Engaged too long??

Question

Have you been engaged for too long that you weren't excited anymore to start planning a wedding and/or it didn't matter to you anymore? If so, how long were you engaged and how did you feel about the whole thing?

Answer 1

i heard a person was engaged for 10 yrs now thats really long!!!

Answer 2

I don't know why you'd get engaged if you didn't intend to have the wedding within a year or so. Isn't that what an engagement is for? "Will you marry me at some undetermined point in the far future?" doesn't strike me as much of a comittment, kind of like a promise ring when you're 12. I have a friend who got engaged three years ago, after he'd asked her for about two years. She finally said yes, but then said she won't marry him for at least five more years. There are absolutely no wedding plans in the works. He so badly wants to be married, and I think she's never going to do it.

I think if you've been engaged awhile without firm wedding plans, that it becomes something you're used to, and it loses its special status. Maybe that's why finally planning the wedding becomes anti-climactic.

Answer 3

A couple that I am friends with were together for 10 years and decided to have a baby and get married. They were engaged for 4 years and were pregnant by the time they had gotten married. At first it seemed as though they werent excited but seeing them that day and seeing my friend cry when she said her vows really showed that no matter how long you are with someone when you take that next step to marry you are still as happy as if it wasn't a long engagement..thats just my outlook on it..there are of course people who are engaged for years because one of them really doesn't want to marry, and in the long run they end up splitting up.

Answer 4

Only engaged for 5 months

Answer 5

lol at D. I got engaged at 21 and finally split up 11 years later. Too long. I'm now married after an engagement of 2 years, that was enough, anything more is too long.

Answer 6

I've been engaged for 2 years now, I was super excited at the beginning and started to plan right away, but then my mom got really sick and we stop the plans.
She came out of the illness like nothing ever happen to her, so now we have started with all the planning.
It is still exciting, or even a little more since is closer and closer =)

Answer 7

I was officially engaged for about 4 months, but I was never really "excited" about the wedding itself, I was just looking forward to the time when people would stop asking "so, when are you getting married?" We'd known for a while we were going to get married, so finally saying "we're doing it" was only a matter of time.

Answer 8

For us, it was exactly the right amount of time. We were engaged eight months, just enough time to book everything and do everything for the wedding.
Depending upon where you live, sometimes you need a year to book the minister, venue, caterer, and band.
There really isn't a good reason to be engaged longer than a year!

Answer 9

I have been engaged 1 year and we will not be getting married untill 12/12/09. It took me 9 months to set a date! As long as you love each other time does not matter. Get married when it feels right not when people say you should.

Answer 10

My fiance and I have been engaged for 2 months and are getting married in 3 months. That's plenty long to wait for us. We're still excited about it but want to get married soon and get on with our lives together instead of waiting.