My friend let her son's (15) girlfriend (15) spend the night to save gas on a ski trip they were taking the next day. I say it is not good to open that door. It will lead to so much more. she says her mom let her boyfriend sped the night. my mom let my brother go overnight to a different city with his girlfriend. granted in all situations here they slept seperate. I will never do this. so who is right? If u are ok with it at what age should she let her them spend the night together if not now?
2007-12-19 06:09:24 · 11 answers · asked by bitterroot_brats 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No one is "right" or "wrong" in this situation. It is all just according to how we want our children raised. My mom let me spend the night at guy friends homes but we were simply friends. I don't recall one time where I spent the night at a boyfriend's house though until I was sixteen or so. But what my mom did with me is different than how i want to raise my children. Would I let my daughters or my son spend the night at a boyfriend or girlfriend's house.... absolutely not. My reason for this is because I don't want my children to do the things I done...........
But if you trust your chidren and the people they date and you feel comfortable with letting them sleep over at eachothers homes, well, that is your choice and no one has any right to say anything to you unless you are knowingly putting your child in danger. in this situation, let your friend raise her child the way she wants. Just because that is what she is doing doesn't mean you have to do the same and just because you disagree with some of her parenting skills or judgement doesn't mean you need to call her out on it. After all there is most likely things about you that she does not agree with. And besides, have you seen gas prices lately... I would probably make an exception too, but I'd end up staying up all night pretending I knew what I was doing while trying to clean my husbands shot gun................ the gun doesn't work, but it would be useful for scar tactics (JK)
2007-12-19 06:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by homemaker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the maturity of the child. I'm 18 now and a friend of mine has been smoking pot with his parents since he was 17 and another with her parents since she was 14. The parents would rather be aware of what their child is doing because honestly smoking pot and drinking isnt that bad and if their children start acting strange then they know something is up and its not jus their kid hiding a 6 pack or a bag of weed. Neither of them have done any other drugs and have no desire to. Both of them go to good universities and get good grades. My parents arent like that however but really it doesnt change much for me I just have to sneak around it which is part of being a teenager anyway.
2016-05-25 01:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by myung 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They aren't your kids, so this makes it, Not your Problem! You have to realize that there are 12 year old kids having sex these days. I am way not o.k. with that at all, but it is happening with or without the parents allowing it. 15 yes that is a little young, but it was to make things easier for the next day of events, not to encourage them to start a fiery romance at 15. These kids are probably at "2nd or 3rd base" so an overnight, for convenience purposes,for the parents involved, it was probably nothing to have a big debate about right and wrong. It is about trusting your kids and your own judgment.
2007-12-19 07:01:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother and father started letting my boyfriend stay the night when we were 17. He was not sleeping in my room, he was in another room and nothing went on. However I must add that that was only because it was in my father's house. At about 17 and a half my parents would let me stay the night other places with him. I guess they figured I was close enough to 18. They also made sure I was on Birth Control. I thing they handled it quite well.
2007-12-19 06:23:12 · answer #4 · answered by Jami W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i would say its alright but as long as they sleep seperately and i mean like across the house seperately. because i remember when i was 15 and i gurantee when my boyfriend spent the night its not hard to guess what we were doing when mommy and daddy went to sleep. i would say 17 at least before they should spend the night together. because by that point they are pretty much close to adulthood.
2007-12-19 06:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by slakster510 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have known people who have allowed the teens to do it and things went fine, however I also have known some where it didn't go well and someone ended up pregnant. I wouldn't be willing to do this. I think it potentially could lead to problems.
2007-12-23 03:01:18 · answer #6 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think it is a good idea either unless there is really excellent adult supervision, usually meaning me or like my sister.
My oldest daughter's boyfriend had a really messed up family and was basically homeless for a few months, when they were Jr's. I let him live with us for a few months and it was a mistake. Separate rooms, of course. Constant supervision but it still was a mistake.
2007-12-19 06:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
only those guily of opening up doors in their past, open those doors!
I see nothing wrong with this. I had 4 teens at once!
IF 2 teens are going to do what ever it is they are going to do, it doesn't mean they had to do it THAT NIGHT! They will find places to do it
your being a judge and who appointed you one?
2007-12-19 06:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In seperate rooms, sure.
In this day and age, one can get in to a lot of trubble as a parent if ones kid have sex with a minor...
2007-12-19 07:29:03 · answer #9 · answered by luc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't have a problem with this.....the boy would sleep in one of my sons rooms and the girl friend in my daughters room......None of that sleeping together crap....
This is how my parents handled it.....
2007-12-19 06:15:26 · answer #10 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋