How can I get my Jehovahs Witness parents to talk to me again after I have left the religion?

Question

achtung, what are you talking about? That did not answer my question AT ALL!!!

Answer 1

I must disagree with the following from achtung...

Becoming baptized as a Jehovah's Witnesses is not a trivial step. At a minimum, a student must demonstrate months of regular meeting attendance and public ministry, then must himself express the desire to be baptized. The candidate then spends hours answering hundreds of bible questions wherein he expresses both a clear understanding and personal conviction regarding Jehovah's Witness teachings in at least three separate interviews with three different elders. The candidate must vocally agree to be baptized in front of hundreds or thousands of eyewitnesses, and must be publicly immersed in water. This is not a momentary emotional decision by an unreasoning child. Dedication as a Witness required hard work and determination at the time.

I was baptised at age 16. I knew how to "study" to make sure I knew all the answers, anyone can memorize things. Did that mean I was mature enough to make that life changing decision? NO! A minor cannot legally even enter into a contract with someone because they lack the maturity and life experience to make a sound decision. I was pressured by my family and friends to get baptised because I was the last of our "group" that had not done so. I even had an elder tell me he knew I did not want to be baptised but passed me through to make my parents and the congregation happy. My nephew who is only 16 has decided not to be baptised because he told his parents "if Aunt Nikki hadn't gotten baptised we could still be with her and hug her and do stuff together. I'm not making that same mistake."

As far as your parents go, mine are starting to associate with me now. My mom (who told me what my nephew said) told me that I am her child and no one will make her miss out on the rest of my life. We are trying very hard to repair the damage the congregation and society has done. I make no bones about what I do and don't believe to my parents and they are finally accepting me and loving me for who I am instead of what a religion tells them to do. Please stay strong and hopefully your parents will come around too.

Answer 2

:( Wow, that sucks. I don't think her religion is doing her any good. Maybe you could talk to her and tell her religion is supposed to help her be happy, not to make her miserable. Her family is manipulating her and you should tell her so to see if she can open her eyes and see the truth. Jeovah's witness are not accepting of homosexuality. She's a lesbian. Therefore her religion does not accept her. Why would she want that? It's no wonder she seems to be in a self-destructive path. Everyone around her is telling her that she is wrong. Tell her that if she wants to love and workshop God she should follow a religion that accepts her for who she is. There are some Christian denominations(though not many, unfortunately) accepting of the LGBT community. She should follow one of those and leave her obviously non-supportive family. After you tell her all that, give her some time to think about it. Keep contact at a minimum and make her realize she needs to make a choice. She can worship God while being with you, or she can continue going the way she is. Eventually she'll either realize she was happier with you and come back to you or she'll decide to stay, in which case you have no choice but to move on.

Answer 3

Perhaps if you explain that the word "Jehovah" is a man-made corruption, put about by a Catholic monk in the 6rg century, You see, ancient Hebrew has no vowels, so the monk took the four Hebrew letters (transliterated into English) Y.H.V.H. mean (in order, its a great order folks) I am Mother, I am Father, I am Daughter, I am Son. The monk stole the vowels from the Hebrew word "Adoni" (The adored one) & intermingled them with Y,H,V,H, to form the corruption: Jehovah". So all that Jehovahs Witnessess are witnessingm is the corruption that Mankind can perpetrate on each other in order to control them.

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Answer 4

Have a mutual friend or someone in the church set up a meeting and mediate. Someone who had to deal with the same dilemma.

Answer 5

Some Jehovah's Witnesses become inactive because they feel unable to continue preaching or certain other Christian obligations for a few months or even years. These are not counted in any JW statistics, but they are considered "brothers" and "sisters" by active Witnesses. Their standing is entirely different from those who are disfellowshipped or disassociated.


Jehovah's Witnesses practice the Scriptural practice of disfellowshipping for unrepentance of such serious sins as fornication, drug abuse, stealing, and apostasy. Baptized Witnesses who join the military or publicly engage in worship with another religion are considered to have disassociated themselves from Jehovah's Witnesses.

Contrary to the misinformation of anti-Witnesses, it is quite possible to become inactive in the JW religion without becoming disfellowshipped. As long as one's lifestyle does not bring reproach upon the congregation, and as long as one does not advocate one's disagreements with the religion, the congregation has no interest in "investigating", exposing, and disfellowshipping an inactive former Jehovah's Witness.

For those who are disfellowshipped or disassociated, a primary goal is to shock the person into recognizing the serious of their wrong so that they rejoin the congregation in pure worship. Since the primary bonds that are broken involve friendship and spiritual fellowship, it is well understood that family bonds remain intact. Parents, siblings, and grown children of disfellowshipped and disassociated ones sometimes choose to limit what they may feel is discouraging or "bad association" but that is a personal decision and is not required by their religion.

Former Witnesses who are disfellowshipped or disassociated are typically treated in accord with the Scriptural pattern explained in these Scriptures:

(1 Corinthians 5:11-13) Quit mixing in company with anyone called a brother that is a fornicator or a greedy person or an idolater or a reviler or a drunkard or an extortioner, not even eating with such a man. ...Remove the wicked man from among yourselves.

(Titus 3:10) As for a man that promotes a sect, reject him after a first and a second admonition

(Romans 16:17) Now I exhort you, brothers, to keep your eye on those who cause divisions and occasions for stumbling contrary to the teaching that you have learned, and avoid them.

(2 Thessalonians 3:6) Now we are giving you orders, brothers, in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, to withdraw from every brother walking disorderly and not according to the tradition you received from us.

(2 Thessalonians 3:14) But if anyone is not obedient to our word through this letter, keep this one marked, stop associating with him, that he may become ashamed.

(2 John 10) If anyone comes to you and does not bring this teaching, never receive him into your homes or say a greeting to him.

(Matthew 18:17) If he does not listen to them, speak to the congregation. If he does not listen even to the congregation, let him be to you just as a man of the nations

Becoming baptized as a Jehovah's Witnesses is not a trivial step. At a minimum, a student must demonstrate months of regular meeting attendance and public ministry, then must himself express the desire to be baptized. The candidate then spends hours answering hundreds of bible questions wherein he expresses both a clear understanding and personal conviction regarding Jehovah's Witness teachings in at least three separate interviews with three different elders. The candidate must vocally agree to be baptized in front of hundreds or thousands of eyewitnesses, and must be publicly immersed in water. This is not a momentary emotional decision by an unreasoning child. Dedication as a Witness required hard work and determination at the time.

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Answer 6

They won't talk to you? Hmm, if you are apostate, I can understand that. If you are disfellowshiped, well that is their personal decision. If you simply left, again, their decision. I would suggest coming to them when you are feeling good(by good I mean not angry) and telling them that you really want to talk with them. They are your parents.

Answer 7

You could go back to their religion because your parents are more important than any silly superstition. Or not! Do you actually think you are better off without your parents?

Answer 8

If blood isn't thicker than water to them, I wouldn't count on getting on speaking terms with them.

They are an odd bunch, and I have no desire to probe the depths of their dogma.

Answer 9

Don't know but I wish you luck. I knew a family that ended up torn apart for life because of it.

Answer 10

I am so sorry. I don't know what to tell you.
The only thing I can say is don't give up on them - send them letters, photos of what's going on in your life.
Honor them even if they don't honor you.

My heart breaks for you.