What does this dream mean??

Question

We were all at my Mother n law's for Christmas. My husband wasn't there yet. Things were going wrong. I forgot to put the turkey in and there was no breakfast etc. THEN I invited this big black guy over to the house. We were making out on the couch "and stuff". RIght on the couch in front of everyone! They didn't say anything though. THen my husband showed up. I hurriedly pushed the guy out of the back door. When my husband came in I just pretended nothing was wrong but he could tell something was up. What does it mean?? I have a recurring dream like this a lot. Its not the same but I'll be cheating on my husband and he comes in right after its over and I lie about it! Usually I can tell that he knows whats going on. Sometimes he calls me out sometimes he doesn't. We haven't always had the best relationship but now we do. I LOVE my husband and will never cheat on him! What the heck does it all mean?????????

Answer 1

Your dreams are a representation of what you are feeling while you are awake. You are terrified of making a mistake that will cost you the harmony you have in your relationship now. It's like you are waiting for the other shoe to drop. You're not relaxed in the relationship and feel like you're walking on eggshells. Your fear of making a mistake is represented in your dreams by the lack of turkey or breakfast and by the inappropriate attitude with the stranger. You feel in your life that you are making mistakes left and right, sometimes your husband calls you on it, sometimes he lets them slide. You find yourself wanting to make excuses (lying about the affairs in your dreams) for your perceived mistakes.

Answer 2

Dreams are metaphors. Your unconscious keeps telling you that you are "cheating" on your husband. It doesn't have to be sexual, although that's the imagery you use in the dream. It could be you are dishonest or hiding your true self in some other way(s). You know what that could be. And if he knew how you were withholding information or some aspect of who you really are, he was be AS outraged as if you were cheating on him sexually.

Alternatively, your husband in your dream may represent someone else -- some other significant figure or even your job. Applying that idea, how are you "cheating" in some significant area of your life? In your dream, you're doing this openly and no one seems to care. Do you have an addiction or some other obviously problematic behavior that others overlook?

You'll know IN YOUR BODY if this resonates for you. Ultimately, you are the only one who can interpret your dreams. When you have a recurrent dream, pay attention to when you have it since it's related to events of the preceeding day.

Answer 3

It kind of sounds like you put your needs on the back burner in order to meet family obligations, and they don't actually notice that you have needs too. It kind of sounds like you have concerns over what would happen if you let them take care of themselves once in awhile, the weight of the nurturing is on you, to take care of the food, etc, even though you are at someone else's house. Even though you are acting out "stuff" in front of everyone, I don't think the needs this dream is pointing to are necessarily of a sexual nature. I do feel that perhaps when your husband tries to check in on you, and asks how you are doing, and tries to find out if you are ok, maybe you just tell him that every thing's fine, when you need to tell him about something you need, if it is more time together, or more intimacy, or more time to yourself, or whatever, and not feel guilty about having wants and desires of your own that need to be tended from time to time........ Your husband may be aware if something is bothering you, but clueless to help if you hide from him what you really need, and do what you think he wants from you all the time.....

Answer 4

You have an innate desire to err. That much is for sure. And, you do not mind what your mother in law and others around would think about you when you do that. You feel that only your husband is between you and that erring part. But for him, you would feel free to do that. But, you would not want to do that right now and lose a good life you have with your husband as your companion now.

Answer 5

Your subconscience is likely animating a (desirable) scenario that your conscience is probably incapable of acting upon. Be careful, the fact that you're getting away with it in your dreams (although arousing suspicion) may trick your conscience into believing you can get away with it in real life. Try to make a mental list of the voids that your dream lover is fulfilling, and use that list to patch your real relationship. The dreams will stop.

Answer 6

mabye it means that you are worried about doing the wrong thing in your marrige. dont worry!!!!