i really liked this guy and we dated for 3 years.now he is engaged,has a baby on the way and wants me to be his best "man".do i say yes or no?
2007-12-19 04:47:21 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i still really care for him.and he (in my eyes)still loves me and is only getting married because of the baby.He even called his fiancee,kalee,marina
2007-12-19 04:49:26 · update #1
we broke up because he moved away for college and slept with kalee while drunk.resulting in him getting little miss steal your man pregnant.
2007-12-19 04:58:06 · update #2
its not resentment towards the couple just kalee.when he left i was preggers and 3 weeks after he left i miscarried.he didnt even visit because she was skrewing him and trapping him in her web.shes as dumb as a load of bricks add that to his iq and im supprised they had sex.i really want to go to see if he calls her me again.
2007-12-19 05:07:09 · update #3
Wow, you are really hung up on this guy still. And see how you defend him? You put all the blame on his new woman -- but it takes two to tango, you know.
It's a bad idea to even go to this wedding let alone be his "best man." I would completely cut yourself off -- it doesn't sound like this could be just a regular friendship without hard feelings simmering underneath. I would cut clean and MOVE ON. Find yourself someone new, not involved with anyone else and not engaged, no matter what your history with him.
2007-12-19 10:54:17 · answer #1 · answered by Fauna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 19:18:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still have feelings for him, why put yourself in that position? I would tell him that you'll be there for him as a friend but you don't feel comfortable, as his ex, being a part of his wedding party.
EDIT - Honey, don't you know that it takes two? You can't blame their entire relationship on her. I'm sorry that you had a miscarriage, that must have been very difficult, but he's the *** for not coming to see you when it happened, not her. You're placing all of the blame on the wrong person here.
2007-12-19 04:51:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ray 3 · 9⤊ 0⤋
If you are friends, and his fiancee knows his past relationship with you and she is ok about it, then go ahead.
If you have ANY feelings other than friendship towards him, politely decline the offer.
Also, IMO the Best Woman and Maid of Honor positions should be for those who SUPPORT the relationship that will come forward with the marriage. If you do not support it, then do not stand up in it.
2007-12-19 06:58:58 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After reading your added details, this sounds like a toxic situation that is not healthy for you. If I were you, I would cut my losses and move on with my life. Wish your ex well, and politely decline the invitation.
2007-12-19 08:08:36 · answer #5 · answered by SE 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he really wanted to visit, he would have- bottom line! I think he's playing both of you. It's time to walk away and find someone single who is deserving of your love and attention. If you keep in contact with this man, it will only end bad!!
Let him go, more on and be happy!!
2007-12-19 05:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Do not be part of this. If you broke up, there was a reason. And the woman didn't force him to have sex to get pregnant. Let yourself get some distance and repair your heart. Sounds like you are just getting set up for disappointment.
2007-12-19 04:54:59 · answer #7 · answered by #2 in the oven 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
She wasn't holding a gun to his head....you are blaming HER...but he was in a relationship with YOU and cheated....and he is probably just asking you as a way to keep you in his life in case things don't work out... there are a lot of better guys out there...forget about this one and go find yourself someone who is more deserving of your love.
2007-12-19 08:26:34 · answer #8 · answered by beaners1229 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't say yes. You obviously don't approve of this wedding. Therefore you shouldn't have any part in it. I don't think you should even go as a guest.
2007-12-19 08:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Say no, don't even go, sorry but you have no place there. Its his decision to get married, even if its a bad one. He has a pregnant girlfriend, think of how she would feel. Tell him to move on with his life and take care of his responsibilities.
2007-12-19 04:53:28 · answer #10 · answered by tarie75 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋