So um, my boyfriend just came out of the closet last week. Not completely though because only like 10 people at my school know. Considering there's about 700 in it, that's not alot f people. Anyway, when I'm at his house, he'll be all over me and such, not so much like sex,we have but,yeah. Anyway, he's not shy about kissing me at his house or holding my hand but he could walk right past me at school and not say a word, or when I sit by him at lunch he'll act like i'm not there. What do I do?
2007-12-19 03:25:47 · 21 answers · asked by Michael. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He came out of the closet. The relationship is over.
He's ignoring you at school already. Catch the hint.
He's kissing you at his house maybe to fool his parents and siblings.
Move on with your life. You're fighting a losing battle. One you'll never win.
2007-12-19 03:29:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd give him a bit of a chance, he has only jut come out and is probably not comforable with people knowing, as face it, it is still quite a homophobic world, which sucks.
I wouldn't stand for his ignoring you completely though, that is unfair on you when you are supposed to be in a relationship, and it's like he doesn't want people to know he likes you.
Overall, it is quite a confusing matter, considering both of your feelings. I think therefore that if i were in your situation i would try to be understanding for a little while, he is still unsure of his classmates' opinions of him, however, i would probably ask that he at least treat you well while you are at school, even if he isn't yet ready to hold hands or kiss you publicly.
Sorry, i hope i helped a little though.
2007-12-19 03:49:47 · answer #2 · answered by Thylaylii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so I'm going to assume that he's your bf and your gay too, or your his gf and he's bisexual. I'm not sure which. You haven't really clarified.
If it's #1 (your gay too) then maybe he's still a little embarassed and cuz not many people know he wants to keep it that way.
if it's #2 (your his gf) then maybe he really is gay or bisexual and doesn't want to break it off w/you, but doesn't know what to do.
Kind sounds like maybe he's really torn between a rock in a hard place and can't decide.
2007-12-19 03:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by dvnlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can see that he would be uncomfortable socially with this and it may be harder for him to express his feelings in public especially considering he just came out of the closet. I'd just give him time and see how it goes. Right now he'll need your supoort more than anything else. I am sure he loves you this is just a hard time in his life.
2007-12-19 03:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by *~Cam's Mommy ~* 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think So,
He just isn't ready to be physical yet,
Like you said he is just NOW ready toADMIT in public that he is GAY,
He certainly isn't ready to have a make out session in front of everyone that he knows,
Give him time, have patience and offer your support,
Its ok to be in a private relationship.
Yes I know its common for teens to flaunt it, but NOT as common for GAY TEENS to flaunt it,
College aged Gay Kids can flaunt,
It makes most of them more comfortable, because its not around anyone they know intimately or personally,
and similar to being in private ,
Help him to slowly get comfortable with the idea,
Perhaps you could pick some flowers for him, and do a little romancing under teh guise of a secret admirer
everyone likes that,
But it doesn't have to be and in your face thing,
Give him time to adjust at his own pace,
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BESIDES, its not like he is bringing anyone else home to momma, RIGHT.
So relax,
( and you could always try and make him jealous you know,,,,
That always works witht he ladies,
M
2007-12-19 03:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i would quit the sex thing with him, and i would never be comfortable being treated so differently in private and public. if you can stay 'friends' then i say go for it, however, it seems to me that you need to redefine this relationship. will it survive? its up to both of you, seems that its gonna change though and the question really is..whats it changing into and where do you fit in? only you can decide how you allow others to treat you
2007-12-19 03:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by karen w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it could but it won't happen anytime soon. He is just coming out and scared to let people in on who he is. He may still be ashamed of who he is which is normal when you are first coming out. I would find someone that has been out longer or stick with him but realize this may take a while.
2007-12-19 03:30:46 · answer #7 · answered by ecofriendlygirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dump him.
really. why do you want such a weird relationship where he is not truly defined? Its hard but sometimes love is about letting go... specially when you are being kindof mistreated and you are being comprehensive...
2007-12-19 03:29:10 · answer #8 · answered by moonstar33 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All I have to say is your boyfriend came out of the closet! And he pretends he doesn't know you!
What do you need for him to do? Slap you upside the head for you to get it? ~V.
2007-12-19 03:30:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
aw. tell him that hes hurting you, its not fair for him to mess with your emotions like that, and he should realise that its gonna be much better for the both of you if he just comes out with it all together. i know its not easy but its gonna make him a very un happy kid. its better to experience love than hide your true feeelings because your afraid.
i hope i helped you, good luck :)
2007-12-19 03:30:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋