going all the way?

Question

im still stuk wiv my other question bwt weather to go all the way with my bf i am 14 and so is he i hav been wiv him jst over 7n half months n i feel ready and so does he i am on the pill for other reasons and we would use protection plss help me n tell me wat u think
thnkx xxxx

Answer 1

I was 14 my first time. I'm 36 now. I can't really say whether you should, or should not. I can speak only about my own experience, and give you my opinion.
I thought I was ready....thought I was in love. I was on the pill. You know what? I regret it. I wish I had waited till I was older. It would take me days to tell you the reasons why.
You just don't know what you don't know, right now.
Take your time. You have a lot of life ahead of you, and plenty of time.
Please use a condom if you decide to go through with it.
Good luck.

Answer 2

You're 14....

I don't care how long you have been with him you aren't ready. Even if you won't get pregnant or get a disease...you aren't ready.

Sex is more than just an act...it's more than just riding a bike. It's about self respect. It's about self worth. It's about true love.

True love waits. Sex is an intimate act with someone you love. Don't mess it up by making it casual. I've been married 9 years now and not being a virgen bothers me. I sometimes think about other men I've been with and it's ridiculous because my husband is the whom I love. He's very loving and willing to please me. It's a burden I wish I didn't have to carry.

Not to mention that at 14 the likelihood that this is the guy is super, slim to none. After 14 I dated probably 20 or more guys. I lost my virginity at 14. I had to sneak. It was not romantic. And though I did love him...circumstances had it that we would not spend our lives together. And since I had no virginity to lose at after that...it didn't matter. It's embarrassing how many more men I slept with before I met the right man....thank God he had a similar background and did not hold it against me. Because I knew he was the one.

Our wedding night was boring. It was old hat. We had fun at the reception but our wedding night was just boring. Nothing new.

Don't do it. Don't take the chance. It's not worth it.

Your virginity is so special...it can't be given back...save it for the man you marry. When you are married it is the best gift to give to the man you love. You waited just for the right one. You had enough self respect to know that is the one thing that you could give to a man only once. What a special bond.

You really need to concentrate on yourself...your education (your spelling is very bad), your future.

Don't do it. If he really loves you, he will wait.

Answer 3

Well, let's think about this.
Birth control and condoms are not foolproof.
They don't always work. Plenty of women (notice the term women) get pregnant though they used either birth control or condoms. They, as well as their partner, also end up with any number of Sexually Transmitted Diseases.
Read the warning labels on these things.
At 14 are you really ready to deal with either of those things? An ADULT has a shock to deal with when they find out that their protection failed. An ADULT who is financially secure and in a committed relationship....
At 14, do you really think you can or should be worrying about these things?
Simply put, no, you aren't.
I don't have to know you personally to tell you, that at 14 you are not prepared to deal with any of those things.
So wait.
Wait until you are emotionally and financially prepared to deal with any number of the consequences that sex brings.
Ok?
You're still so very young. Enjoy this time. Don't be in such a rush to grow up.

Answer 4

It sounds like you're throwing in the "pills" and "we would use protection" as excuses or reasons why it should be okay. This is difficult but, believe me, at 14 years old neither of you is ready.Sex is like a roller coaster. You wait and wait for it to be your turn and they strap you in( using protection) and you're all wound up and can't wait. Then it slowly takes off and you're straining to see what's ahead when all of a sudden it drops our of sight and you feel a big rush and it's scary and exciting all at the same time and then....it's over. And you find yourself wondering if it was worth putting yourself through all the danger and waiting.. Yeah, it was thrilling. But...now what? You're simply too young. You know even that roller coaster has a pole that says"you must be at least this tall..." Well, doggonit...you're not big enough , Honey. Don't worry, though. One day it'll all be clear and fine. I promise. Ozzie's brain. Merry Christmas.

Answer 5

I got pregnant on the pill when I was 18. I followed the directions stringently and did not miss any doses.

You really should avoid sex until you are willing to accept that it can result in a pregnancy and you are willing and able to accept the consequences of the result.

I am not saying this to be mean, but to be honest. Your spelling, typing and age show me that you are not ready to hold down a job yet. You need your education more than you need to risk the chances of raising a child.

It sounds like you guys need to cool off a bit for a little while.

Answer 6

You'll know your old enough when you can look at your own question and realise everything you put is ridiculous, from your god-awful txt-type, to the content itself.
You are too young to be having sex, 14 is no age to invole yourself in these things, when you should be concentrating on school.
You'll only earn yourself a bad name both with guys (who no doubt your boyfriend will not be able to help telling, cause he's 'getting some' and i'm assuming he is around your age) who could approach you thinking you're easy and girls who think the same.
It really is best to keep your virginity for someone you truly love later in life, if it is this current boyfriend or someone else, they will appriciate you for waiting for them, rather than loosing it just because you can.

Answer 7

Honey, I think you need to grow up a little more. No offense, but what would you do if you got pregnant? I understand that you are on the pill, and you are going to use protection, but things happen. My mom got pregnant with my sister on the pill. What if the condom broke? If you have missed even 1 pill in your birth control, it might not even be as effective. I am 23, and it is hard enough raising my daughter at my age, I can only imagine at 14. You need to worry about staying in school (learning how to spell), and focus on your future a little bit more before you worry about adding sex to your life.

Answer 8

okay ask yourself this--are you ready to die at 14? Are you ready for an STD that condoms won't stop? They don't tell you about those in health class....do you like the though of genital warts? Do you know how they remove warts? 1 in 5 people carry the virus that will cause genital warts and they don't even have to have any....they just carry the virus.
All you need to spread the warts is skin-to-skin contact...condoms won't stop that.
Now if that doesn't stop you...just think of this:
the virus that causes HIV/aids is 50 times smaller than a sperm head. When they test condoms they base their failure statistacs on reported pregnancies while using a condom; that means that in 5% of condoms there are holes small enough to let a sperm through...they don't test for how many more will let the virus thru--but we know at least 5% would.
Do you REALLY want to take that chance?

Answer 9

The overwhelming answer to your question shows that you should wait. Your hormones are so active I know but listen to that gentle voice telling you not to do it. It is yours keep and give it when you are really in love. Try to talk to your mom or favorite auntie or mom;s freind or female teacher, school nurse etc. They will tell you a lot on an interpersonal level about sex. Goodluck

Answer 10

You are way too young and only have been w/ your bf 7 months- way too soon to give up the gold. You should treasure your virginity because when you are old enough (someone you think you may want to marry) you will save it for the right one- plus men think of it almost like going after the holy grail!