my best friend is getting married in a month. It's an arranged marriage, but her fiance is really really hot! For some reason, she doesn't want to marry him, because she likes this other dood who I really despise. He's not even that nice or cute. I guess she's just upset because it is an arranged marriage.I just don't understand. I mean, her would be husband is really sweet.
2007-12-19 06:55:26 · 15 answers · asked by Navya 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
and he really likes her
2007-12-19 07:00:15 · update #1
her would be husband is filthy rich and she would probably be disowned if her parents found out she was dating someone behind their backs. It's against my religion. I'm Hindu!
2007-12-19 07:08:21 · update #2
Stay out of other people's relationships - good or bad - for better or worse.
Your friend is going to find out that she is cutting her nose off to spite her face by dating someone behind her family and her fiance's back. AND if she gets disowned by her foolish behavior - then that's all there is to it.
Indeed, I would tell your friend that you can't be around her if she is going to insult your faiths by her actions.
But you are not in any way obligated to help someone who is hell-bent to make a mess of her life.
She's behaving like a child - and you are meddling.
You can't control her actions - but you can control yours. So stop meddling. Stay out of the entire situation. Even if you have to bow out of the wedding party.
2007-12-19 07:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps there is more to her would be husband then you know about. He might be good looking but he just might not be her type or captivate her attention. Think of how you'd feel in this situation. Would you want to be forced to spend your life with some one that you can't look at as more then a friend? You might not like the other guy she has feelings for , but obviously he means something to your friend. You should be supportive of her let her know that things will be ok. Remind her that it's her religion or tradition to do this, instead of berating her for liking someone else try to help her understand the good points and things she can learn to love about her arranged husband.
2007-12-19 07:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you marry her arranged husband. Here's the deal, this is not about you. Why do you need to side with anyone? It's not a for her or against her situation. Hang back, mind your own business, let her do what she'll do but if you want to stay friends with the arranged fiance, do it.
2007-12-19 07:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by Lex 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't pick sides. This is not a choice you need to or should be making. Your friend will have to make her own choices. There are more to a marriage (arranged or not) than looking hot and having money.
2007-12-19 07:42:37 · answer #4 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean "who should I side with?" You should side with your best friend and support her in whatever decision she makes. You don't marry someone because they are hot. You marry someone because you have an emotional connection with them and you love them.
You keep adding things on but what you don't get is that all of that is irrelevant to what you asked. If you are truly her best friend then you need to support her decision, whatever it is. All of the other stuff is stuff that she and her parents can worry about and has nothing to do with you. Just support your friend.
2007-12-19 06:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe that in 2007, almost 2008, arranged marriages still exist!!! It's totally ridiculous!!
2007-12-19 11:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by Sharon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes but if that is not the man that she loves it doesn't matter how hot he is, he is just not the one that she wants. A marriage is or should be forever so spending forever with somebody that you feel so/so about is not very comforting. That is probably how she feels. It is not about you!
2007-12-19 07:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by Amber B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally do not agree with arranged marriages. Let your friend decide who she should marry.
Frank, there are many arranged marriage here in the US. It is not ilegal.
2007-12-19 07:04:01 · answer #8 · answered by bleh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
doesn't sound like there's much up for debate...or that it's even your problem since you're not the one arranged to marry. sucks for her though...i would want freedom of choice!!!
2007-12-19 10:35:23 · answer #9 · answered by Future Mrs. Beasley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could encourage her to spend time with her would be husband to try and get to know him before dismissing the idea. But in the end you have to support your friend, and who knows maybe you could keep the hottie for yourself?
2007-12-19 07:02:31 · answer #10 · answered by Kit 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋