Is it better for your fiance to go out and buy your engagement ring or should you go with him?

Question

My fiance doesn't have the best taste in jewelry...so I'm a little skeptical when it comes to him shopping for one on his own.

Do most guys nowadays go with their fiance?

If they do...wouldn't that blow the proposal?

Thanks!!

Answer 1

My fiance asked me about what I like and don't like so that he would have a good idea of what to get me. It's totally up to the two of you as far as what you're comfortable with. If you're worried about it, you could always pick out the ring together and then let him plan a special proposal anyway. It wouldn't be as much of a surprise, but you would still have the nice memory and a ring that you love.

Answer 2

You don't need to buy a new set (which is 2 new rings). You could do what I am doing - move the engagement ring to your right hand (or another finger on the left hand) and just wear a wedding band on your left hand ring finger. I have a uniquely shaped engagement ring and we don't have the money to spend on a custom made band right now so I found a very pretty & rather fancy but affordably priced wedding band to wear. My fiance is happy, I am happy, and it doesn't break the bank.

Answer 3

Hi May,

You said that he's your fiance, so does that mean he's already asked you to marry him? In that case, if he hasn't bought you a ring yet, you're in a great position to "help him out" by showing him what you like. Chances are the poor guy has no idea what to buy, and wants to make sure he doesn't get the wrong ring and disappoint you.

Whether or not he's popped the questions, you can start your search on-line, by looking at http://www.engagementringtoday.com for ideas on what you like. Then do a little window shopping together and show him what you like. Chances are he'll surprise you with the perfect ring!

Best of luck,

Lynn

Answer 4

I went with my fiance. He told me he was waiting to propose until he could buy some incredible ring. Well, I am the bargain shopper and money manager between the two of us and it took me shopping around and showing him the kind of ring that I like to make him understand that what he had in mind was not at all what I wanted (size-wise or price-wise). So we picked it out together and got a great deal on it. He ordered it but he is planning the proposal. I know it will be New Year's Eve but I don't know how he is going to do it or anything. That part is his.

Answer 5

My husband and I decided to get married, and within a week or two after that we went to the jewelry store and I picked out a ring I liked. I would never ever want him to choose a ring for me, he wouldn't know where to start. I had a very good idea on what kind of ring I wanted, and we found exactly what I was looking for.

That said, I'm a practical person, and I usually place more value on getting something I like and that I can use than on the "surprise" factor. "Surprise" gifts are very often useless. But a lot of people would rather have a surprise. So it kind of depends on you, and what you prefer. It may be that the sentimental value of a ring that your fiancé had chosen himself (even if it wasn't somethig that you would have chosen) would be greater for you than if it was something you have picked out yourself.

Answer 6

Before he checks out the jewelry stores have him check out Blue Nile.com. They have a section in learning how to choose a good diamond with a good setting.

Sit down with him and look over the website and you will be able to show him what you would like as an engagement ring.

There is a huge mark-up on jewelry so you both need to be careful because it is not only a personal investment in time it is also an investment financially.

Did you ever see the movie "Moonstruck"? I think the character "Cher" portrays is correct, you need to be in a public place with friends, he has to have a ring,he has to get on a knee to propose otherwise it is bad luck.

Answer 7

My fiance took me ring shopping about six months before he actually proposed. He got a good sense of what I like and what size of diamond and setting looks best on my finger. He amazed me picking the setting I fell in love with!!

My friend hinted at what she liked by printing out various settings and leaving them around her man's apartment. That way he knew the style she liked but it was still up to him what he would actually pick.

Answer 8

It depends on the couple. Some are perfectly happy going ring shopping together, others want the ring to be a surprise. If you are concerned about your fiance's taste in jewelery, take him shopping and show him the styles you like. Or you can build your 'dream' ring online and email it to him. It'll help to guide his decision.

Answer 9

I think the best of both worlds would be for you to show him what style of rings you like best, but then leave it up to him to make the final decision. I would have never thought my fiance would have done such a great job in picking out my ring, but he chose the perfect ring for me. He knows my taste & he told me later he just took his time looking for the right one. I am so thrilled that he picked it out himself, it makes it so much more special.

Just get your man headed in the right direction & then have a little faith- he may just surprise you.

Answer 10

I went with my guy and I'm glad I did. I got exactly exactly what I wanted! I even changed my mind once I started looking so I was glad I went :) It was a fun experience the only odd thing is that I know how much the ring costs. I was okay with it though that way I could decide on the best value.