2007-12-19 05:51:28 · 50 answers · asked by <minty> 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
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2007-12-19 05:53:45 · answer #1 · answered by sum142121 1 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I think it would be hypocritical of me to tell you not to do so, as I'm Catholic and I often use(d) and view(ed) pornography "to spice up things".
However, in heart I know it's wrong to do so. Now, I got to the phase where looking at pornography makes me feel just wrong. Maybe it's because we just got our daughter born (6 weeks old now), it's our first child... and I view the world/people in a completely different way, the way I should have viewed it before. I couldn't imagine my child being a porn "star", ever. So, I feel bad for all those young and used (mostly) girl "stars"... and it makes me feel ashamed, bad.
Now, from religious point of view -- you could stick to the hardline, where it says that even if you watch someone with lust, it's cheating, but let's be honest -- we're all humans, we get aroused by visual (and audio) things.
However, the real question is -- are you sure you need to "spice up" things in your bedroom? Shouldn't you two be happy and fulfilled with eachother, without audio/visual help of porn-movie? Why not try something else.. other audio-visual "spice up" things, like dimmed lights, candles, some erotical music, etc... instead of porn movie? I am not sure if you two are married or not, but if it's premarital sex, pornography is not the only thing to worry about. Question is -- are you two slaves of lust and is your relationship based on sexual pleasure and lust or are you two really for eachother? If you are, at the end of the line, you'll come to see that you don't need anything else than your significant other to make it all work out.
Remember, we're all humans, we all make mistakes, we all can (sincerely) repent. However, repent means to turn away. Are we doing that, that's the real question.
Enjoy your life, forget pornography. It may be hard, especially if you "got used to it" (addicted), but Jesus loves you, He'll help you get through it and away from it. When you fall (you surely will), don't worry, He'll pick you up, dust yourself off, admit you're just another sinner and try again. Life is a list of failures, we just have to do our best not to fail that much...
Good luck, God bless.
2007-12-19 06:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The use of pornography by adult, consenting couples to add to an already healthy sex life is not only harmless, but healthy. Watching pornography together can be a bonding experience for a couple, as well as useful inspiration for the formulation and acting out of fantasies.
In short, no, there's nothing wrong with it.
2007-12-19 06:33:00 · answer #3 · answered by chibisqueak 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, as the body is the temple of the holy spirit. The body is made in the image and likeness of God. To look at pornograpy is to incite lust for the object and then for others. Pornography has the detrimental effect upon the human psych of causing a person to view other human beings as objects rather then as human beings made in the image and likeness of God.
If you are a good Christian would you want other people watching you make love to your spouse for educational or spicing up their love life purposes?
Do you think that you could watch the pornography with Jesus Christ next to you?
Another aspect of pornography is that it incites the passions in a human being and causes a person to want a release now. Hence, why masturbation is so linked to pornography.
Pornography teaches a human being the me and now concept. It teaches a person to want instant gratification as they feel the need when they need. In a true and loving relationship it is not possible to live in a me and now concept. It is very unlikely that as a couple you would feel me and now at the same time as you both desire to be me and now. A true relationship is based on sacrifice and responsibility. Love is patient, love is kind.
The sacrificial person full of purity makes the greatest lover to their spouse. They are willing to sacrifice their own pleasure and joy to make their spouse happy. Sacrifce and responsibility are incompatible with the the Me and Now fruits of pornography.
In essence pornography rererts a soul back to a sick childhood of wanting things now and it is all about me me and me. Just like how a little child demands to have sweet now and only for me.
Pornography distorts the way we see reality and the way we view human beings as children of God. Pornography teaches us to view each other as animals that give pleasure.
True Love is about responsibility and sacrifice. The sacrificial and responsible lover who is pure of heart in their love for their spouse and God makes the greatest lover!
2007-12-19 06:07:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is wrong for Christian couples to use pornography to spice up their bedroom.
They should use each other to spice up their bedroom and not what someone else does in the bedroom.
2007-12-19 05:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by lenny.wise 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, I am kinda leaning towards it's better to have a couple view pornography together for their mutual pleasure, than for one half of the couple to be using it for their own pleasure and possibly becoming "addicted" to it and hiding it from their spouse.
I am not married, and even when I was neither of these situations came about, so I'm not answering from authority, just my best guess and gut feeling.
2007-12-19 06:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by Marvelissa VT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like how people continue to say it's wrong, but they don't say WHY it's wrong. I guess you could say it's wrong to ever use something that could create sexual fantasy about another person, but if you don't sometimes fantasize a bit about others now and again then you're not human.
I don't see anything wrong with it at all. It's not hurting anyone or creating any negative circumstances. In fact, it could actually help strengthen the marriage if it creates an improved sex life. Just watch out for jealousy, women don't like their husbands to look at another woman for too long even if it's just for fantasy purposes.
2007-12-19 06:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do not know if you are Catholic or not but from the Catechism of the Catholic Church.
2354
Pornography consists in removing real or simulated sexual acts from the intimacy of the partners, in order to display them deliberately to third parties. It offends against chastity because it perverts the conjugal act, the intimate giving of spouses to each other. It does grave injury to the dignity of its participants (actors, vendors, the public), since each one becomes an object of base pleasure and illicit profit for others. It immerses all who are involved in the illusion of a fantasy world. It is a grave offense. Civil authorities should prevent the production and distribution of pornographic materials.
So I would say that it is wrong.
2007-12-19 06:04:29 · answer #8 · answered by scholar_wood 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's wrong only if YOU think it's wrong. If you worry about what others think about your bedroom activities, then you have something else to discuss.
I personally don't recall seeing anything in the Bible prohibiting toys or playing "Please Mr. Policeman, what can I do to get out of this speeding ticket?", or dressing up like a French maid, or watching movies.
2007-12-19 05:56:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pornography is wrong anywhere.
It shows our sexuality as a toy that exists to be abused.
It's 100% against Catholic Morality
2007-12-19 05:59:28 · answer #10 · answered by Bob N 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
In short, yes. You're allowing yourselves to look upon others in a lustful manner. It goes further than that, biblically, but I'll leave it there.
From another angle, it takes away from the emotional intimacy you share with your mate. There may be excitement introduced, due to the feeling of adventure, or of "dirtiness..." but you're taking something that can be deep and turning it into simply a physical act.
2007-12-19 05:56:55 · answer #11 · answered by Potto 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋