Am I over reacting?

Question

I invited my boyfriend to dinner at my apt. after a long stressful day at work and then holiday shopping i really wanted to get home and spend some time with him and eat a late dinner and he gets a phone call and is on the phone talking about nonsense stuff with a male friend of his. i kept signaling him to hang up so we could eat together and he did after 30 min he then hangs up and accuses me of being overemotional for wanting dinner time to be only him and me

Answer 1

Explain to him that you were hoping to just have dinner together and spend some time with him uninterrupted, and did not appreciate him staying on the phone for 30 mins about nothing important.
If he does this on a regular basis, he is being very insensitive. However, if it was a one-off, let it go.

Answer 2

No, you're not overreacting.

Regardless of what he considers normal dinner behavior, and regardless of the fact that he's your boyfriend, it was your apartment and he was there at your invitation. He should be willing to bend to your rules under those circumstances.

He should NOT immediately accuse you of being overemotional... you gave him 30 minutes to get off the phone!

Answer 3

It was very inconsiderate of him to do that. You had taken the time to prepare dinner and he accepted the invitation to come over and have dinner with you. When it was ready he should have told his friend he would chat with him later instead of leaving the dinner sitting there getting cold. Also, it is very rude to sit on the phone for a long time when you are with someone else visiting.

Answer 4

Sounds like you need a new boyfriend. Sadly in this new age cell phones have somehow become an excuse to be rude and uncaring. My last gf used to be on it constantly and I actually banned it when we went out. She just could not deal with the fact she did not have it. Of course we broke up after I found out how shallow she was but I should of known from that first date when I was secondary to a frikkin phone!!!

Answer 5

If you took the time to prepare dinner for him...he should have taken the time to tell his friend to talk at a later time!

I think your boyfriend was being a bit self-centered and as such would suggest you find a better man willing to dedicate himself to a relationship with a loving person as yourself!

Answer 6

Drop the whole conversation. Next time it happens, simply go to him and tell him dinner is ready. Then put it all on the table and begin eating. It is up to him if he wants to continue a silly conversation and eat cold food alone. Don't nag...just do it.

Answer 7

no ur not overreacting.....u did the right thing and hes the one thats wrong because if he came to ur apt to spend time with u.....he should only be with and think about only u at the moment because he can talk to his frs 24/7 but he cant hang out with u and spend time with u all the time.....so i think ur right and u should be mad at him for couple of days b/c he needs to learn his lessons and start caring for u more!

Answer 8

His behavior is not a good sign. It sounds like you wanted to spend time with him, but he was passively-aggressively telling you that he didn't want to spend time with you (by dragging out a pointless phone conversation). Then, as an added bonus, he blames the argument on YOU.

This is not good.

Answer 9

no you're not overreacting.. he's being a jerk and he's being insensitive. doesn't he know that it's rude to talk on the phone during a date or at least during dinner time? *sigh.. some men..
try making him see your point of view.. if he really cares about you, he'll understand..

Answer 10

Do not yell or scream. Let him know that you had had a hard day and were looking foreward to the peacful alone time with him cause that calms you down.