My husband, God love him, says I went way overboard on what I bought for the 2 children I nanny.
Your Opinions??
And all of this was bought for with my own $$, but my husband just thinks I did too much.
One of the kids is 2, so I got him a Magna Doodle, a pair of jeans, pair of sweats, 2 shirts, pair of boots, 2 coloring books & 2 reading books.
The other kid I nanny is 3 months old, I got him 2 outfits, a teether, box of blocks for when he's older, and a blanket.
Too much or not enough??
2007-12-19 05:35:09 · 32 answers · asked by bostonsportsfan 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Everybody has such nice and generous answers, thanks guys;-)
2007-12-19 05:45:37 · update #1
To everyone that questioned why my husband was not happy, is because my employers tend to take advantage of me, my hubby feels that I shouldn't get there kids so many presents when in the end I'll be working it off someway, somehow for my boss's.
2007-12-19 06:03:16 · update #2
You spend quality time with these kids and I am sure you treat them like your own. I think you did great. People buy gifts for others, because they want too, and most of the time do not get concerned about the money. It's something we all do this time of year. It doesn't matter if they are your kids or not. You spend more times with those kids than the parents I am sure. I think you did great. It's your money, so tell your husband to mind his own business and not to worry, because he will get some presents too. Merry Christmas.
2007-12-19 05:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by lkycharmz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much? Maybe. Not enough? No way.
Two issues here- the appropriateness of the gifts. I think you got plenty. Small children have no idea of what's too little or too much.
The other issue is what happens between you and your husband over these gifts. You said you spent "your money" so I'm guessing there are three kitties in your house- "mine," "his" and "ours." I like this concept pretty well.
What might cause *him* some heartburn is if he thinks that you were more generous to the kids than to him. I don't know what you got him, but it might be good to remember that if he's made enough of an issue for you to put the question here, it's important to him. Make sure he gets plenty. And if you can make him something personal- knit him a scarf, for example- include that with stuff you bought- the iPod or set of socket wrenches. And take time to write him something romantic and put that in a card with his presents. It's nice to make sure some children have a good Christmas, but it's also important to make sure your husband doesn't feel slighted.
Have a great Christmas!
2007-12-19 05:54:44 · answer #2 · answered by going_for_baroque 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your husband, it is overboard. I am a nanny too and I love those kids like family but I think one present is enough. Unless you have a ton of money, then go ahead and buy your little heart out. My husband would be upset if I bought all of that on kids that I WORK for.
2007-12-19 05:47:45 · answer #3 · answered by Katie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think its too much! Especialy when a lot of it is clothes that would buy anyway. I never liked to get my kids too much caue after a while it seems like the more you get, the more they expect year after year! I say keep it reasonable. And I think you have. I would probably even get maybe one more toy! Just my opinion. Every family has their own way of doing things. Do what you think is best! Merry Christmas!
2007-12-19 05:44:52 · answer #4 · answered by vicki s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that money is not a huge issue for you and the gifts sound great. If buying these gifts put a financial strain on you and your husband then I would say it was too much. It's definitely enough!
2007-12-19 05:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by Precious 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well to me it seems you over spent on these children. Maybe next yr you can set a budget on your spending.
You could always save a few of the gifts and give them as birthday presents.
2007-12-19 06:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too kind-I am sure the families will be touched by your thoughtfullness. Tell DH that this will give you some fun things to do with the kids in the new year:-)
2007-12-19 05:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by VAgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow. your a very kind person. i do the same with my friends i usually spend $20 or $25 on them but thats about it.
but it is alot for them. its their parents job for that. but
yah even if its or money you should make the decison together to spend money but only if over $100 or something and it looks like you spent that much.
2007-12-19 05:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by yomommma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You spend a lot of time with these kids so I'm sure you care about them...so I see nothing wrong with the amount of stuff you bought.
2007-12-19 05:44:08 · answer #9 · answered by imamom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I, like yourself it seems, enjoy giving more than receiving. Some people just dont get it but owell. Definitely enough though, you hooked em up big time!
2007-12-19 08:17:45 · answer #10 · answered by Ballzy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋