Should I Have a Party???

Question

I am in the process of divorce... Bummer
But a friend suggested I have a "I'm Divorced" party with friends at a club. I know Shanna Moakler had one and it looked like fun I guess... But I feel it would be wrong of me. What do you think?

I think that everyones answers so far are great... I think now more than ever I want to just let go of the past, move on and get over the pain I feel. When its all over and done with more than anything I want to be surrounded by family because I know I'm gonna have myself a good cry. Then I'm off to Hawaii :)

Answer 1

I think it's kind of tacky. Why celebrate publicly that a union failed? Just my opinion though, do whatever you want.

Answer 2

Although it's becoming common these days, I think they are very very tacky.

See my question about this - has many different opinions.

Am I the only one who thinks it is wrong to have a divorce party? I don't mean a few friends - I mean a huge bash like a bachelorette party - sometimes even with strippers and hooking up with strange guys. It seems (I could be wrong) to be only women who have these.

I understand the sense of relief when the process is finally finished, but the fact is - they are celebrating a DIVORCE. A divorce is the failure of people's love, hopes, and dreams. A failure to make it work. A failure to keep the vows and a failure of your promises of "till death do us part".

It would hurt me terribly if, heaven forbid, my husband and I divorced and he "celebrated" it - celebrated his permanent separation from the woman he held, loved and cherished all those years. I would never do that to him, even if he did awful things to me that caused me to divorce him.

When you are divorcing, yes - you move on. But you do so with wisdom and maturity, I hope, and not spite and resentment.

Agree?

Answer 3

Well, I think you should have one if it'll make you feel better! Divorce is a stressful thing and if having a party will make you feel better for a night, I say go for it! You obviously got divorced because you weren't happy in your marriage so you can consider this part a new beginning. Maybe instead of calling it a Divorce Party, call it a New Beginning party! Just have fun!

Answer 4

If you feel it is wrong then don't do it just because someone suggested it would be fun. It seems kind of tacky to me. I was thrilled when I got divorced but I would never have thrown a party celebrating it.

Answer 5

Going through a divorce is a difficult process, so surely you will have a lot of feelings about it. You should do what feels right to you. If a party doesn't feel right, don't have one.

Answer 6

If you're happy about this divorce, then go have one. Usually people don't celebrate divorces because it's a sad thing to go through.

Answer 7

If you fell it would be wrong dont do it. I know once my divorce was final, it was kinda like a saddness came over me, like wow its finally over. Not that I wanted my ex back, so partying was really the last thing I was in the mood for.

Answer 8

Depends. How do you feel about your divorce? Is it still raw and difficult to deal with......or have you never been happier in your life?

If you're happy - party!

Answer 9

Do it only if you feel like celebrating your divorce. If you're not comfortable with it, don't do it; it won't be fun!

Answer 10

she is not in your shoes so she has no idea where you are right now. do what is good for YOU!! if you feel wrong, don't let anyone else talk you into it.

good advice for all areas of your life at ANY time....