my b/f owns his own business...he works his a$$ off...and lately he's gotten into a slump of sorts i guess....whe feels like everything he touches...turns to crap...he deals with so much stress and his family doesnt help, they hound him about everything and the stress is wearing him down...he called me today and sounded really really down and just hopeless..i tell him that i am here for hima nd that ANYTHING i can do to help him and take away some of his stress ill do it...i want to take it away for him and make him feel better but i feel like i cant....is there anything i can do to help him with his stress....?
2007-12-19 02:41:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thank you for al of your advice...everything he touches doesnt turn to crap lol he just feels that way..he is amazing at what he does and i tell him all the time that im proud of him...money is always a huge factor and i tell him that you have toi go through rough times to get to the good and i dont care about the money...i just want him to be healthy and happy...
2007-12-19 02:54:26 · update #1
Just be there for him. Let him know that you are on his side, that you have confidence in him as a person. Most of all, show him that you will be there regardless of what crap happens to him in the rest of his life.
Do NOT try to to "make it better." You almost certainly can't do that, and besides, he probably feels pretty powerless in his life right now. So he doesn't want anyone else to make things better *for* him. Just be there at his side.
I think your guy is pretty lucky--whether he realizes it yet or not--that he has a girlfriend like you. Good luck to both of you!!
2007-12-19 02:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its going to sound like an old-fashioned answer but by simply being there for him I think he would appreciate that more than by asking him to open upto you. He's obviously well aware that he's not doing so well, so by not sharing the problem with you he's not feeling like he's let you down. Reassure him you'll be there for him no matter what and that (if you do), you love him and care for him. If he needs anything from you you can provide it. In time he will come to realise what he has in you. The thing is, its his internal conflict and the majority of men become very self-involved when something major happens. Unfortunately us women just have to put up with them disappearing from the radar for a while to deal with it themselves. In time, I think he will be ok if you're just there for him. Don't pressure him into sharing or that may just aggrevate the situation. Good luck.
2007-12-19 10:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by afterbirth07 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pamper him without getting yourself stressed by running around like a headless chicken. Get a few drinks in, and have a chat - let him tell you his problems and see if you can come up with ways of resolving stress levels. I think it may help if he just talks to you - and gets it all of his shoulders. Honestly, get a bottle of wine, prepare a nice meal, make the house feel relaxing and get into coversation. Hope you both can de-stress for Christmas. x
2007-12-19 10:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by Mummy2ThreeBabies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you both have a bit of free time try to go somewhere out in the country with fresh air etc. Or try going both to take up yoga once a while believe me it`ll work.It always does.He needs to relax and if he doesnt soon he`ll start breaking out on you and trust me you dont want that to happen
2007-12-19 10:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if there is something you can help him with at the business. Just show up there otherwise he won't let you. Can you do books, answer the phone, pass wrenches, whatever it is will help. You could also just show up with a lunch for him or something nice. Give him a massage when he gets home. If all else fails tell him to see a doctor for antidepressants.
2007-12-19 10:46:07 · answer #5 · answered by calendargirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't let him touch anything! It'll turn to crap!
Let him know you are there for him (which you have done ... told him in any case).
Let him know you love him no matter what.
Go visit him. Give him big hugs and cuddles and smooches ... and see if he wants more. If he wants more then that's a great way to help him feel better.
Also see if you can give him a back rub!
However, be sensitive to the type of response where he might just want to be left alone. If he's this kind of guy, then leave him be - let him know that you love him again ... and give him time. He'll call you again when he's ready to be sociable.
2007-12-19 10:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
take things out.........take the advice of a psychatrist if necessary...find out whats wrong....give him a surprise party or just go for a long drive together..........speak to him and find out if hes having any problem in work and if yes....convince him that worrying over it is not gonna help find some solution....and quick!!!!!!
2007-12-19 10:47:26 · answer #7 · answered by mystic devil 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be there for him to vent. try to do something fun with him so that will ease some stress, maybe cook him dinner or take him to a movie or something he enjoys.
2007-12-19 10:46:16 · answer #8 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Just be there for him.. Be his shoulder to lean on... I think thats the best thing for you do.
2007-12-19 10:46:21 · answer #9 · answered by Johnny Pumps 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a stress free weekend away........spa always helps!
2007-12-19 10:45:56 · answer #10 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋