Is there any hope for him?

Question

My cousins grandpa has pancreatic cancer that has spread to his brain and all through his body. The hospital gave him less than a month to live. The morphine isn't really helping the pain and he is deteriorating day by day. He had surgery last week and was fine! But this is such a surprise. They are supposed to come over Christmas Eve, we exchange gifts and everything. Do you think they will come. And even worse.. What are his chances? Good advice please. This is not a joke.. it is completely and totally serious. Thanks.

I didn't make it really clear;

he had surgery last week and was ok afterwards. like the same.

but just today they said he only has a month to live and is now slowly deteriorating. :[

Please pray.

Answer 1

The doctors aren't always right. Miracles may happen...especially during this season. The doctors, now more than ever, will give him 1 on 1 attention. No one likes to die, but that is part of living. If the doctors think he has a month or so to live, make that month be the best. His chances, sadly, seem slim. Everyone may not come, they may stay close to him. Don't have them travel, but all go over to his house for Christmas instead. God forbid, if he dies, you will be lying by his side to the end.

God Bless Him.

Answer 2

Cancer is a horrific destructive disease. Medical science is working wonders today but the disease is still deadly. When morphine is prescribed for pain the end is usually quite close. In fact as the morphine is increased it hastens the passing but at the end the passing is to be wished for.
The last rebound may give hope but it could be merely the body having one less battle to fight and having a resurgence of energy.
Best to pray for your cousins family and be there as friend. When the inevitable happens be a friend and be there to listen, love and care.

Answer 3

Well, the cancer has spread to his brain and the rest of his body. There is always hope. It is human nature to hope. If he's your cousins Grandpa, that makes him your Great Uncle, just FYI.

You never know. He might be having a good day come Christmas Eve. If not, then you shouldn't feel sad. Death is not something to be feared. It is a natural progression of life. Spend time with those you love. Don't internalize their actions. Don't take anything they say or do personally. I have noticed that the people who have the hardest time when someone dies are the people who make death all about them. My uncle did that when my Grandfather died. He upset everyone, We had all made our peace with it, then he comes in wailing.

Answer 4

Honey, I am so sorry that your cousin's grandpa has pancreatic cancer.
Sadly, pancreatic cancer is one of the most agressive forms of cancer, and once it has metasticized to the brain and throughout the body, it's just a matter of time before he begins to shut down.
I just lost someone to cancer a couple of months ago. It's an ugly death.
I'll keep your cousin and family in my prayers. I can't tell you if he'll make it until Christmas or not, just be understanding if she has to cancel.

Answer 5

Wow, I am sorry to hear this. Honestly it doesn't sound like his chances are good. He might not be able to make Christmas eve, if in pain he probably won't want to. Maybe everyone could go over there.

My only advice is to try to make the time he has left as enjoyable as can be. I'm sure this is easier said than done.

Answer 6

I bet his house/ property faces Northeast or, the patient sleeps in the Northeast. Check it out and tell me if I am wrong.

If I am right, the patient should move out of the room or of the house. He should always wear white. Never red, yellow, beige or brown. Nobody should wear red in their home. Avoid burning incense or candles in that home. Check out if the stove or kitchen is located in the NE. If it is, do not fire the stove until Feb 5 2009. Or, relocate the stove to another area, far from NE. If the Main door is facing or located in the NE, close it and never use it again. Use any alternative door.

Two years ago, I knew of someone who was also dying, refused surgery/ confinement by 5 best hospitals in Manila. And I was right in telling that the patient slept in the NW. (That year, the death area was NW!) I told the wife similar things... the husband is still alive and now busy visiting the beautiful malls around Manila and suburbs.

That's a bit of Feng Shui for you. There's nothing to lose. There is nothing to buy.

Answer 7

I cannot predict someone's death nor can a dr. to be honest.
I just lost my grandmother December 8th to Metastisized Colon Cancer ( went to her Liver and Lung) and she was diagnosed in May.
Is the Oncologist still pursuing Chemotherepy or is he on Hospice?
She was sitting up in the chair a week before she passed away.
Cancer is a horrible disease, this much I know for sure.

Answer 8

Love_like AND Klinopin, I'll extend prayers to the BOTH of you!

My heart weeps for you two!

I do agree with the other posters about visiting his house instead of them traveling, especially since he's in bad shape and he needs all the focus right now. So, go see him, and make the best of the time he has left.

Take Care!

Answer 9

I am sorry to hear that. Life is miserable, and if we like it or not we must accept death. These material bodies have a beginning and an end. There is no material science that can stop death, old age and disease, that is the nature of this material world, we all must die, soon or later, no scape. But!!! fortunately, we are some thing else that just these material bodies, we are eternal spirit souls, and the soul never dies.
Please tell your cousin read the Second chapter(Contents of the Gītā Summarized)of this book, from verse 15 till 30. That will give so much comfort to everyone.
http://vedabase.net/bg/
Ps, chant this prayer, will give peace for your cousin and his grandpa.
Hare Krishna Hare Krishna Krishna Krishna Hare Hare
Hare Rama Hare Rama Rama Rama Hare Hare
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c5mYsTGjP_Y

Answer 10

Pray I shall!

About your cousin's grandpa- I really don't know, Honey. It could be that he wants to share one last Christmas with his family and so is rallying for that. Or it could be that a miracle has occurred. In which case, I will jump up and down with joy with you!

Much luck and love to your family.