't have to. You eat your parents food, you use the electricity and things they pay for so it's only fair that they expect you to pull your fair share which means doing things around the house. It's something you'll have to learn to accept while you may never like it. it only gets worse as you grow up.

Answer 10

Jesus.i only got two lines down and i wanted to choke you. stop moaning , get a grip of yourself . right, how long does it take to hang up washing, minuets probably a shorter time than it did to post this stupid question . so get off the net and for once ask if there is any thing that needs doing instead of making your parents beg you. cos if you were mine stand-by....now jog on.